Children  India Project #19906

Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies

by Snehalaya 'Home of Love' Vetted since 2014 Top Ranked Effective Nonprofit Site Visit Verified
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies
Safe care and adoption for 80 Indian Babies

Our Snehankur adoption center has been helping abandoned children and their mothers for the last 15 years. We may be an adoption center but our focus has always been on our vision of helping and supporting women and girls who face difficulties and discrimination in their pregnancies and supporting their babies once they are born. Our support goes beyond the safe birth of the babies as we counsel and support mothers to take their rightful place back in society, with or without their babies. In fact, we are still in contact with the mother of our first ever adopted child.

We never know what each new day will bring, facing a range of challenges while rescuing and rehabilitating innocent infants and / or young mothers. As Mother’s Day approaches we would like to share a story of one of our brave mothers who overcame adversity to bring new life into this world. Sneha is just one of many girls who we work with forced to make difficult choices in the face of gender bias, age old traditions and societal pressure.

A bright student who was pursuing a career in civil services Sneha (21 yrs) had cleared the preliminary round of the required competitive exams for these positions and was getting ready for her finalswith some private training classes. Here she met and fell in love with a fellow student who promised to carry their relationship to the next level and Sneha came to trust him. However, when she fell pregnant, and asked him to marry her he made his excuses and fled.

Sneha was terrified to tell her parents who belong to the farming community and are from a low economic background. Ignorant to her situation, they took some private loans against their farm land and reduced the burden of supporting Sneha by forcing her into a marriage. Sneha did really well at hiding her pregnancy from her husband and in-laws, but as soon as she delivered her baby her new family immediately abandoned them both. While her parents were in a state of shock Sneha was also suffering a mental breakdown. On hand was one of our volunteers who took control and called our team. The call came in at 4am and, our team member Santosh started out immediately on the 3.5 hour journey for the government hospital where Sneha had given birth, accompanied by a nurse and a female care taker. After counseling Sneha and her parents, he brought them to Snehankur, our adoption center. After completing the legalities, Sneha and the baby were taken to a private hospital for check-ups and treatment. The gynaecologist advised that Sneha and child needed to be admitted for observation and treatment as both were mentally and physically very weak. Sneha’s hemoglobin count had dropped to 5% and she needed an urgent blood transplant and medication. Her baby boy also required special ICU as he had a low birth weight.

After few days of hospitalization, with neither her parents nor her in-laws willing to take her back, Sneha returned to our adoption center to start the process of relinquishing her son. She seemed to be still under tremendous pressure and shock and the next day she completely lost her vision. Our ever alert team rushed her to an ophthalmologist who referred her to a neurologist who advised this was a temporary blindness, psychosomatic in nature,that would recover in time.

Sneha has gradually recovered and regained her normal vision and her son is also fit and healthy and awaiting adoption. With all other support gone, Sneha is grateful that Snehalaya is helping her to continue to pursue her exams and reach her career goals.

So we would like to thank you for supporting us to continue to help girls and women like Sneha, offering alternatives to their innocent babies and helping them to fulfill their dreams and forget their nightmares.

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Thanks to your support we have successfully rescued and provided over 700 children to date with excellent families and homes. As a result we were the number one adoption agency last year, having successfully placed the largest number of babies in adoptive families. This now includes 28 babies which have been adopted internationally and are now living in countries such as Italy, Spain, Malta, UK and America.

Despite our work to advocate and shift perceptions, it’s a sad fact that girl babies are still considered a burden by many Indian parents and we still see many more girls abandoned and left in our care. For example, about six months ago, a nursing home in a small town in our dristrict was approached by a couple. The wife was about six months pregnant and having illegally determined their baby was a girl, the couple wanted to abort the pregnancy. As it is illegal to abort a pregnancy beyond 12 weeks the doctor rightly refused to perform the procedure, instead counseling the couple. They left but returned within a month with the wife, having taken matters into her own hands to try and get rid of her baby, in labor. The medical team helped her to deliver the baby girl, but at only seven months of pregnancy she was in a critical condition with a very low birth weight. She needed specialist, premature care and emergency medical intervention and was admitted to hospital.

The family remained adamant that they did not welcome this new burden and immediately relinquished their baby, leaving her in the care of the hospital. The team there contacted our adoption center and she was placed in our care. Our team named her Pavitra (The Pure One).

With the proper medical care and lots of love from the team she soon gathered strength and was deemed fit and healthy, except for a condition called anotia, absence of one external ear. Fortunately this did not affect her hearing abilities and after consulting with a pediatric surgeon our team established that there were treatments available to replace her missing ear. Despite this we could not find any Indian parents willing to take on this responsibility and she was legally released for international adoption. It didn’t take long for her to be selected by an American couple willing to adopt and complete her medical treatment in the US.

So it was Pavitra was one of eight babies who took part in a mega adoption ceremony last month. The seven other children were also welcomed into the families from India and Malta all of whom emotionally thanked our team for giving their children such a wonderful and loving home while they were waiting for adoption. Among the guests attending the ceremony was the doctor who had delivered and brought Pavitra to our center. While the American couple was overwhelmed to hear their daughter’s story they were extremely thankful to the doctor and Snehankur team who had saved her life and brought them to her.

We believe that every child has a right to life with a loving home and family that will ensure their overall wellbeing and development and are grateful to you for providing the support that enables us to rescue girls such as Pavitra and unite them with the families that are ready and willing to give them the love and security they deserve.

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The official hand over of Sonu
The official hand over of Sonu

The work done by this fantastic organisation you support is always mind blowing and every day brings new joy and surprises. There are too many stories to tell in one report but I would like to share one story from today when I had the huge honour of anchoring one of our adoption ceremonies.

We currently hold around 18 of these ceremonies each year, but today had a double impact with two families extending their families. The first is a couple and their daughter from Italy who have been waiting five years to meet one and a half year old Rani. The other couple from Orissa in the south east of India have also been patiently waiting to bring 11 month old Sonu home. Both families arrived a day earlier to finally meet their new children and start their bonding and learn more about their babies’ routines from our caregivers.

I spent the night at our adoption center to meet with and learn a little more about the parents and to offer my congratulations. Getting to know them both I can see that our children are in safe hands and going to great families. I also managed to spend some time with both babies and I was struck by how happy they were and how they have already developed their own personalities. Sonu in particular won me over with his love of wrestling, particularly with his younger friend Prabu. Maybe we will see him in the WWF some day!

Personally I really admire both families for their persistence and patience in navigating the mountains of paperwork and rigorous checks involved in reaching this huge milestone. I also applaud their choice in wanting to give their love and a future to our babies abandoned and relinquished at birth.

The official handover ceremony was such a happy and emotional event with one and a half year old Rani stealing the show in her bright pink tulle dress. Short speeches preceded blessings and finally the handover of the children to their new families and there was barely a dry eye in the house. It’s a real privilege to be part of such a momentous day in these families lives and to see each happily ever after start to unfold.

Although you couldn’t be there in body you were there in spirit and we would like to thank you for the part you play in making this happen, without your support our babies would never reach this stage. We have on further request for you to join us in wishing all the best to Rani boarding a flight to Europe in a few short days and 11 month old Sonu who has started the journey east to Orissa.

Finally, we are taking part in #GivingTuesda next week on 27 November. Any donations made that day to our project will be eleigible for bonus funding and prizes spreading your support much further.

Such an honour to be part of this
Such an honour to be part of this
#GivingTuesday is next week
#GivingTuesday is next week

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A big thank you from all the little ones at our Snehankur adoption center. Your support is a great boost to us in making sure every infant we rescue and unmarried mother leaving their baby in our care has the best future possible.

 

These include babies like Avani, a cute baby girl born to a HIV+ mother. She too was diagnosed as HIV+ at birth. Timely anti-HIV medication, close monitoring of her vitals, a healthy diet and lots of love and care helped her survive against all odds and, after 18 months of treatment and investigations, she was declared HIV negative. Because of her initial HIV+ diagnosis, it took us two years and several rejections by potential parents to find her a new family. We are very pleased to report that she finally did find a family and recently travelled overseas to the USA with her adoptive parents to start a new innings of her life. It’s down to your support that we were able to take care of all her treatments, special care and other expenses, including paying the staff that shower all of our babies with the vital love and care they need to overcome challenging starts to their lives and to develop and thrive.

 

Just as you gave Avani a great second chance in life, you are also helping girls like Puja overcome their harder to forget traumas. When she reached puberty, Puja’s father started repeatedly sexually harassing and abusing her and she soon fell pregnant. He threatened her to keep her mouth shut but she bravely sought our help and we removed her from his evil clutches. Our counselors helped her gather further courage to lodge a police complaint against him which also resulted in opposition and alienation from her tribal community. We provided all the required medical aid and psychological support to help her deliver a baby girl, however she was tragically born with several health defects and we were unable to save her: she died soon after being born. Again we supported Puja and gave her refuge in our shelter home. It will take time for her wounds to heal but with the love and support of our dedicated team and well-wishers like you, she is slowly starting to see a glimmer of sunlight breaking through the horizon.

 

We really appreciate what you have already done to help girls like Avani and Puja and want to let you know that you can help us raise even more money by voting for our project image in the Global Giving photo contest. Click here to register your vote before Friday 24 August and we could win US$1,000, https://www.globalgiving.org/poll/vote/?pollOptionId=1164

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Your support has given Kaama a future
Your support has given Kaama a future

Thank you for support of our adoption center and children.

As a government-approved adoption center we manage to place our babies with Indian families reasonably quickly. For our older children and those with special needs it can prove more difficult and we have recently introduced international adoptions for those that we have been unable to place with Indian parents.

Yesterday two of our older children met their new parents and today they are off to start their new life in Italy. When five-year old Suraj and six-year old Saana's mother died from a HIV-related illness their father who is also HIV+ felt unable to provide for them and left them in our care to be adopted. Despite their background, the youngsters are very lively and Suraj is a real joker and both have become popular with our center staff and we will miss them so much. We are however really happy to have met their new parents and know that they have a bright and happy future ahead of them. 

Our babies come from many backgrounds and all have their own heart-breaking stories behind them. One of the reasons for establishing our center was also to cater to our own beneficiaries. Our shelter home for children includes children living with HIV, the children of sex workers and orphans and semi-orphans. It also includes victims of sexual abuse. 

Kaama comes from a very poor family. When her father left their village to find work, her mother started an affair with a younger man. He started spending a lot of time around the family home and one day when her mother was out, he took advantage of the situation and raped Kaama. When she told her mother what had happened, she refused to believe her. With no protection from her parent, the man continued to rape Kaama until eventually she fell pregnant at the age of 13.

Kaama’s mother who was now very ill with HIV was too sick to help her. Fortunately, someone told her about Snehalaya. We welcomed her to our campus and helped her through her pregnancy.

Kaama was extremely traumatised from her ordeal and scared about the future for herself and her unborn child. She received a lot of counselling and when her son was born, Kaama gave her consent for him to be taken into the care of our adoption centre. We soon found him an adoptive family able to give him the safe and secure future Kaama was too young and incapable of providing for herself.

Kaama’s mother has since died of an AIDS-related illness and thanks to our legal aid, her rapist has been jailed. She has recently gone back to school and is trying to put it all behind her.

It's thanks to you that girls like Kaama are able to offer their babies a brighter future and they can receive the support to resume their own childhoods!

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