| Apr 20, 2023
You helped Ella!
Ella loved living abroad with her military husband as an accompanied spouse, at least at first. She started a vlog to share with family and friends back home. She explored the culture, food, customs and idioms of the country with delight.
She had always been independent and enjoyed her autonomy. After about one year things began to change. Her husband began accusing her of having affairs and she had to report to him where she was and who she saw. He would randomly facetime her to make sure she was where she said she was.
Then the insults and demeaning started. Since he didn't hit her, Ella wasn't sure that his behavior qualified as abuse. But she felt awful, stopped doing her vlog, stopped seeing her friends and stayed at home. Still, he continued to be disrespectful and continued insulting her.
When Ella emailed our crisis advocate she was at a loss. She loved her husband but could not tolerate being treated so badly. She suggested they go to counseling but he refused.
After several months communicating via email with our crisis advocate, Ella decided to return home to the USA. She still has hope her husband will get counseling.
Ella is very grateful that she had someone she could communicate with confidentially to help her with such a difficult decision.
It's your donations that make it possible to help American military victims of violence get the help they need to make informed decisions about their lives.
The Pathways' Team