For the 3 months December – February 2017, there have been:
133 phonecalls including:
13 cases that required Medical help
20 cases of verbal harassment
17 cases of domestic abuse
Medical payments have been made in the following cases:
Kidney dialysis – 14787 rupees
TB treatment – 20896 rupees
Skin problems – 334 rupees
Diabetes – 1609 rupees
Liver complaint – 325 rupees
Eye testing – 1000 rupees
Operation on gland – 15000 rupees
Respiratory problems – 2205 rupees
A 29 year old woman, G, from Jodhpur – Domestic Violence
G phoned from an area outside Jodhpur and was asked to meet Sambhali’s counsellor in Sambhali Trust offices. She came with her father to tell her story. She had been married for the last 6 years. She has an MA in English but her husband was only educated up to the 8th standard (about 14 years old). They had an arranged marriage and got engaged when they were very young in their childhood. Their relationship was not very good from the start and her husband began ill-treating her and harassing her both mentally and physically. This increased over time until it became intolerable and she decided to live separately from her husband. When she was leaving for her father’s home, her husband snatched her son and so the daughter arrived at her father’s house with only her daughter. G wants her son back; she wants to earn her own living and bring up both her children herself.
After listening to her story the counsellor called her husband, but he refused to give back their son to G. So it was suggested she go to the Police Commissioner’s office to try and obtain custody of the child. Sambhali’s counsellor went with the G and her father and the Police Commissioner ordered that the Police station in her area to deal with this case and take action to obtain custody for her son. Sambhali Trust helped in this case for G to go and meet a higher authority of police which meant her voice was heard and that action could be taken.
A 20 year old woman, S from Jodhpur – Verbal Harassment
S is a student studying for her BA in her first year. She was in contact with a boy, (the cousin of a friend) and was in a relationship for a year. However, 2 months ago she became engaged to a boy from her own caste, (through arranged marriage) so ended the relationship with her previous boyfriend, but he didn’t want to finish it. He was then threatening to tell her family members about their relationship. S phoned Sambhali for advice. The counsellor advised her to talk to her mother about the whole story, which she did do and now her mother is ready to talk to the boy herself.
23 year old woman, D, from Barmer – Verbal Harassment
D was married for 2 years and stayed with her in-laws. They were torturing her and her mother-in-law had threatened that she would get her son R, (S’s husband), remarried to another girl, because D was unable to conceive. For the last 2 years D felt very alone because her husband is staying far away. She is working in a government job but was very depressed. She gave her husband’s telephone number to the counsellor, who spoke to D’s husband. He was suggested to take care of his wife and take her to the doctor for a necessary check-up and to suggest medical help. He assured Sambhali that he would talk to his mother to stop her verbally abusing his wife and take care of her.
23 year old woman from Balotra – harassment
Mr S called to say that he wanted to marry a particular woman. Her parents agreed to the marriage but the woman’s grandfather and uncle were against it, because it was an inter-caste marriage. They threatened to beat the couple, so S phoned to ask for advice. Sambhali suggested filing a police complaint to the police station against the family members by her parents and to also request police protection during the marriage ceremonies. He was advised to seek the advice of an advocate if this issue continued.
30 year old woman, P from Haryana State – Domestic violence and verbal harassment
A lady called R, called from the state of Haryana (adjacent to Rajasthan) and said her sister, P, was staying with her. P is a dentist, and R said that her brother-in-law is ill-treating P. He is not allowing her to talk to anybody and has even taken away her cellphone. P told her sister all about this through her neighbour’s cellphone. Now R is worried about the condition of her sister, because she is pregnant. R called many times to her sister’s husband, but he never answered any of her calls.
Sambhali spoke directly to P’s husband, giving the reference of the Nirbhaya Women’s Helpline and then he talked to her about the situation. He said that he was from a village family and wanted to stay with his family in the village, but his wife was more educated and came from the metro city of Hyderabad. He said that she is having problems settling down into village life. After marriage they have been having some disputes. Sambhali counselled him and told him that he should try and solve their disputes mutually. Sambhali’s counsellor then spoke to P. on the same phone and suggested to her to bring some changes in her lifestyle as she thought her husband was a very good person and told her that they should spend some quality time with each other and try and solve their problems mutually. After counselling, P was much more relaxed. Finally, Sambhali phoned R, to let her know about the condition of her sister, P, and that P is keeping well and her husband was taking care of her.