| Nov 1, 2023
Breaking circles of violence
Yaneth in her entrepreneurship
Violent upbringing practices are very present in the Ecuadorian highlands and one of its causes is associated with transgenerational cultural patterns: parents who do not know any other way of educating and solving problems than the one they received from their parents or grandparents, bringing as a serious consequence a spiral of normalized and legitimized violence from the home.
Our family accompaniment program helps to confront this problem: through constant training and personalized accompaniment, mothers can reflect together with others on their educational role and learn new forms of parenting that help to prevent domestic violence and break these circles of violence.
Yaneth is 35 years old and lives with her husband and 2 children: Dilan, 10 years old, and Valentina, 6. For more than 4 years she has been part of Fundación Sembrar, she participates in all the proposals of family accompaniment and her children attend our school support. Currently, she is an entrepreneur and runs a natural medicine shop. Her biggest change has been learning to educate her children in a different way from her mother and to be more loving and respectful with them:
"With the workshops I have learned a lot about developing children's skills and abilities so that they can be more independent from an early age, about managing the family economy, but also about how to better deal with the children, how to treat them... As a mother you make many mistakes and the workshops have helped me a lot to learn how to control myself and not attack others, I have a very 'phosphorite' temperament, I get very angry very quickly. With my oldest son I failed a lot, I spent a lot of time working and, at that time, he was practically growing up with his grandparents. (Sembrar) helped me to correct myself, to rectify the mistakes I was making with my son and not to make the same mistakes with my daughter".
During the pandemic, Yaneth lost her job and found herself faced with the dilemma of finding another job or starting her own initiative that would allow her to not neglect her children, especially her eldest, who was having cognitive and attention difficulties at school: "I reached a point of making a decision between work and my son, so I decided to spend more time with him and correct certain things that were wrong with my daughter. That is how she started selling natural products and her educator encouraged her to develop this venture to have a source of income:
"The entrepreneurship workshops have helped me to strengthen my store, the economic management and also that of the customers, to advertise the products so that they have a greater outlet and to understand legal issues and the permits I needed to operate. I am more used to promote the products on social networks and that has helped me with sales. Now I use Marketplace to consult suppliers or sell".
Yaneth has been able to break a violent cycle, she has become an attentive mother and a persevering and tenacious entrepreneur who is transmitting a totally different perspective to her children:
"One day my daughter said to me "mommy I got an A, are you happy?", I said "yes my love, but what do you feel? are you happy? what do you feel for having given your best, for having made an effort?", she says to me "mommy I am happy because the teacher congratulated me". Then I told them, "I am happy for you, because you made an effort, because you feel good, but beyond that, you have to do it first for yourselves, for the satisfaction of giving your best to be rewarded with a good grade, for the effort you made".
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Yaneth with mothers at parent training workshop