By Rubi Gutierrez | Project Psychologist
Losing a loved one is one of the greatest challenges we can face. Although death is a natural part of life, the pain can be overwhelming, especially when the loss has been anticipated for a long time. This prolonged grief can plunge us into sadness and confusion, leaving a deep emotional impact.
When a child passes away, the recovery process feels unimaginable. Parents experience intense emotions, with many describing it as being trapped in a dream from which they cannot wake. In cases of children with disabilities and delicate prognoses, parents often anticipate the grief, allowing them to provide a better quality of life for their child in their final days. This anticipatory grief can be less dramatic, giving families time to accept the inevitable and process their emotions. However, it can also lead to feelings of helplessness, as if no effort is enough to lessen the loss.
In these situations, psychological support is crucial to help families build resilience and find healthy ways to cope with the pain. A year ago, we faced the loss of Jhon, a 13-year-old boy who, years before, had his eyes removed due to a tumor. Later, he was diagnosed with retinoblastoma and osteosarcoma in his femur. Adriana, his mother, cared for him alone, and after his passing, went through the painful process of saying goodbye to her son.
Adriana sought help from Wasi Esperanza’s psychology department to guide her through her grief. We worked with her through the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance. The sessions were filled with emotions, memories, and stories that brought back the essence of Jhon. Through tear-stained letters, photos, and reconciliation techniques, Adriana was able to say goodbye and begin to rebuild her life.
Today, nearly two years after Jhon’s passing, Adriana has found new strength. She works as a municipal police officer, spends time with her colleagues, engages in recreational activities, and continues to use relaxation techniques. Although Jhon’s absence is deeply felt, she remembers him with a smile and the eternal love of a mother.
Grief can stir a wide range of emotions both before and after a loss. With the support of Wasi Esperanza’s psychology department, families like Adriana's are able to manage this pain in a healthy way, allowing them to gradually return to their lives.
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