Help Stop Military Family Violence

by Pathways to Safety International
Help Stop Military Family Violence

When Riley began emailing Pathways she was distraught and afraid. She loved her husband but his abuse had become unbearable. Riley's husband was in the military in Europe and she was an accompanying spouse.

Her husband, charming and well respected in the military community, was sullen and moody at home. He would get angry with Riley and slap her if dinner was a few minutes late or if she didn't put his clothes away according to his expectations. One night, when she tried to stand up for herself, he strangled her. Riley didn't want to get her husband in trouble but she was beginning to fear for her life.

Working over email a Pathways advocate was able to present Riley with the possible options were for both military and non-military resources and interventions so Riley could make an informed decision about her husband.

When Riley decided to secretly return to th USA without telling her husband, our advocate helped Riley with a safey and logistics plan to ensure she got home safely.

Without your support, our email advocates would not be available to provide the information and resources necessary so victims can make informed decisions about escaping abuse.

Thank you! The Pathways Team

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When Fiona emailed Pathways she didn't know what to do. She loved her husband but he was so abusive. He insulted her, called her names, accused her of having affairs. He often threatened violence but hadn't actually hit her. He told her he could kill her and make her "disappear" without a trace.

Fiona and her husband were both in the military. She didn't want him to lose his job if she reported him but she couldn't go on the way things were. Fiona said she lived in fear all the time.

A Pathways' advocate was able to provide Fiona with possible options and outcomes to help her make a decision.

Fiona is currently back in the USA on leave and is seeking both counseling and legal help. Without donors like you Pathways' advocates would not be able to provide email support to American military victims in need.

Thank you!

Paula Lucas


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Lucinda is a civilian spouse of a US military officer overseas. She and her son Carter live in fear of her husband on a daily basis. Lucinda has tried to make the marriage work for years but she does not want Carter to grow up in an abusive home.

The pandemic has created even more obstacles escaping abuse and returning home for American domestic violence victims abroad. Our crisis email has been a lifeline for Lucinda as she navigated a very complicated escape back home to safety with the help of our crisis email advocate.

Without donors like you, we would not have the staff available to assist American victims in their time of need. We truly appreciate your support of our mission.

We hope you and your family are safe and well.

The Pathways' Team

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Without a doubt, 2020 has been a challenging year for all of us. The pandemic has changed the way we work, how we live, how our children go to school, kept us in isolation and often plunged us into financial hardship.

For abused military spouses and children that are on accompanying bases, abuse has increased an estimated three-fold. Providing support is difficult with the majority of support being conducted via email.

Despite all the obstacles, because of donations like yours, we have still had some good outcomes this year. Pathways advocates are still available via email and we have successfully assisted victims with safety planning, resources and logistics to be able to remove themselves from the abuse. But most are still  suffering at home, and we will continue to do what we can to support them.

With covid vaccines on the horizon we are expecting a surge of victims seeking assistance in the coming months.

We hope you will consider another donation before the end of the year to provide funds to meet the coming surge in 2021. And if not, we understand. This year has been hard on everyone.

Thank you and we wish you and your families happiness, health and prosperity as we enter a New Year.

The Pathways' Team

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Hannah emailed our crisis email last month. She was afraid and confused. She is overseas with her husband who is in the military.

He is verbally abusive to her, calling her names, insulting her and throwing things at her. She doesn't want to report him but she can't continue the way things are.

We have been helping Hannah navigate her challenging situation. Confronting him may increase the violence.

Hannah decided to leave and come back to the USA for safety. She left her husband a note explaining why she left.

Since arriving back to the USA her husband has said he was sorry and has agreed to go to anger management. Hannah isn't sure what is next but she truly appreciates Pathways for helping her understand what her options were to be safe and try to keep her marriage in tact.

Without donors like you we would not be available to help women like Hannah. Thank you.

The Pathways Team

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Pathways to Safety International

Location: Portland, OR - USA
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Project Leader:
Paula Lucas
Portland, OR United States
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