We Are Not Invisible

It used to be that people would tell me all the things that I couldn’t do because I was teen mom. Two weeks ago, I heard all the things that I can do because I was a young mother, who beat the odds.

Girls in my shoes often feel invisible. We’re ignored, we’re labeled, and there are very few people who put some faith in our potential. Two weeks ago I had the opportunity to go to Capitol Hill and along with an amazing advocate and fellow Crittenton Alumnae. We spoke out on the issues that we faced as young mothers who have, one way or another, been through the “system.” Both Shemia and I were given the opportunity to speak to leaders in Congress who have the influence to make decisions that directly impact girls and their families. I felt empowered, valued, and most importantly, I felt encouraged.  Sitting next to Deidra Henry-Spires, staff for Senator Max Baucus (D-MT) and the Senate Finance Committee was unbelievable! Sharing our stories and being asked what we want the Senator to know was moving and it showed me that we are so fortunate to have such dedicated leadership.

Later that day we had the opportunity to meet with Congressman Geoff Davis (KY-04). Sitting in his office, talking to him about our struggles, and learning about him and his own personal story, I realized that we all have something to share. Congressman Davis is passionate about what he does, he is passionate about the issues, and he is passionate about helping others – all good qualities for a leader. I have to admit that day was truly amazing. Being followed by a camera crew for the “Having It All” show (you must watch as Crittenton will be featured!) and learning so much about how we can make a change was a dream come true. I felt valued, empowered, confident, but most importantly, I know Shemia and I felt heard.

I came home that night and my kids were already asleep. I couldn’t share my excitement with them, but the next morning as I was heading to a meeting at Georgetown University on policy reform for young mothers, I couldn’t stop talking about my day. My daughter said to me, “Mom, Jeremy and I are so proud of you what you do. You are helping so many young moms and you make me want to help others too.” Knowing my daughter acknowledges my efforts makes me feel motivated and convinced that giving back means paying it forward.

Links:

• The National Crittenton Foundation