Narrative Report Format
Name of the Organization: Udayan Care
Reporting Period: October 15 to December’15
Name of the project: Udayan Shalini Fellowship Programme
- Executive Summary
Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF), one of the unique programmes of Udayan Care that aims to promote and support higher education for girls from disadvantaged background to develop them into dignified independent young women. The fellowship ensures that the lives of the girls do not succumb to monetary hardships and they do not give away their most cherished dream to think big and make a mark for themselves. Howe ever, USF is not just envisaged as a monetary assistance programme but rather as a holistic programme of sustained mentoring support and association. The growth is fostered with continued association of mentoring, motivational workshops, and development of socially responsible behavior through awareness drives. The fellowship stands different because of its pyramidal mentoring.
The quarterly workshop conducted covering diverse topics on diverse themes incorporating, “Programming for gratitude” to Disability: “A boon or a Bane” to “Right to education” for children from economically weaker section of society. Small group workshops conducted on imbibing an understanding on Business etiquettes and indispensible life skills including conflict resolution aims to bring awareness to resolve conflict situations in life. Induction ceremony marked another milestone with the new intake of fifty additions to the USF family. Campaign conducted on the grave issue of girl child trafficking in the slum area of Jahangir Puri has developed a sense of social responsibility which comes with social sensitivity.
- Details of Progress during Reporting Period:
Activities Undertaken During the Reporting Period
(A BOON OR A BANE)
PROGRAMMING FOR GRATTITUDE:
(TO LEAD A HAPPIER LIFE)
RIGHT TO EDUCATION
Ms Vibha (Co-founder of Muskaan Trust)
Indus Action Team
133 fellows (All batches)
Mahavir Senior Model School
THEME ONE: DISABILTIY: A BOON OR A BANE
PROCESS OF THE WORKSHOP:
The facilitator who herself is considered in the category of Person with Disability in societies view, has decided to take up the issue of disability among people spearheading a talk on disability as a boon or a bane. She commenced while emphasizing on “Person with disability Act”, 1995 which claim to give equal Opportunities, Protection of Rights and complete involvement of people with disability but on practical grounds has many loopholes which needs to be taken care of via appropriate amendments. The facilitator addressing fellows puts across a question on what do they all feel when they all meet and see, a person with disability, most of the fellows responded in a sense of hesitation in communicating whenever dealing with person with disability. In addition to the question, the facilitator queried on what encourage them to help person with disability, why do we help them? What do we get in return? Fellows responded in terms of a Sense of satisfaction all of them experience whenever they get an opportunity to help someone in their capacities.
The facilitator puts forth the discussion on the major role of society, plays in shaping the person with disability. Often seen as a liability than an asset, Nevertheless our positive contribution in the society has already been proven by many like us. Giving instances of the famous personalities like Sudha Chandran, the facilitator talks about the contribution PWD’s (person with disabilities) are making in the society.
Talking on the denial of basic Human Rights including the denial of getting admission in the general school system, to get employment, to live independently in the community, to vote, to participate in sport and cultural activities, to enjoy social protection, to access justice, to choose medical treatment and so on.
The facilitator culminated her session with a Quote “Disability is god given but the handicap is man-made”. Where she emphasize on dialogue, we all have options, options to choose our vulnerability to weaken ourselves or to strengthen ourselves.
THEME 2: PROGRAMMING FOR GRATTITUDE: To lead a happier life
Prior to the commencement of the gratitude section, Ms Rachel Siyang, who is an alumnus from Harward business school shared few words of knowledge with the fellows, talking on facts, she informed on how 25% of employment depends on our Intelligence quotient and rest 75% depends upon the willingness, and eagerness to learn in life. Saying on three points as follow:
(Showering thankfulness to the people we are blessed with in our life)
(Memoir of daily experiences, everyday writing down three things we are grateful for).
(Exercise to keep mind and body in best of their health, exemplifying as concentrating on every intake of breath every morning)
Mrs. Vibha, founder of Muskaan trust spearheaded the session with a quote, “Whatever happens in life, happens in the form of give and take”. She commenced her session asking the fellows to sit in one big circle. The first exercise she asked “what do our hand lines says about gratitude (looking at our hand for a minute). Then asked few volunteers to come up and share their experiences. Responses came up as follow:
- Feeling of thankfulness
- Our right hand is following the lines of our left hand and vice versa.
- Thankful for the hands which are an important component of the body.
- Giving without expecting any mean
- The small lines on our hands are the happiness and the small lines are the problems.
The facilitator then further illustrated her points on exploring ways to show gratitude to people:
Showing Smiley’s: We all have choices on how we react to the world and worldly vibration. Many of us have this habit to criticize things in life whether its people, situations or places. Explaining how the nature of every single thought going on in our mind, further turns into words and action, produces molecular waves and vibration in the atmosphere which has an effect on every object and waves spread throughout the universe.
The facilitator explained how any good thought, word or action produces a good vibration and does well to many and so in the same way how every bad thought destroys the person capacity to think.
The facilitator whilst explaining the circle on how our every thought give rise to the words we speak which further turns into actions and then takes the shape of our habit became our character and then turn into our destiny. She explained the more we give into a negative thought the more will be the drain in our energy and the more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger harmful they become.
Interconnectedness: Putting in dialogue the interconnectedness we all share with the world. She explained we all are part of the universe and by de-facto all are the somewhere related to each other.
Negative Self Talk: Addressing fellows, the facilitator bring forth the concept of self talk. The nature of conversation we have with ourselves determines our happiness.
Amplifying it with the lenses of neuron-science, the facilitator explained every self talk we have with ourselves sends out vibration to the universe. Every action produces molecular wave and spread in the universe.
Quoting “It is not happy people who are thankful rather it is thankful people who are happy”. The one thing that is common in all human beings is that we all want to become a happy soul.
PRACTICING GRATITUDE: The facilitator briefed on the levels of practicing gratitude. We all have so many things in life for which are grateful. All the levels are covered in the form of individual exercises.
Gratitude to YOURSELF:
In the ambit of which the facilitator asked the fellows to do an individual exercise, “Notice any one thing positive about oneself and write a note saying ‘Thank You’
- “Thankful for having a helping nature and a helping heart”
- “Thankful for having faith in almighty”
Gratitude to “NATURE”: During this individual exercise fellows were asked, to “Pick any one thing for which they are thankful to Nature”.
- For the sun that glows.
- For keeping us healthy.
- For the autumn and Rain
Gratitude to “CARING FIGURE”:Part of the exercise the facilitator asked the fellows, to name anyone in their life, be it their mentor, teacher, friends who they considered as caring figure in their lives.
- Thankfulness to USF mentors
- Majority expressed heartiest thank to “Mr Faheem” (Assistant Director of USF program) for being a caring brotherly figure
Gratitude to USF: The facilitator asked the fellow to quote one thing for which they are thankful to the USF program. Realizing that though it is not an easy task to put feeling into words.
- A platform has been provided though which I happened to meet inspiring people who shaped my personality and changed me as an individual.
- The programs believed in us and act a catalyst in making us believe in our capacities as an individual.
Gratitude WALK:the facilitator asked the fellows to walk out of the room and make a call to that one person to whom they are thankful to the bottom of their hearts.
- Feeling of contentment and onus prevailed all over body.
- Enhanced level of happiness when the feeling of gratitude was expressed.
EMPHASIS of the Session
- Each time we express gratitude, a pathway leading to happiness and positivity is made.
- Taking note of few good experiences of the day previous day help us to stay positive
The session culminated with a de-facto confession, addressing fellows that every individual is blessed 84000 second in a day and it is upon each individual how we utilize each and every minute.
THEME THIRD : RIGHT TO EDUCATION
Since the Right to Education has opened up many opportunities for children from economically weaker sections. The Indus team informing on Section 12(1) (c) of the RTE Act which mandates that private unaided schools reserve 25 per cent of their seats in for EWS students and those from disadvantaged groups.
The Indus team, praised fellows who made their best efforts to spread awareness and knowledge on the policy during their engagement as a volunteer for the cause. The team congratulated fellows for their previous contribution in making difference in the lives of many children via volunteering for the cause and guided on how to carry on worth the work.
SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP
11th October, 15
Mahavir Senior Modern School
NO. OF PARTICIPANTS
Ms. Shalu Saharan
Mrs. Arti Upadhayay
- To draw the attention and participation of the Fellows on the topic of Conflict.
- To increase their ability to analyse conflict situations
- To bring awareness to resolve conflict situations
- To provide a platform where they can share their thoughts and get clarity.
BRIEF OVERVIEW OF THE SESSION:
Facilitator conducted Small Group Workshop for batch 13. The whole workshop was divided in two sessions. These sessions were as follows:
The first session was conducted with the aim of understanding what is meant by the term “Conflict”. The facilitator asked the fellows what they understood by this word. The fellows related it with the word “Duvidha”, and happens when there are two equally important situations, to choose from and then to decide which one to do. The facilitator then asked if this kind of a situation happens very often, to which there was a mild “YES” and then they were asked to think of a conflict situation that they last faced. Conflicts, if not handled properly, can become huge problems, and make things difficult.
The fellows said that due to this being their important year being in the 12th grade, there were lots of conflicts that they were going through, and most important of which was to keep up with their time for study hours. The Facilitator then drew the attention of the Fellows to the question on what in their opinion is the source of conflict, how and when does a conflict arise. What is it that gives the chance for a conflict to happen? The sources of conflict, she explained, were because of power or strength, and there is also economic power. These are bases for conflict which can also be aggressive conflict situations. There was another source of conflict that is non-aggressive, and arises from conflict in values. She said, in our day to day life, values have an important part to play. We all have values, and when that is affected, or when someone hurts our self esteem that is when most conflicts arise.
When bringing in discussion our ways of reacting to situation. We end up feeling agitated, dustups, and often ignore the situation or the place but there is a way called “NON AGGRESSIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION” which was further explained on the basis of model in the word of acronym.
The facilitator shared the term “STABEN”, and broke it down into components, that give rise, and also help solve conflicts when addressed in a systematic way.
- S- Source
- T- Time and Place
- A- Amicable
- B- Behaviour
- E - Emotion
- N –Need
The facilitator then went back to the point where she had asked the Fellows to think of a conflict situation they had last faced. The fellows had to make groups of four, take 5 minutes to think of a situation, and each group do a role play based on the components explained.
The objective and purpose for the role play was to have a clarity on their understanding of the conflict situation, and when faced with such a situation, how to find a solution so that the matter is settled in a non-aggressive way. The following situations were enacted and resolved by the groups:
- Deciding to spend 2 hours to celebrate her birthday with her friends, and got delayed, upset her friends, but in the end managed to have fun.
- Using whatsapp, friends decide to dine-out/have food at a restaurant, and share the bill. But it is high, and the host pays it.
- Siblings have an argument over use of television, which is one, and three of them want to use it at the same time, and how the mother helps them decide.
The Fellows, through their role plays, showed good understanding of how to resolve a conflict situation, because all of them used the method explained by the facilitator.
This also helped them build confidence in themselves, and to do away with fear of speaking up, and before the audience.
She explained the importance of time and place, and how sometimes it becomes difficult to face a situation and resolve the conflict. She emphasized that when we are in conversation, we must be sensitive to the place where we are. She gave the example of a teacher who reprimands a student for not doing and submitting her work on time, and scolds the student in harsh language before the entire. This hurts the ego and self respect of the student, and lowers her self esteem. When self esteem is low, it affects the mind and psyche of the individual and this does more harm to the student.
The facilitator also touched upon the fact that we all think from our own perspectives, and feel what we think is important, and do not consider others views important. But it is important to be practical and give way to reason based on the facts of the situation, and accept what is right.
She also said that we are all in our learning stage. She mentioned the term “SWOT” analysis, and elaborated that It is important for us to know our strengths and weaknesses. This is important for self development, and to improve on our weak areas in life.
It is also important to set goal, and as we go along, and improve, we can create goals to enhance our skills, and thereby raise our values in life, and preserve our self esteem.
- Orientation developed about the importance of conflict resolution in different daily life situations.
- Awareness developed the effective behavior for resolving conflict.
- Enhanced knowledge gained for turning destructive conflict to constructive.
SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP
Media House, Green Park
NO. OF PARTICIPANTS:
FACILITATOR: Mrs Arti Upadhaya
PROCESS OF THE WORKSHOP
The facilitator spearheaded his talk stressing on the word, “Etiquettes”, and asking fellows on their understanding of the word. The fellows responded in terms of relating it with mannerism and behavior, way of representing oneself. The facilitator further added to the responses of the fellow and explained etiquettes as a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group.
The facilitator then expressed on the Etiquettes Standards for both men and women: Parameters on the basis of which standards should be set in terms of behaviors.
The facilitator elucidating it in terms of office behaviorism expected from both men and women and in common: but the same is relatable to everyone addressing mannerism as a way more crucial thing in life. An effort to draw a line of demarcation on the expected set of standards.
ETTIQUTTES STANDARDS FOR MEN, WOMEN AND BOTH: The basic etiquettes standards expected from men/women/In common, on workplace
Appearance Etiquettes for Men: Maintaining dress code, wearing ironed shirts, Ironed trousers, well tied tie, Polished shoes, Knowing business casuals.
The Indispensable Etiquettes standards expected from women counterpart on workplace.
Appearance Etiquettes for Women: A sense of dressing, Forbidding provocative clothing, Well tied hairs, Hygienically well maintained, Trimmed nails.
Basic mannerism etiquettes expected out of both the counterparts.
Standard for Hygiene Maintenance: Wearing fresh clothes, Body odor ,Trimmed nails , Combed and well tied hairs ,Mouth odor
BODY POSTURES: One of the crucial components bringing in the discourse on etiquettes is the body posture one follow in daily sitting attribute: the facilitator has demarcated/categorized the body posture attributes in five ways of sitting position: Sway back, Lumber hordosis, Thoracic kyphosis, Forward head and Good Posture.
INTRODUCTION ETTIQUETTES:Key things people notice is how to carry and present ourselves.
GROUND RULES: Stand up when introduced, Reach across and shake hand, Don’t panic if forget names, BE POISED. If someone forgets to introduce you take the initiative to introduce yourself.
HANDSHAKE TIPS: Handshakes are the only acceptable physical contact for men & women in the business arena. Handshakes are the universally accepted business greeting. Hugs & kisses are taboo in the business arena. You are judged by the quality of the handshake.
A Good Handshake: keep the fingers together with the thumb up and open, slide your hand into the other person's so that each person's web of skin between thumb and forefingers touches the others, Squeeze firmly.
A Proper Handshake: Is firm, but not bone-crushing, lasts about 3 seconds, may be "pumped" once or twice from the elbow, is released after the shake, even if the introduction continues, includes good eye contact with the other person
Handshaking Tips: If your hands tend to be clammy, spray them with antiperspirant at least once a day, Avoid giving a cold, wet handshake by keeping your drink in the left hand.
Extend a Hand when: Meeting someone for the first time, meeting someone you haven't seen for a while, greeting your host(ess), greeting guests, saying good-bye to people at a gathering, someone else extends a hand.
EMAIL ETIQUETES: Understanding email writing as one of the most important way of communication. The facilitator emphasized, when we converse we expect other people to observe certain rules of behavior and the same is true for e-mail writing. Following points should be kept in mind while framing any important mail which is as follow:
- Clearly summarizing message in the subject line: Throughproperly titled message with appropriate subject line helps people organize and prioritize their e-mail.
- Should Avoid using all capital letters and writing in red font: The facilitator emphasized that, writing in capital letters, makes it look SHOUTING and also more difficult to read. Writing think in RED font is considered as an escalation.
OFFICE PARTY ETTIQUETTES: The facilitator explained on how important it is to behave at office parties and get together. Since, the name party is coupled with office when talking about office party etiquettes, it is very essential for an individual to behave sensibly at parties held in office. The facilitator focused and tried to lineate the points one should keep in mind whenever physically present in the situation.
- Take an initiative to introduce yourselves to Others: Office parties are a good way to know your fellow workers. Socialize with others, rather than standing at one corner. Greet all with a smile and exchange pleasantries.
- Drinking excessively at office parties is foolish.
- Should eat in moderate quantities, do not load up your plate with food and once finished eating, keep the utensils at proper places
- Got an insight into the behaviourism/mannerism as a vital part of the life.
- Understood on etiquettes set standard for men and women and both.
- Understood on the etiquettes to be adopted at different situations.
Jahangir Puri Residential Area (I & J Blocks)
BACKGROUND AND DESIGN OF THE CAMPAIGN
BACKGROUND OF THE CAMPAGIN
To raise awareness and provide solutions about how hundreds of girls and young women go missing everyday in India by involving NGOs working on child trafficking and education in different cities, from 25th Nov. to 10th Dec., coinciding with the 16 Days of Activism on Violence Against Woman and Girls.
10 NGOs across the country confirmed their participation. Among them Udayan Care participated through the USF programme at the re-settlement colony, Jahangir Puri.
PROCESS OF THE CAMPAIGN
The group went door to door raising awareness on child trafficking and providing information and solutions about how hundreds of girls and young women go missing everyday in India. Fellows with their understanding on Human trafficking as one of the world largest crimes against humanity, yet it goes unnoticed by the majority of society.
During the campaign Silhouettes of girls with the tag #missingirls were painted on walls, followed by a street performance by the Shalini Fellows to inform the community about the problem of human trafficking and demonstrate how to take appropriate action when faced with a potential human trafficking situation. Afterwards, an open discussion was held, with the active participation of community members.
In the end, our fellows enacted a street play on the cause of trafficking. Via which gave all the important dates of incidents that have happened so far in the recent past. And effectively imprinted the child helpline no by “N” no. repetitions into the psyche of the community inhabitants “1098”.
14th INDUCTION CUM ORIENTATION CEREMONY
Mahavir Senior Modern School
Another Milestone achieved in the annals of the Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF) Programme at Delhi has been marked by inducting another fifty new Shalini’s for the 14th batch, and welcoming them to prepare for, and begin this wonderful journey to realize their potential and reach their dream goals. The family gets bigger as Genpact takes on the onus of providing the financial support required to make this journey possible. A group photograph of the 50 Shalinis’ with the dignitaries and staff was taken before the ceremony, which is an important component in observance of this occasion.
SHARING ANECDOTE: SYMBOLIC OF INITIATIVE AND BELIEF IN ONESELF:
The Emcees, both from Batch 10 USF, Neha and Preeti Lata took centre stage as they began the ceremony with an inspiring quote, " If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing to do is to "wake up”,avery appropriate quote for the occasion, which was followed by the “Lighting of the Lamp” by the dignitaries present on the occasion. Dr. Kiran Modi, Managing Trustee, Udayan Care, welcomed the gathering and shared the inception and story of Udayan Care and Udayan Shalini Fellowship. She narrated a small anecdote. It was how when the celestial forces, the sun, the moon, and the stars wanted a day’s rest from God, and how a small “Deepak” (diya/lamp) said that he would give “light” (Roshni) to the earth. God asked how a small “Deepak” (diya) could give so much light.
The answer was, one “Deepak” would light another, then another and then another, and in this way would give light to the Earth. This anecdote was symbolic of initiative and belief in oneself, and thus bringing a change by sharing knowledge.
ADDRESSING BY THE CHIEF GUEST AND THE GUEST OF HONOR
The Chief Guest, Ms. Amrutha Guguloth, (IPS), Additional DCP-II, then administered the oath, which is a “Pledge” that the Shalinis’ vow to stand by comes what may in their journey of becoming a dignified woman. A sense of pride echoed in the voice of the fellows when they took the oath. After the oath the fellows were awarded their first fellowship cheque along with the Badge of Honor by the Chief Guest and Guest of Honor.
The Chief Guest then addressed the audience, and praised the girls for their intelligence and hard work, and said they were very fortunate to get such a wonderful platform to support them. She said that mere planning will not be enough. Action is very important. She blessed the girls for a bright future, and urged them to be strong, and make a difference in society.
The Guest of Honour, Mrs. Ameeta Mullah Wattal, Principal, Springdales School, and an educationist of repute, said she was amazed by the kind of work that Udayan Care is doing, and was touched by the concept of giving back to society included as an important component in the Udayan Shalini Fellowship Programme. Mrs. Wattal was very eloquent about the moment, and was very happy to be present among such an honourable gathering.
She also proudly spoke of the moment she had shared with our late President, Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam, and reiterated the three things that he had told her was important to remember in life, is “to be a lamp, a ladder, and a lifeboat”. She blessed the girls, wished that they all be a lamp, a ladder, and a lifeboat in their journey of life from this moment. She reminded the Shalinis that they were very fortunate to have mentors, and they must make the best of it.
Conflcit Resolution Role Play
Induction - Delhi
Quarterly Workshop (Programming for Gratitude)