Help Stop Military Family Violence

Darby has been trying to make her marriage work for years. As a military spouse she didn't want to see her husband lose his job. But the violence just kept getting worse and worse.

She called us from Bahrain asking us what her options are. We worked with Darby over the course of a couple of months. She asked her husband to go to counseling but he refused.

Darby felt she had no option but to flee Bahrain and go back to the USA. Darby is home now and grateful for your support. Here is part of an email she sent.

"I wished things were different. I still care for my husband very much. I hope one day he gets the help he needs."

Thank you for helping Darby!

When Troy called us he said he felt embarrased to be calling for help as an abused man in the military. His wife, also a military member, had been verbally abusive for years. He tried to continue to make things work for the sake of their daughter.

Troy didn't know what to do. His wife was now insulting and calling their daughter names. Recently, when his wife became angry she would throw things at thim. She also drank excessively several nights per week which made things worse.

One of our case managers worked with Troy for several months exploring his options. Troy finally told his wife that she either had to agree to anger management counseling and addiction recovery or he would file for divorce and custody of their daughter.

His wife agreed. We don't know yet what the outcome will be for Troy, but because of donors like you, Troy understands what he needs to do to keep himself and his daugher safe.

Thank you for helping stop violence in military families!

Pathways and the military have developed a win-win collaboration over the years. Victims of family violence are able to access services through Pathways and services through the military, offering the best possible outcome for survivors and their children.

This year we have co-case managed more cases with the military then ever before. Our areas of greatest need are train and bus tickets for victims as well as emergency hotel stays for victims to stay safe while we research the best possible, longer term options to escape violence.

We created two microprojects to help victims in 2019 with these basic needs.

https://www.globalgiving.org/microprojects/emergency-hotel-rooms-for-victims-escaping-violenc/

https://www.globalgiving.org/dy/v2/pe/project-edit/edit-page-1.html?project.projId=36165

We hope you will consider donating to these projects this giving season.

Thank you for all you do to help victims of military family violence!

Brenna accompanied her military husband to Germany last year. She was excited to be based in Europe and looked forward to a new start. Her husband had become verbally abusive on several occasions. He told her he was under stress and once they moved to Germany everything would be better.

Instead of getting better, things got worse. Her husband would come home drunk, insult her and accuse her of having affairs. When he hit her one night, she realized she needed to get out of Germany and come home to the USA.

Brenna called Pathways to see what her options were. She worked with one of our case managers for several weeks before we were able to relocate her back to the USA and away from the escalating abuse from her husband.

Brenna is doing well. She has filed for divorce. Brenna is sad that her marriage did not work out but she is hopeful for a better future.

Thank you for helping battered Military spouses like Brenna!

The Pathways Team.

We truly appreciate your support for our project Help Stop Military Family Violence.

We wanted to let you know that we have changed the name of the organization from the Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center to Pathways To Safety International.

We feel the new name better reflects the work we do to help American victims of interpersonal and gender based violence abroad. Each military victim we serve journeys a different path to get to safety at home in the USA or at a safe place abroad.

As a donor to this project, you help military victims escape violent, and often, potentially lethal situations.

Thank you so much for your support and your belief in our mission!