Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India

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Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India
Help women victims of Domestic Violence in India

Case Stories

SK Domestic Abuse

S came to the Sambhali office with her uncle, who is a friend of her father. He spoke to our counsellor and said that S was very upset in her marital life. Her in-laws harass her. He went on to say that she had been married for 10 years and has a 5 year old son. After 2 years of marriage everything was fine but then the in-laws and husband changed their behaviour and started to mentally torture her. They drank alcohol and verbally abused her together with her husband also drinking alcohol and beating her. For a long time, S continued to live this life, but when her child became old enough to go to school, she found that her husband didn’t do anything to arrange for her child’s education. Battles and fighting ensued between her and her husband and in the end, distressed by all the bad behaviour, she took her son to her father’s house. She wants her son to go to school and she wants to become self-sufficient herself, (she studied at school up to 8th Class).

Sambhali discussed with her the possibility of her attending the Graduates Sewing Centre in Sambhali to learn to sew garments and items on a fast-track basis in 2-months, after which time she could start to earn a living by producing stock for the Sambhali boutique. She is now attending the centre and feeling much better with her new life.

 A and F.  Domestic Abuse and Harassment

 A and F are 2 sisters and came to the Sambhali office with their mother and aunt. They have been married for 4 years to 2 brothers, but they find they are unable to stay in their in-laws house for more than a month at a time.  Both husbands drink alcohol and beat them and kick them out of the house. The husbands have had extra marital affairs with other women and F’s husband ran away with a minor girl, for which he is now in jail. Whenever they go to the in-laws house, where their husbands live, they suffer severe mental harassment and A’s husband asks them to do illegal work.

Both sisters are very upset by this behaviour and want a divorce from their husbands, to which their mother also agrees this is the best option. However, their economic situation is not good and hasn’t been able to allow them to go through the legal proceedings. So they came to Sambhali asking for advice.  Our Sambhali counsellor advised them that there is a Legal Services Help Centre in the High Court, where free legal advice and assistance are provided. Our counsellor also spoke to one of the staff at the Legal Services Help Centre and explained the situation. The next day F and A and their parents  went to the Centre to discuss their case using the free legal aid offered to them.

 C  Forced Marriage

 C called from a village in the Ganganagar district to say she was very upset and unhappy. She explained that she was 17 years old and her family wants to marry her forcefully, but she wants to get a better future by getting a good education. The person whom she was intended to marry was 11 years older than her and she didn’t want to marry him. Her mother also didn’t wish for her to marry him, but because of her financial situation, C’s grandmother was pressurising her mother to go ahead with the marriage. Her father has psychiatric problems and is in a hospital. C explained even if she looked for help in the village, the police would not help her because of the influence of her grandmother.

Sambhali suggested that C go to the District Court in Ganganagar, where she will be able to find the District Legal Services Authority, where she can pursue their help to stop the marriage because she is not yet 18 years old, lower than the minimum age to get married.

 N.  Domestic Abuse

 J called from Mumbai about his sister, N. His sister lives in Rajasthan and has been married for 15 years and has 2 children. Her husband works at the mobile shop in the local town. For the last 2-3 years, N’s husband has been troubling her and torturing her in every way. His sister has been phoning her mother regularly asking for advice. Now N’s husband has started assaulting J’s sister and she is becoming more and more stressed and very depressed by all her husband’s behaviour.

J asked Sambhali for advice on how to prevent her husband inflicting this abuse onto his sister. Sambhali’s counsellor suggested to J. that N’s husband should be given the opportunity of counselling at least once to see if this could make a difference. He was given the number of the Police Women’s Help Line in Jaipur near their home town, so that he could talk to them and arrange for them to give counselling to his sister’s husband and at the same time put pressure on him to stop being violent. If her husband does not improve with his counselling, then a complaint could be filed with the police there.

 S Domestic Violence

S called and said that she was very upset with a family problem. She came into the office the next day with her mother to speak to our counsellor andt explained that she had been married for 4 years and had a 3 year old daughter. Her marriage was a love marriage and also an inter-caste marriage. Her father had died before their marriage and in his place she got a government job on the Railways. For this reason her mother and elder unmarried sister live in the Railways quarters with her. Her husband wanted her mother and sister to live elsewhere, but this is not possible, because she got her job and living quarters instead of her father, so she cannot leave her mother and sister alone.

Many times the fight got so much, that her husband attacked her. Two days beforehand, her husband had got beaten up and ran away from home. S asked our Sambhali counsellor for advice as to how to have a settled family life.  The Counsellor asked for her husband’s telephone number and she invited them both together for a discussion. S’s husband complained that S only looked after her own family and didn’t want to go his parents’ house at all. After much discussion, it was decided that both of them would need to learn to respect the parents of the other and that at least once a month, S should go to her husband’s village with her husband to visit his parents. The counsellor also stated that S’s husband should respect S’s parents and allow them to remain with them. She also explained that their 3 year old child needed both a mother and father, so that they should work on their relationship for the sake of their child.


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Attached are a few more case stories from the those women who contact the SOS HelpLine.

S. Domestic Abuse

S called from Jaipur and said she was very upset about her married life, and wants to separate from her husband. She said she had been married for 7 years and has 2 young daughters. Her husband drinks too much and abuses her. She said when her children were very small, she could cope with it, but now they are getting older, she doesn’t want them to be disturbed by her husband’s behaviour and what she feels is mental torture. She is educated and can look after her children herself. Her husband says she can keep the elder daughter but not the younger one. S wants to keep both daughters together.

Sambhali gave S the number of the HelpLine in Jaipur and advised her to go there and try and get her husband some counselling, so he could accept that he was having difficulties and needed help. If her husband was not happy after counselling then the HelpLine in Jaipur would be able to provide Legal Help so that she can easily separate and keep both her daughters. After this advice, S felt more relaxed.

 M. Domestic Abuse

R. was calling from Kisangarh in Rajasthan to say that he was very upset about his sister. His sister has been married for 3 years and has a 2 year old daughter. Her husband beats her. Being very disturbed by all this, M came to her father’s house, , but unfortunately her father’s condition is such that he cannot keep R’s sister and her daughter. R. tried to take his sister back to her in-laws but said her husband is not ready to keep her and said that they should get divorced.  R. went to the Kisangarh police station to register a case against her in-laws, but the police refused.

R. came to Sambhali to ask for advice. Sambhali said that there is a women’s empowerment department in Kisangarh and that he should go and talk to them, that a local woman is being deprived of her rights and being harassed. As the local Police are not listening to their story, the Government’s Women Empowerment Department will take the complaint to the police themselves.

 P. Domestic Abuse

P came to Sambhali with her sister and daughter-in-law. She said that her husband drinks a lot and also beats her. After the last assault P went to the nearest police station, but the police did not write any complaint against her husband as her husband was able to bribe the police. P also has 2 sons, the elder of whom is married. P showed signs of injury on her body. Her husband would take her out of the house and beat her and say that she is no good for him. She earns a living by doing cleaning work in her local vicinity and earns only about 3000-4000 rupees per month and so is unable to rent a house alone.

Sambhali supported her by helping her to write a complaint to the police station and whit his pressure, the police took action against her husband to stop him physically assaulting her.

 N. Domestic Abuse

N called Sambhali to say that she was very upset with her in-laws and her husband. She came to Sambhali’s office with her parents. Her in-laws live in Bikaner. N was a student at Sambhali’s Fatima Empowerment Centre 4 years ago and she has been married for the last 4 years and has a 2 year old daughter. She has that her husband and mother-in-law have said abusive things to her and teased her in many ways, several times.

N was troubled by the abuse and tension from her husband and in-laws, and so left to go to her father’s house in Jodhpur. Her husband phoned her but he has not tried to come to talk to her and come and collect her. Sambhali asked for the telephone numbers of her husband and father-in-law so that they could talk to them. On the second day after the phone-call, her husband, father-in-law and other relatives came to Sambhali and then N. was called in and arrived with her mother and sister.

The matter was settled by explaining to both parties the situation and getting them to agree with a written agreement that in future N’s husband would not disturb her and would behave well to her to which the father-in-law and another relative also signed. Sambhali also gave N. their telephone number, if there is any problem in future.

 R. Verbal and Sexual Harassment

R phoned from a city in Madhya Pradesh and said she was very upset about her husband. She has been married for 3 months and was living in Rajasthan where her husband is a teacher. R said it was a second marriage for both of them and that her husband is mentally disturbed, mentally tortures her and sexually harasses her. Disturbed by all this, she returned to her father’s house. Her husband still calls her from different numbers to her different relatives, repeatedly. She did not want to live with him any longer. Sambhali advised her that if she didn’t want to live with him, no-one would force her and there is no need to fear this person.

Sambhali advised R to complain to the police station in M.P. by going to the women’s police station and say that her husband is pestering her.

 P. Other

P. works as a cook at one of Sambhali’s boarding home for young girls. One day she came into the Sambhali office very distraught and said that she was worried about the agricultural land in her village of Solyankitala near Setrawa. A Rajput family has built a house on her family’s land and occupied it. She told the police in the nearby police station, but the police didn’t taken any action against them, because they were bribed. She said there was no-one in the village to help her because the political party is very strong and so everyone was afraid of them. Sambhali advised her to tell all the details to the Rural Superintendent of Police and after hearing the case, the Rural SP immediately took action in the village.


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As ever, Sambha\li SOS HelpLine receives a regular number of calls each month and several cases for our counsellor to help and support. A few of the stories are included below. Please see attached file for the number of cases and those requiring financial help. 

 

Case stories

S. Domestic Abuse/Violence

M called from Mumbai and said that her sister S, was very upset. She was concerned about her husband who was having a relationship with another woman (who was divorced). When S wanted to discuss this with her husband, he would only abuse her and said he wouldn’t change the situation. S lives in Rajasthan and she returned to her mother’s house with her children. When S arrived in Jodhpur, her husband followed her and fought with her. S wanted the children to study in school but they needed a Transfer Certificate. Disturbed by all this, she asked Sambhali for advice. Our counseller suggested she talk to the school in Rajasthan and discuss with the Principal the situation and to take action to be able to get the Transfer Certificate and if her husband should go again to her home  in Jodhpur she could contact the Police and Sambhali Trust.

 S. Child marriage

S.’s daughter, J. had an arranged marriage at the age of 7 years, but remained living with her family. No J. has turned 18 years and her husband’s family are pressing her to go and live with them. S. has said she not want her daughter to go there (particularly as her husband died in 2012) and J. doesn’t want to go either. S. came to Sambhali for advice to try and cancel the child marriage and also that she is in poor financial circumstances so she wouldn’t be able to afford a court case.

Sambhali advised S. to write an application by going to the Legal Aid Centre. Our counsellor took S and her daughter to the office of the Legal Services Authority. An application was written by the advocate where the case was filed. A free lawyer was also made available to fight this case of child marriage. We are very hopeful that the marriage will become dissolved.

 R. Domestic Abuse

R. came with her landlady who had connections with Sambhali Trust already. R. had been married for 7 years. Her husband used to drink alcohol and not work and when she wanted to discuss anything with him, her would beat her. She left the village and went to live in Jodhpur for 2 years. However, her husband also followed her there and harassed her. In Jodhpur she started to get cleaning work.  She tried to stay away from her husband and wanted her children to study. Our counsellor reassured R. that she could continue to lead an independent life through her own work and she would be able to get support for her children’s education through the Sambhali Scholarship Programme. She would also become part of the Sambhali ‘family’ and contact us whenever she needed to for support and guidance.

 A.   Counselling support

A had an arranged marriage at the age of 7 years (although didn’t live with her prospective husband), but when she was 12 years old, the boy broke off her marriage. Then A became involved in relationship with another boy for 6  years and they got married. Tragically, her new husband died in an accident only one year after they got married.  A came to Sambhali to say that now both her mother and brother want her to get married a second time, but A doesn’t want to. Sambhali’s counsellor advised her and gave her some counselling about the past and the present and to think of her future, which helped to settle her mind and move forwards.

U. Verbal Harrassment

U. called from M.P. state to ask for advice about a boy verbally abusing her. She said she is very upset by this and felt the boy was very disturbed. She related that she went to coaching lessons after school, after they had finished and on the way home, this boy would follow her and call her abusive names. Sambhal’s counsellor advised her to tell her mother and that they both should go and visit the boy’s house and talk to his parents. If they didn’t help to change their son’s behaviour, they would go to the police. Our counsellor told her not to panic and that if the boy didn’t believe her, she could go with her mother to the women police station where they can also add the details of this boy’ss motorbike on record. In this way, Sambhali encouraged this girl from her depressed state to find a way to manage this situation, give her moral support and inspire her to continue her studies.

 P.  Counselling advice

P. has been married for 6 years and has 2 daughters, aged 4 years and 4 months. She came with one of the students who attends one of Sambhali’s empowerment centres. P. was living with her husband and his family but had not been getting on well with her in-laws. Neither her father-in-law nor sister-in-law would provide her with food. She was also fighting with her husband about this matter, which had happened several times. A few days previously after a lot of fighting took place one evening, she was thrown out of the house and according to Muslim rules as her husband shouted ‘Divorce’ three times, she was banished from the household and her marriage considered over. She was now living with her parents.

She came to Sambhali SOS asking for advice and wanted someone to counsel her husband. Sambhali’s counsellor called her husband and asked to meet him at Sambhali’s office, which he did do. They had a good discussion and he related that many of the things that had happened were because of the family feud. Our counsellor explained that P was the mother of his children and that if he banished them all from the house, his daughters’ lives would be very difficult and he should be thinking of them. He said that his father didn’t want P back in the house now she has been harmed by Muslim rules (ie divorced). After much counselling, P’s husband agreed to fetch her after the one month of Ramadan, during which his father did not want her back in the house He confirmed that he would take her home and she would not have to worry any longer. Here, Sambhali encouraged to save a broken family and keep them together.


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Case stories

1. S. Domestic Abuse

J called to say that her sister S who lives in Raigarh in Rajasthan had some issues and was asked to give the Sambhali HelpLine number to her sister. Her sister duly called and discussed the problems she was having with her husband who regularly beat her throughout their 16-year marriage. Now he is drinking a lot and bringing a friend home to drink with him. They then start to misbehave with her. She doesn’t feel safe in the house anymore and she has children to look after. She didn’t want to stay with her parents nor with her husband. Sambhali’s counsellor asked her if she had any neighbours to help her and the counsellor spoke with them to suggest that she contact the Department of Women & Child Development and the Women’s Welfare Centre in Jodhpur to tell them her problems so that she could be helped by the Nari Niketan Trust who helps women seek refuge and provides a safe home.

 2. D Verbal Harassment

D called from Jaipur where she has been living and studying at college there for the last 2 years. She is living in a guest house as a paying guest. She said she had been upset for the last 3 days because she repeatedly gets calls from an unknown caller. Even though she blacklisted the number, he then began to call from another number. This was making her increasingly distressed and had stopped her going to college for the last 3 days.

Sambhali’s counsellor advised her not to panic and gave her the number of the Women’s Police HelpLine in Jaipur and she could ask for their help to stop these nuisance calls.

 3. D. Other

DS called from Barmer, west of Jodhpur, about his sister D. D’s husband has left her and she remains living with her in-laws, who are troubled by her. She has 2 children and her in-laws don’t help to feed them, so she is very unhappy. DS came to Sambhali to meet with our counsellor. He said that he could keep his sister for a while but not a long time – and asked for advice. He said that she is not educated.

 Sambhali advised that his sister could be given accommodation as part-payment for a cleaning job in a girls’ hostel, where she could receive financial support and be able to stay safely. Now she is living with her 2 children at the Dusari Girls’ Hostel, and her daughter is also studying there.

 4. U. Verbal Harassment

U called to say that she was in difficult circumstances both financially and socially. 6 years ago she made a love marriage to a boy in an untouchable caste. Her parents severed their relationship with her and her family. They left Jodhpur and went to live in Delhi. Now she feels very lonely. She has had 3 daughters in the last 5 years. Her husband works as a painter but earns little money and has now started drinking. She is upset by this and feels isolated and doesn’t know what to do. 

Sambhali invited her to come and participate in the Graduate’s Sewing Centre, where she could learn to sew and after a few months earn 3000-4000rs comfortably. U has since joined the Sewing Centre and is learning to sew and starting to earn an income, thereby helping give her the financial help she needs as well as being with other women she can socialise with.

5. K Medical help

K has been a participant in the Fatima Empowerment Centre in Sambhali for the last 11 months. For one year she had been suffering from gynaecological problems but didn’t want to talk to anyone about it. She hadn’t enough money to go and see a good doctor nor provide the medicine she needed. K eventually divulged this to a friend, who then told the Sambhali staff of her problems. She agreed to go to a good gynaecologist and so Sambhali provided her with the financial assistance she needed and her treatment started. She is now feeling much better.

We were also able to provide in February 2 Health camps for the women in our Self-Help Groups in Setrawa and Jodhpur (nearly 150 women altogether). 


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Case Stories

Just a few of the people that Sambhali have advised and counselled in the last 3 months.

 1. Verbal Harassment

N. lives in Jaipur and is upset about her husband’s behaviour. He lives in UP. N has filed a case of dowry against her husband in court. Her husband’s friend has been calling repeatedly and asking her to withdraw the case and threatening to kill her. Sambhali advised her to go to her nearest women’s police station in Jaipur, give them this person’s phone number and tell them she is in danger of her life.

 2. Domestic violence

M called to say that his sister who lives in Ajmer, is suffering from domestic abuse. His sister’s husband drinks a lot of alcohol, beats her and threatens that she will be killed. Sambhali gave M the number of the Police HelpLine in Jaipur as it is close to Ajmer.

 3. Domestic Violence

P came to the Sambhali office with her sister-in-law. P is very upset about her married life. She had a love marriage 12 years ago with a man who was the son of her father’s friend. She lives with her husband and mother-in-law in Jaipur for 8 years. Her husband is a car taxi driver. After 8 years of marriage, he started drinking alcohol and started beating her. One day he told her that he had married another woman in Pushkar. P was devastated. When she asked him for more information he beat her and drove her out of the house, so she came to live with her father in Jodhpur with her 2 children. She started working in a factory but after 3 years she suffered badly with asthma and now cannot work. She had no communication with her husband in the last 3 years, but now she wanted someone to pressurise her husband in helping her financially. Sambhali suggested that as her husband lives and works in Jaipur , that she get in touch with the HelpLine in Jaipur. Sambhali spoke to the Garima HelpLine in Jaipur  and related P’s story. They said that P should go to Jaipur to discuss it with them so they can try and help access the husband to provide financial assistance.

4. Verbal Harrassment

S came to Sambhali with her sister-in-law. She lives in Jodhpur with her mother-in-law, husband and 2 children. Her husband doesn’t work and drinks alcohol and beats her. Her husband also disallows S from working which makes it very difficult to look after the children. S arrived at Sambhali very upset and didn’t know what to do. Sambhali asked her for her husband’s phone number and rang her husband to explain that he cannot place this level of restriction on S, otherwise Sambhali will file a complaint against him at the Police station. Since then his behaviour has changed and S is able to go and do some work to earn an income to support her children.

 5.Domestic Abuse

P came to the office with her father and grandmother. She said she was not happy with her married life. She had been married for 8 months, but her husband drank too much alcohol and beat her. He also has forced her to leave her studies. P repeatedly called her husband and her in-laws who told her if she returns to live with them, she will have to stop studying. P. asked for advice to continue her studies and be free of her husband’s threats. Sambhali advised P to continue her studies by becoming a strong woman and if her husband harasses her then she should make a complaint against him to the the Women’s Police station by referring to Sambhali.

 6. 

A called about his friend S. She had been upset for 2-3 days and had suicidal thoughts. She did not want to share the cause of her problems with anyone. A was afraid of what she might do but explained to Sambhali that S loved a boy who betrayed her and married another girl. If her parents found out that she had had a relationship with this boy they would be very angry and she would be ostracised in society. Sambhali asked for S.’s number but A refused to give it. So Sambhali advised A to have courage and go to S.’s mother and convince her that she should sympathise with S, so that S can rid herself of her mental stress.

 7. Forced marriage

K called from Jaipur and said that her family wants her to have an arranged marriage. K loves another boy and wants to marry him. Some time ago her parents agreed to this marriage but when both of the boy’s uncles came to know that K was marrying inter-caste, they threatened her father. K’s father became scared and wanted K to get married in her own caste. K was not happy. Sambhali advised K to counsel with her parents and give the HelpLine number of Jaipur.


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