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Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India

by Sambhali Trust
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India

SOS Update

For the 3 months December – February 2017, there have been:

133 phonecalls including:

13 cases that required Medical help

20 cases of verbal harassment

17 cases of domestic abuse

 

Medical payments have been made in the following cases:

Kidney dialysis – 14787 rupees

TB treatment – 20896 rupees

Skin problems – 334 rupees

Diabetes – 1609 rupees

Liver complaint – 325 rupees

Eye testing – 1000 rupees

Operation on gland – 15000 rupees

Respiratory problems – 2205 rupees

 

Case Stories

 A 29 year old woman, G, from Jodhpur – Domestic Violence

G phoned from an area outside Jodhpur and was asked to meet Sambhali’s counsellor in Sambhali Trust offices. She came with her father to tell her story. She had been married for the last 6 years. She has an MA in English but her husband was only educated up to the 8th standard (about 14 years old). They had an arranged marriage and got engaged when they were very young in their childhood. Their relationship was not very good from the start and her husband began ill-treating her and harassing her both mentally and physically. This increased over time until it became intolerable and she decided to live separately from her husband. When she was leaving for her father’s home, her husband snatched her son and so the daughter arrived at her father’s house with only her daughter. G wants her son back; she wants to earn her own living and bring up both her children herself.

After listening to her story the counsellor called her husband, but he refused to give back their son to G. So it was suggested she go to the Police Commissioner’s office to try and obtain custody of the child. Sambhali’s counsellor went with the G and her father and the Police Commissioner ordered that the Police station in her area to deal with this case and take action to obtain custody for her son. Sambhali Trust helped in this case for G to go and meet a higher authority of police which meant her voice was heard and that action could be taken.

 A 20 year old woman, S from Jodhpur – Verbal Harassment

S is a student studying for her BA in her first year. She was in contact with a boy, (the cousin of a friend) and was in a relationship for a year. However, 2 months ago she became engaged to a boy from her own caste, (through arranged marriage) so ended the relationship with her previous boyfriend, but he didn’t want to finish it. He was then threatening to tell her family members about their relationship. S phoned Sambhali for advice. The counsellor advised her to talk to her mother about the whole story, which she did do and now her mother is ready to talk to the boy herself.

 23 year old woman, D, from Barmer – Verbal Harassment

D was married for 2 years and stayed with her in-laws. They were torturing her and her mother-in-law had threatened that she would get her son R, (S’s husband), remarried to another girl, because D was unable to conceive. For the last 2 years D felt very alone because her husband is staying far away. She is working in a government job but was very depressed. She gave her husband’s telephone number to the counsellor, who spoke to D’s husband. He was suggested to take care of his wife and take her to the doctor for a necessary check-up and to suggest medical help. He assured Sambhali that he would talk to his mother to stop her verbally abusing his wife and take care of her.

 23 year old woman from Balotra –  harassment

Mr S called to say that he wanted to marry  a particular woman. Her parents agreed to the marriage but the woman’s grandfather and uncle were against it, because it was an inter-caste marriage. They threatened to beat the couple, so S phoned to ask for advice. Sambhali suggested filing a police complaint to the police station against the family members by her parents and to also request police protection during the marriage ceremonies. He was advised to seek the advice of an advocate if this issue continued.

 30 year old woman, P from Haryana State – Domestic violence and verbal harassment

A lady called R, called from the state of Haryana (adjacent to Rajasthan) and said her sister, P, was staying with her. P is a dentist, and R said that her brother-in-law is ill-treating P. He is not allowing her to talk to anybody and has even taken away her cellphone. P told her sister all about this through her neighbour’s cellphone. Now R is worried about the condition of her sister, because she is pregnant. R called many times to her sister’s husband, but he never answered any of her calls.

Sambhali spoke directly to P’s husband, giving the reference of the Nirbhaya Women’s Helpline and then he talked to her about the situation. He said that he was from a village family and wanted to stay with his family in the village, but his wife was more educated and came from the metro city of Hyderabad. He said that she is having problems settling down into village life. After marriage they have been having some disputes. Sambhali counselled him and told him that he should try and solve their disputes mutually. Sambhali’s counsellor then spoke to P. on the same phone and suggested to her to bring some changes in her lifestyle as she thought her husband was a very good person and told her that they should spend some quality time with each other and try and solve their problems mutually. After counselling, P was much more relaxed. Finally, Sambhali phoned R, to let her know about the condition of her sister, P, and that P is keeping well and her husband was taking care of her.

From September-November 2016

Total telephone calls: 80

Total cases: 49 of which:

20 Domestic Abuse

2 Forced Marriages

15 Verbal Abuse

10 Medical cases

4 Sexual Abuse cases

1 Legal case

1 Other

 Phonecalls to the Toll-free Nirbhaya HelpLine that Sambhali Trust runs, come from far and wide across India- from Delhi in the north to Mumbai in the south. This shows the reach that this HelpLine has and it's necessity for the women who call. Because of the large distances involved in India and even within the state of Rajasthan, it is impossible to always see the women in person, so in these cases the women are given the numbers of women police station or authorities that will help them in their local area. Sambhali Trust has a dedicated member of staff who takes the calls and who is able to counsel the caller on the line and offer her the best advice and course of action. 

These are just a few of the stories of the women whom Sambhali helped in the last 3 months.

Case stories

1. An 18 year old girl from Bhilwara called to complain about her father who wants her to get married to a man twice her age because in return, the man’s sister would marry the girl’s uncle. However, the mother of the proposed groom and also the man himself refused which led to the father repeatedly beating the girl and verbally abusing her.

After discussions with Sambhali friends close to the girl have suggested to lodge a complaint against her father to stop torturing her

2. A 28 year old young woman from Nagori Gate in Jodhpur called to say that she had tried to commit suicide but her father saved her. She is very upset with her mother-in-law who uses abusive language towards her and no-one lets her out of the house. When she tells her father, he scolds her. She is educated and wants to get a job and have a better life.

Sambhali called her husband and told him everything. The young woman came with her father to Sambhali Trust to discuss the situation. It was decided that until the time her mother-in-law could behave better towards her, then she would stay with her parents. The husband would call his sister to make the mother understand and he promises to make things better.

 3. A 40 year old woman from Delhi called about her sister who lives in Kota and unfortunately is infertile. She and her husband adopted a girl child but the sister-in-law came to her house and beat her and even the little young girl a lot. There is a dispute about the property and whose name it should be in. The sister-in-law threatened to kill them if they informed the police.

Sambhali suggested to ignore the threats and inform the female police station in Kota.

 4. A woman called from her village in Rajasthan to say that her husband is drinking a lot and beating her. She has been suffering from domestic violence for the last 5 years and now feels she wants to complain.

 Sambhali suggested that she made a complaint to the nearest female police station to their village so that they can go and talk to the husband.

 5. A 32 year old woman, N,  from Kota in Rajasthan called to say that she was very depressed in her married life because her husband is not caring towards her; her in-laws’ family is very orthodox and her father-in-law verbally abuses her. She has decided to live separately to her husband, but found she still wasn’t happy and so decided to approach Sambhali Trust to ask for counselling.  When N. called Sambhali, a member of the Sambhali team counselled her about her problems she was having and suggested having more trust and communication with her husband. The staff member called N’s husband and told him that N. had rung asking for help, the issues that troubled her, about her mental state and how she is feeling very alone as her parents are also not talking to her; there was nobody that she could talk to or trust. Sambhali encouraged N’s husband to try and talk to her, give her some quality time and discuss what matters to her so that she feels he understands her and is supporting her. He promised to do this and two days later he called back to say that some good changes have happened after this counselling.

Here are various case stories from the last 3 months illustrating some of the women that call our HelpLine and the issues that affect them.

GD age 49, Nagore/ Kuchaman city 

“I was married at the age of 17 yrs. I did a nursing course and my husband obtained a BA but he did not work anywhere. I wanted to study further and get a job but he did not allow me to. I tried to talk with my parents but they also said that I had to follow what my in-laws were saying. They have also stopped me from everything. My husband is always suspicious with me and does not let me out of the house”.

 Sambhali took her husband and in-law telephone numbers so we could talk with them about G and explain to them that she should be given a chance to progress in life. We also registered a complaint in the nearby female police station. We tried to convince her husband. He explained that there is no need that she works, but we said it is not only about financial independence but about her personal growth as well. So he promised to support her.

 

 PP Age 21 yrs, Madhav harijan Basti

 P`s husband hit her many times and had thrown her out of their house. She registered a complaint at the police station but no action was taken. P’s husband and sister-in-law came to her mother`s place and started abusing her and tried to burn her with acid. Both mother and daughter rushed to nearest police station and registered complaint but they did not write the correct situation and no action was taken for 4-5 days. P came to Samhali and told us the whole matter. Our Sambhali staff went to the police station and requested to re-write the complaint with the exact details. Her husband was arrested in 2-3 days and we registered a case of domestic violence and that he tried to kill her. Court appointment and a mediator who counselled them made them agree to live together. The expenses were taken care by Sambhali.

 

R. Age 22 years, Bharatpur, Rajasthan

R contacted Sambhali through the Nirbhaya Helpline and told us that one stranger is making calls on her cell phone continuously for the last two – three days and is continuously using vague words for her. She warned that person to not to repeat such activity again but the other person was constantly calling and disturbing her. She called us to ask what steps she needed to take and she also suggested that we should return the call and warn the culprit that a police case will be filed against him.

When this case came to our knowledge, we instantly called that person and warned him that police proceedings can be initiated against him if he was found to commit this mistake again. We were then constantly in touch with R for the next two to three days and then R told us that they are not receiving such calls again.

  

J  Aged 35 years  Bhagat Ki Kothi, Jodhpur, Rajasthan

 We received a call from a woman about J who works as a maid in her house. Miss A. told us that J was displaced out of her own house along with her three children because of a fight that happened between her husband, mother-in-law & her sister-in-law. She reported that when her husband gets drunk frequently he beats her & then her mother-in-law and sister-in-law often get involved in the argument. J lives in her husband’s house but in a separate room which she herself created by taking out a loan. This is the reason that she can’t afford to live in another house. She works as a maid in three houses and through these earnings she repays the loan. She was very much afraid of going home after this incident and she also had a thought of suicide in her mind.

After receiving the call we called the J to the office & took a note of the matter. After that her husband & brother-in-law were also called to the office to which they did not give any response. Then we went to Women Police Station in Ratanada and reported the whole matter to them. Then we went to the J’s house along with the members of the Women Police Station and also with the Police Officers of the area in which there was jurisdiction. Then the order of “Restriction” was issued in which it was instructed that no one will use any violent methods against J & also allow her to enter to the house freely. J. was also advised to not to get into any violent arguments that can lead to a violent outcome. After that we followed up the situation for next two days, in which wecalled the local Police Officer in the same evening and instructed him to visit the place of the incident & the Police Officer reported that everything was normal & peaceful.

 

P. Aged 28 years, Jodhpur, Rajasthan

P. was a student of nursing, and was called to Jodhpur one and half years ago from Koth Putali, Jaipur, as per the influence and guidance of a police constable of Jodhpur Central Jail named “HS”. HS kept P for a period of one and a half years with him on the promise that he will marry her one day. Now P is two months pregnant and the Police constable is now refusing to marry her by giving reasoning that they both belong to a different caste and their parents are also not accepting their relationship. So P contacted us and with our help she wanted to create pressure on HS to marry her.

 

We suggested P to file a case against HS and also told her to involve her family members by telling them the whole issue to which the family members responded in a negative sense. When P reported the FIR to the Police Authorities, the Superintendent of Police gave a deadline to both the parties to get married in one or two days. Then HS contacted us to get the marriage ceremony done and we proceeded further and got the registration of the marriage done.

Attending hospital for check-up and diagnosis
Attending hospital for check-up and diagnosis

In March we held a health camp for the women of the Microcredit Project in Setrawa village, 100km west of Jodhpur in the semi-arid desert area. They all came to Jodhpur and were seen by the doctors at the SONAA hospital. The women had a variety of problems including:

  • Back pain and lower-back pain
  • Thyroid check-up, sonography and lymph node checks
  • Low haemoglobin
  • Gynaecological problems – infections and minor procedures required
  • Chesty cough
  • Knee pain
  • Mental illness

All these women received medication or treatment through the  hospital paid for by Sambhali Trust through your generous donations.

In the 3 months since beginning of March we have dealt with 25 medical cases, 7 domestic abuse cases, 2 forced marriages, 1 sexual abuse case and 2 others.  The medical cases also receiving your donations included 2 more gynaecological cases, those with asthma and knee pain as well as 2 long-term cases we have at present for monthly kidney dialysis treatment and diabetes medication.

The very common cause of domestic violence is alcohol-related as in these 2 examples.

Case Story 1 – Domestic Violence

B. is 26 years old, a student of one of Sambhali’s empowerment centres. She has been married for 15 years and has 2 children. Her husband drinks often and beats her. Whatever he earns he spends on himself. He keeps friendships with girls and in 2011 he ran away with another girl from their neighbourhood. He was then caught when B registered a complaint against him. He was told not to have any more extra-marital relationships. In May 2016, B became suspicious again and was beaten by her husband, so she came to Sambhali for help. We asked her to register a complaint with the police, but B wanted Sambhali to intervene and talk to her in-laws; however on meeting, they became physically abusive. So we went to the police station to register the complaint and asked for police protection for B. Her husband was given 4 days in prison. Following this we were provided with photographic evidence of his misdemeanours and he was called to the police station and reprimanded again.

 Case story 2 – Domestic violence

 R. has been married for 20 years and has 3 children. Her husband drinks and beats her almost every night. He rarely gives her money for household expenses and whatever he earns he spends on alcohol. Also, whatever R. is earning herself, is taken away by her husband. Five years ago, he also had a relationship with another woman whom he also supported financially. R opposed this behaviour and was consequently physically abused. Earlier this year, she was beaten again and finally she went to stay at her mother’s house. She wanted to take action against her husband and for him to leave the other woman.

Sambhali took R to the police station to get her case registered. The Women Protection and Advisory Centre asked her husband to go to the police station, where they told him to leave this other woman and stop drinking and being physically abusive towards R.  Three days later, her husband went again to the other woman’s house; Ravita’s brother got to hear of this and we informed the police so that the husband and this woman could be put in jail. They were given a demand and told not to be in touch with each other, nor beat R, otherwise they would be in jail for longer.

Receiving consultation from doctor
Receiving consultation from doctor
Diagnosing her health problem
Diagnosing her health problem
Getting diagnosis and prescribed treatment
Getting diagnosis and prescribed treatment
Visiting doctor to obtain diagnosis and treatment
Visiting doctor to obtain diagnosis and treatment

In 2015

SOS Panaah Services had 51 cases: 39 medical; 2 legal and 10 other. These women approach Sambhali when there is critical need; where Sambhali are able to help provide counselling and support as well as financial help with medical operations and treatment as well as legal aid when filing cases for divorce.

Nirbhaya Telephone HelpLine is a phone line available 12 hours a day and we have a dedicated member of staff, Mrs Manju Mehta who will take the calls and provide the assistance and help required. Most of the 308 calls are in connection with verbal harassment followed by domestic abuse cases, sexual abuse, forced marriage.

There are 2 cases that we help with long-term treatment until we can find an alternative source of funding:

1.Weekly dialysis for a woman with kidney disease

2. Medication for a woman with diabetes who also requires monitoring.

 Some examples of the SOS case stories helped by Sambhali:

1. Case: Domestic Abuse

S has two children.  Her husband beats her regularly, so she went to the police station to complain about him. The policemen then went to see her husband and talked to him, but the behaviour of S´s husband didn´t change – he beat her again. So S went to the police station again, but this time nobody wanted to talk to her. The policemen just ignored her.

S approached Sambhali to help her.

 Assistance provided by Sambhali:

We quickly phoned the police station to talk about S´s case. We asked them to arrest her husband so that she won´t face that domestic violence again. The police´s answer was that they will do that and and charge S's husband with this offence.

2. Case: Verbal Harassment

T. was married about 10 months previously in January 2015.The marriage took place quickly after 3 months following from the ring ceremony. T faced taunts and sarcastic remarks from her in-laws about dowry and other matters. T is the 2nd child of her parents, she has one elder sister and this is possibly the reason for a higher demand of dowry from the in-laws. T was educated and tried to adjust with her in-laws for seven months without telling anything to her family but when after some time she couldn´t handle it, she told them everything.

 Assistance provided by Sambhali:

We suggested to file a case against them for dowry and domestic violence and if she can´t see any future with her husband she should take divorce and can take time for mental harassment and continue with her studies for C.A. or C.S.

Final outcome:   T filed the case in the court and explained that she can´t adjust with her husband and in-laws and there is no future of her with her husband. Therefore she can file a case for divorce after 6 months and till then she will get maintenance. 

3. Case: Rape

V’s mother and father stay in Rameshwar Nagar, Jodhpur because they are doing construction work here. There was also another worker who came two days previously and who was staying near her house. The next day, V’s father went to Pratapgarh and this other worker took V to another place meanwhile and raped her. The next morning he dropped V near her house in a bad condition. There was a lot of blood.  After that she was brought to a hospital by the police. Then an unknown lady phoned Sambhali to say that the hospital is not really taking care of V. 

Assistance provided by Sambhali:

Immediately we went to the hospital and talked to the doctor and the nurse about her condition. We asked them to take care of her and met V’s father to give him 2000 Rps and we said to him that we will help him anytime. We said to the doctor that he should organise appropriate treatment and then whenever he needs financial help with the medication he should let us know.

Now Sambhali is also considering helping the father with a legal case against this man who raped his daughter. We suggested to file a case against the manager of the architecture company who employed this man who raped V because he did not check the credentials of this man - who is a criminal and escaped from jail -  before employing him.

4. Domestic violence/sexual harassment

In absence of S’s husband and brother-in-law, a neighbour came and started harassing and eve-teasing S. She started shouting, so her in-laws and children came. When they tried to catch the neighbour, he started beating everyone and tore the kids’ clothes. After being beaten up, S says that she fell unconscious and was hospitalised for three or four days. The police is only registering a case of violence, and not sexual harassment. S’s brother-in-law is asking for help, so that the police can register the case properly and they can get justice.

Assistance provided by Sambhali:

Sambhali Trust has informed the Garima female helpline in Jaipur and the State Women Department of S. case’s and S needs to provide the staff at the Garima Helpline in Jaipur with all the proof and discuss with them her case.

5. Medical need

M. 35 years, High Blood Pressure and Diabetes

M was suffering due to a fracture previously and has since suffered pain and swollen legs continuously. She also felt weak and dizzy. According to these problems she is physically not able to work. The doctor diagnosed her with diabetes and a high blood pressure. Sambhali provided her financial help for a treatment from a doctor as well as the necessary medicine.

The doctor recommended regular observations for the next 2-3 month for checking the sugar level and the blood pressure.

6. Case: Sexual abuse

M S a 22 year old woman from Pali Marwar in Jodhpur. M was working in a private school as a teacher. The headmaster of the school was previously a reporter and now he owns this school.  He called M for some work in the classroom.  She went to the classroom and got sexually abused by the headmaster. After that he blackmailed her with some photos he took while they have been in the classroom. In the meantime she got pregnant and their parents became aware of the situation. The parents filed a complaint against the headmaster with the police, but unfortunately because of the delay, the police were unable to arrest the headmaster as it was over 2 months before that the incident happened.  The headmaster used to torture M and her family to offer them some money and close the case. M and her parents did not take the money and wanted justice.

Assitance provided by Sambhali:

We supported her in the way of arranging a meeting with the General Inspector and the Senior Inspector of Jodhpur Police.  The General Inspector ordered the Pali Police station to send the case to the Jodhpur police station. After that the police could finally arrest the headmaster.

7. Case: Sexual Abuse:    

A is an 11 year old girl and her mother phoned Sambhali. On the way home from school in the school van, the driver dropped all of the students until it was just A left in the van. He then proceeded to rape her. When she arrived home, A was crying a lot and her condition was not good.

Assistance provided by Sambhali:

Sambhali quickly raised a complaint at the police station and they asked for a written statement from A. They also ordered the arrest of the man (under the Pokso Act) and asked the school to take action and file complaints against the van driver. We also provided her mother with the number of the women’s police helpline in Jaipur.

After the police complaint, and providing the statement, the police quickly arrested the man and alerted the school staff to this kind of case. The staff supported us in helping to arrest the driver.

 

 

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