Sharon's husband is a high ranking officer on an American military base in Europe. She has endured his abuse for years, afraid to do anything about it due to his powerful position and his access to weapons, something he reminds her about all the time.
Sharon explained in her emails to us that she does not think anyone would believe her. Her husband is well respected and everyone thinks she has a wonderful life. She had no one to talk to or confide in.
We communicated with Sharon about her options, safety planned and helped her recover some self-esteem. Sharon slowly gained confidence, stopped blaming herself for the abuse and decided to leave Europe and come back to the USA. She did not tell her husband she was leaving as she knew that he would go into a rage.
Sharon is back in the USA and staying with her sister. Her husband is begging her to return to Europe but she told us that with the help of Pathways, and counseling, she has regained her "old self" back. She does not want to live with abuse any more.
You make it possible for us to continue to help American victims of military family violence abroad like Sharon.
Tisha loves her career as a military nurse and adores living in the UK. But few people know that Tisha is a victim of domestic violence, struggling from day to day just to keep safe from an angry, violent husband.
In front of other people her husband is charming and successful. At home he is jealous, demanding, insulting and mean. He doesn't leave bruises on her face, neck or arms, hiding the evidence of his abuse from the sight of others.
Tisha has begged him to go to marriage counseling and anger management therapy but he refuses, denying he has a problem and says Tisha is to blame.
For several months Tisha has been emailing with our crisis email advocate Meg. Meg has been able to provide ongoing emotional support, safety planning and other guidance to Tisha.
Tisha decided to leave her husband and get her daughter Silvie away from her abusive stepfather. Tisha asked to be transferred to another post. She was able to do this quickly without raising suspicion.
While Tisha is still struggling emotionally with her decision, and still has to file for divorce, she is in counseling and relieved she and Silvie are safe and at peace.
Without donors like you we would not be able to provide ongoing, critical support to victims in crisis.
Ella loved living abroad with her military husband as an accompanied spouse, at least at first. She started a vlog to share with family and friends back home. She explored the culture, food, customs and idioms of the country with delight.
She had always been independent and enjoyed her autonomy. After about one year things began to change. Her husband began accusing her of having affairs and she had to report to him where she was and who she saw. He would randomly facetime her to make sure she was where she said she was.
Then the insults and demeaning started. Since he didn't hit her, Ella wasn't sure that his behavior qualified as abuse. But she felt awful, stopped doing her vlog, stopped seeing her friends and stayed at home. Still, he continued to be disrespectful and continued insulting her.
When Ella emailed our crisis advocate she was at a loss. She loved her husband but could not tolerate being treated so badly. She suggested they go to counseling but he refused.
After several months communicating via email with our crisis advocate, Ella decided to return home to the USA. She still has hope her husband will get counseling.
Ella is very grateful that she had someone she could communicate with confidentially to help her with such a difficult decision.
It's your donations that make it possible to help American military victims of violence get the help they need to make informed decisions about their lives.
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