By Tia Kelly | project leader
Today I received a message from a young woman whom I keep in touch with regularly. She went through our South Africa program where we worked with survivors of sexual violence. Her personal story of survival is epic, and her continued strength and courage never cease to amaze me.
This account of her ride to school on the train this morning gave me a sense of even stronger urgency around Global Sorority’s mission to create a safe space for girls in the two places in the world where we work that desperately need it. South Africa and India
I will share a part of her message below, but please be warned if you choose to continue reading, it is graphic and may cause you to feel angry or even triggered if you have experienced any sexual abuse in your own life.
“I'm very angry. I'm shaking.
I hate fear
I hate fear
I hate fear!
I'm on the train standing in front of this woman who is sitting next to this man, and this man is sweating and touching her, putting his dirty fingers on this women. I wonder, is he the husband? But I can see fear in her eyes and the way she is so restless wanting to get away from him, but he keeps coming closer to her, I can't help myself but ask her " is he your husband?" She said no with her eyes holding tears, I whisper to her, I ask her then why are you quiet, why don't you say something? She says “I'm scared” God! I beg her to get up so that I can sit in her chair, I want him to dare try that with me, I want him to try and do whatever this woman is scared of to me. She gets up shaking then he moves up the length of the train.
I'm so angry at this women too. Why did she keep quiet? What am I asking? She kept quiet for the same reasons I kept quiet when an old man put his hands in my underwear on the bus. She kept quiet for the same reason I kept quiet when a guy put his hand on my breast in my own home, for the same reason I kept quiet when I was raped for two years, the same reason why when I was sexually violated by women in my church, but I kept quiet. I don't even know another reason but fear. I don't know how that woman is going to survive this day! God be with her, and I don't know how I'm going to write my exam today! God help me too! As for that man, I just don't know.”
This is Thuli's reality and that of thousands of girls and women around the world. Cycles of violence abuse and manipulation are strengthened by women’s shame and silence.
What should either of them have done in a situation like this? Who do they have to talk about it with? How can they feel safe in their everyday comings and goings?
A lack of personal safety restricts freedom of movement, it restricts a girl’s education and upward mobility, and it affects the very core of how she feels about herself as an empowered individual with a voice that matters.
Global Sorority may have started out as a platform to gather the truth of young women’s experiences around the world and allow them a space to share their lives and receive internal leadership skills and support. But it has grown into an organization with hundreds of girl’s lives and outcomes still connected to the work and the mission.
We still need your ongoing support to help facilitate a global sisterhood that mobilizes change, inspires action and creates economic and service opportunities for the young women who have already taken our workshops and for those who are waiting for the opportunity.
Thank you for helping us to grow and provide more for those who can't even ride the train to school without trauma and who don't have a safe space to go to share, connect, heal, and create positive solutions for their lives and communities.
Also, we'd like to thank you for helping us reach our goal of becoming a registered 501c3 organization in the United States!! This will help us acquire grants and other ways to remain sustainable.
By Tia Kelly | project leader
By Tia Kelly | Project leader
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