Education
 India
Project #8862

Empower 50 needy girls in India through education.

by Udayan Care
Vetted
COMMUNICATION SKILLS
COMMUNICATION SKILLS

 Executive Summary

Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF), one of the unique programmes of Udayan Care, aims to promote and support higher education for girls from disadvantaged backgrounds, to develop them into dignified independent young women. The fellowship ensures that the lives of the girls do not succumb to monetary hardships and they do not give away their most cherished dream to think big and make a mark for themselves. However, USF is not just envisaged as a monetary assistance programme, rather, as a holistic programme of sustained mentoring support and association. The growth is fostered with continued association of mentoring, motivational workshops, and development of socially responsible behavior through awareness drives. The fellowship stands different because of its pyramidal mentoring.

The months were filled with series of activities which included Quarterly Workshop on Interview Facing, small group workshop conducted on “Coping With Emotions” helped in carving out a way in dealing with emotions fellows experience in the age group they are currently in.  The successful Induction for fifteenth batch of meritorious girls was splendidly conducted. The workshop on Communication Skills provided fellows with the tips and techniques for improving communication. Social Awareness Rally was organized in the streets of Jama masjid, old Delhi on behalf of thousands of young women and girls who are enslaved and trafficked across the country.

 

Details of Progress during Reporting Period:

 

INDUCTION PROGRAM

DATE: 22nd October’16

VENUE: Mahavir Senior Model School, Model Town

In a grand induction ceremony, fellowship was awarded to 50 candidates who were becoming Shalinis for 15th batch of Delhi, continuing the legacy of the unique programme.

Mr Sandeep, who is an IRS, Commissioner of Income Tax, Ministry of finance, GOI graced the occasion as the Chief Guest. The much awaited segment of the day was when the Honourable Chief Guest administered the oath to the new batch. A sense of pride echoed in the voice of the fellows when they took the oath.

After the oath, the fellows were awarded their first fellowship cheque along with the Shalini badges. The ceremony was also an event to award the certificate of achievement to the fellows of 10th batch who had completed their successful fellowship as a Shalini.

 

“It was a wonderful learning experience for all of us, what inspired the most was the presence of senior shalinis in the function sharing their experiences. We could see our reflection in them.”

~ Neha ( Name Changed )

 

SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP

DATE:

2nd Oct’16

THEME:

Coping with Emotions

BACKGROUND OF THE WORKSHOP

Each one of us has experienced a variety of emotions and feelings: happy, sad, angry, nervous, confusion, worry, fear, love, shame, surprise, disgust and many more. And everyone has a unique way of expressing them. When we are young, these emotions and feelings are often accompanied by intense mood swings.

These emotions, sometimes, affect our very behavior. The social set up that the fellows are living in- with cultural norms, gender bias etc, affects their expression of feelings.

The facilitator, knowing that understanding one’s feelings is the first step to learning how to have control over them, initiated an activity called “Pass the Feeling”.

The exercise workshop ended on a happy note; fellows recalled when they laughed most recently or expressed joy.

The facilitator then gave tips to fellows to deal with all kinds of emotions before they turn into intense mood swings affecting fellows’ behavior. Very often, some feelings that are viewed as “bad” or “wrong,” are bottled up and suppressed.

  • Identifying the emotion we are feeling
  • Exercising breathing relaxation techniques.
  • Meditating or praying often help a lot in coping with different emotions in throwing the negative thoughts away
  • Using positive imagery and talking to our friends and near ones.

CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME

  • Learnt that Understanding our feelings is the first step to learning how to have more control over them.
  • Built an understanding that it is normal to have strong feelings and that no feeling is “bad.”

 

 

QUARTERLY REPORTS

DATE:

October 10th’ 2016

THEME:

Interview Skills

PROCESS OF THE WORKHOP:

The workshop was held in three sessions as follows:

Mr Ricky, Chief mentor, USF, is known for having been associated with Udayan care since a very long time. He came on the occasion to impart few words of wisdom to the Shalinis.

Mr Ricky, inspired shalinis on focusing our energies on developing our hearts more than developing our minds. He also talked on clarity of thoughts, concentration of efforts and a key to a successful life.

Distress and Mal-Adjustment in any of the ALP (Aspiration, Life Skills and Personal Attributes) would result often in Aggressive Behavior, Violence and Quitting the particular chores the person is engrossed in.

CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME:

The fellows were provided with tips and tricks to ace interviews.

 

SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP

DATE:

13th November’16

FACILITATOR:

Cmd Parminder

Mohd. Faheem

THEME:

Communication Skills

BACKGROUND AND DESIGN OF THE WORKSHOP

The role of sound communication skills assumes great importance in the academic, personal and professional life. Therefore, it became important to understand the different components of communication like verbal, non-verbal and listening .The workshop was designed to impact the understanding of the fellows about the form of communication to be adopted in their daily lives and enhance their confidence level. The exercises and activities would help the participants to explore their own communication skills.

 

OBJECTIVES

  • To develop understanding amongst the participants about the importance of effective communication skills.
  • To facilitate identification of the difference between verbal and non-verbal communication.
  • To develop understanding about active listening and its importance.
  • Practice ways to develop effective communication skills using simple tools.

CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME

  • Developed understanding about components of communication and their relevance in daily lives of the fellows.
  • Generated awareness about active listening skills and the ways to become a good listener.

Tips for improving, both, verbal and non-verbal communication skills were discussed with the fellows.

 

DATE:

4th DECEMBER’16

FACILITATOR:

Mohd. Faheem

VENUE:

Mahavir Senior Model School

As times are changing, so are gender roles. Women are taking the centre stage by moving into the workforce and becoming career-oriented but still mental, physical and sexual harassment, misogyny and gender inequality continue to be a way of life for most of them. It is in this context that her awareness of the legal rights, mandated by Indian law, gains significance. Girls and women are to be made aware of their rights.

Facilitator asked fellows about their understanding of “RIGHTS”. After series of responses, facilitator explained that Rights are what is allowed to people or owed to people according to a legal, social and ethical system. There are certain rights that are entitled to us just because our identity of a particular Gender. So, there are certain rights that are entitled to women. Facilitator briefed the fellows about the following important legal rights:

  • FREE LEGAL AID

Women have the right to have a lawyer accompanying her to the Police Station while filing an FIR so that she doesn’t face the risk of being misquoted.

  • RIGHT TO PRIVACY WHILE RECORDING STATEMENT

Under section 164 of the Criminal Procedure Code, a woman who has been raped can record her statement before the district magistrate when the case is under trial, and no one else needs to be present. The cops have to, by law, upkeep the woman's right to privacy.

  • TIME DOESN'T MATTER

“The police cannot refuse to register an FIR even if a considerable period of time has
elapsed since the incident of rape or molestation took place. Supreme Court has ruled that the police must register an FIR even if there has been a gap between the report and the occurrence of the incident," says Tariq, advocate, Supreme Court.

  • EMAIL TO THE RESCUE

According to the guidelines issued by the Delhi Police, a woman has the privilege of lodging a complaint via email or registered post addressed to a senior police officer of the level of Deputy Commissioner or Commissioner of Police. The Police then come over to the residence of the victim to take her statement.

  • COPS CAN'T SAY NO

A rape victim can register her police complaint from any police station under the Zero FIR ruling by Supreme Court. Sometimes, the SHO of Police station sends the victim saying that this doesn’t come under their jurisdiction so in such cases, she should know that she has the right to lodge an FIR at any police station in the city under the Zero FIR ruling.

  • NO ARRESTS AFTER SUNSET

According to a Supreme Court ruling, a woman cannot be arrested after sunset and before sunrise. Even if there is a woman constable accompanying the officers, the police can’t arrest a woman at night.

  • YOU CAN'T BE CALLED TO THE POLICE STATION

Women cannot be called to the police station for interrogation under Section 160 of the Criminal Procedure Code. This law provides Indian women the right of not being physically present at the police station for interrogation. The police can interrogate a woman at her residence in the presence of a woman constable and family members or friends.

  • PROTECT YOUR IDENTITY

Under no circumstances can the identity of a rape victim be revealed. Neither the police nor media can make known the name of the victim in public. Section 228-A of the Indian Penal Code makes the disclosure of a victim's identity a punishable offense. This is done to prevent social victimization or ostracism of the victim of a sexual offense.

A case of rape can't be dismissed even if the doctor says rape had not taken place. A victim of rape needs to be medically examined as per Section 164 A of the Criminal Procedure Code, and only the report can act as proof. Rape is crime and not a medical condition. It is a legal term and not a diagnosis to be made by the medical officer treating the victim.

  • THE DOCTOR CAN'T DECIDE

A case of rape can't be dismissed even if the doctor says rape had not taken place. A victim of rape needs to be medically examined as per Section 164 A of the Criminal Procedure Code, and only the report can act as proof. Rape is crime and not a medical condition. It is a legal term and not a diagnosis to be made by the medical officer treating the victim.

  • EMPLOYERS MUST PROTECT

According to a guideline issued by the Supreme Court, it is mandatory for all firms, public and private, to set up these committees to resolve matters of sexual harassment. It is the duty of every employer to create a Sexual Harassment Complaints Committee within the organization for redressal of such complaints.

According to a guideline issued by the Supreme Court, it is mandatory for all firms, public and private, to set up these committees to resolve matters of sexual harassment. It is the duty of every employer to create a Sexual Harassment Complaints Committee within the organization for redressal of such complaints.

 

SOCIAL AWARENESS RALLY ON #MISSING GIRLS

DATE:

4TH DECEMBER

On 4th December 2016, #every8minutes National campaign, with the tagline of Walk for Freedom”, was organized in the streets of Jama Masjid, Old Delhi. The rally saw the participation of 35 fellows, who filled the atmosphere with great zeal as the preparation for the rally was on with full swing.

The rally was on behalf of thousands of young women and girls who are enslaved and trafficked across the country.

Following the rally, the fellows marched on the streets of Jama Masjid, displayed banners, recited slogans, and interacted with locals. Fellows explained to people, the significance of the rally and the relevance of the Helpline Number 1098. This number can be used under any unusual circumstance, where they feel that the child or girl is with a suspected person. The whole rally took place for more than an hour and the participants then reassembled at the starting point.

Fellows unanimously said that they were glad that they could do something for the society.

 

 

SUCCESS STORY

Hailing from the home of scenic mountains, towns, and resorts, Himachal Pradesh, Nidhi’s (Name Changed) grandfather shifted to Delhi, years back, in search for a better livelihood and quality of life. She remembers her grandfather narrating tales of their life in Himachal, but she never got a chance to go there. Nidhi, born and brought up in Delhi, in a lower middle class family, is currently living with her parents and one younger brother in a two room flat. She could still register the days when she was in 5th standard and her financial conditioned worsened and to support the family, her mother took up stitching work to add to the family income.

Nidhi's mother worked hard day and night. She didn’t get the chance to educate herself, but she realized the value of education and the value of being economically independent, especially, for a girl. Nidhi’s mother is her role model in every way; in every fragile and sturdy situation in her life she witnessed her immense support. Her parents always believed in her potential but they were also aware of teh fianancial constraint of the family. Since her school days, Nidhi was an exemplary girl in all ways and the apple of her teachers eyes. She had immersed herself in the habit of reading books by motivational personalities.

Turning point for her came, when she heard about USF progarmme in her school and dreamt to be a part of it. She applied and got selected. Slowly and steadily, as she progressed through each workshop, she witnessed self growth and became a better and more assertive and confident version of herself.

She says,I share an emotional relationship with this program. I got so much of guidance and support from the people here. I couldn’t thank god enough for this blessing in my life. With the support and motivation of USF, my mentors, I didn’t even realize when I started the journey of unleashing my true potential. I realized my talents and started writing poems. I got the best poem orator award in my school and was also one among team of five students to represent my school in "Invictus Oncology" (Living with Cancer', is a movement initiated by India Innovation Research Center (IIRC) in partnership with Invictus Oncology Pvt. Ltd.).

Nidhi always had a dream of getting into AIIMS, and she knows the ways of turning her dreams into reality. The key is sincerity. She worked really hard and got 486 AIR (All India Rank) and stood 21st in Category Rank and is ,presently, in her first year of B.sc (Nursing) at AIIMS. 

 

In Her words - USF taught me to challenge my limits not limiting my challenges!   

INDUCTION CEREMONY
INDUCTION CEREMONY
INDUCTION CEREMONY
INDUCTION CEREMONY
Fellows during Quarterly Workshop 1
Fellows during Quarterly Workshop 1
Fellows during Quarterly Workshop
Fellows during Quarterly Workshop
social campaign
social campaign
success story
success story
Interchapter meet
Interchapter meet

Executive Summary

Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF), one of the unique programmes of Udayan Care, aims to promote and support higher education for girls from disadvantaged backgrounds to help them develop them into dignified independent young women. The fellowship ensures that the lives of the girls do not succumb to monetary hardships and they do not have to give away their most cherished dream of thinking big and making a mark for themselves. However, USF is not just envisaged as a monetary assistance programme but also, as a holistic programme of sustained mentoring support and association. The growth is fostered with continued association of mentoring, motivational workshops, and development of socially responsible behavior through awareness drives. The fellowship stands different because of its pyramidal mentoring.

The three months were filled with series of activities which included Quarterly Workshop on Resume building and Interview facing. The Inter-chapter meet that was conducted focused on brainstorming on ideas to take Udayan shalini fellowship to greater heights. Fellows participated in #every8minutes campaign, a wonderful initiative by iPartner India to mark the #World Anti Trafficking Day, which culminated at Dilli Haat!. Small group workshop conducted on Assertiveness, Developed basic understanding of Assertiveness among the girls. Workshop on domestic violence helped girls in recognizing violence in its all forms.

 

Details of Progress during Reporting Period

1. INTERCHAPTER MEET

It was an opportunity for all the centers of USF to come together and welcome the new addition to the USF family, Mumbai center, to meet, interact, and brainstorm over ideas to take USF to greater heights.  The residence of Ms. Suresh Neotia ji, ex- trustee, played the perfect host for the two day meeting held on July 9th and 10th, 2016.  Demonstrating the multiple facets of the Udayan Shalini Fellowship Program, the meet was to share and learn from each other’s innovative, successful strategies and practices.

There were individual presentations by chapters focusing on their best practices and challenges. Presentation by Mr Ashish Aggrawal (core committee members) on strengthening of mentoring program, discussion on corporate social responsibility and fundraising to strengthen the program as a whole took place.

The progress of the chapters was understood and their challenges were discussed. In totality the two day meet gave ample food for thought in terms of recommendations to address the recruitment process of Shalinis, strengthen and improve the communication between chapters, discussion on report writing and format sharing on writing effective reports, creating a standard model across all chapters, strengthening of mentoring and core committee.

All in all, the ultimate goal to replicate the unique model of the programme across chapters for qualitative improvement was held supreme. Undoubtedly, the interchapter meet was one enriching platform that brought the chapters closer.

 

 2. RESUME WRITING AND INTERVIEW SKILLS WORKSHOP

 

OBJECTIVES OF THE WORKSHOP

  • To understand the framing of Resume and its purpose
  • To learn about the interview skills

 

PROCESS OF THE WORKSHOP

 

Session I

Objective: Member to member interaction

Activity: The workshop began with an activity asking girls to introduce themselves from initials of their name which gives a brief insight into their personalities. Shalinis gave exhilarated responses like ‘Rebellious Rakhi’ and ‘Dedicated Deepali’ which gave a glimpse into their capacious minds.

Session II

Objective: The Resume and its purpose

Trainers conducted exercise to figure out flaws from a CV sample and the Shalinis responded brilliantly, listing important points to be kept in mind.

Formatting tips to be kept in mind while creating a resume were given. It was followed by an exercise wherein girls were asked to come up with their purpose statements and strengths for the post of ‘firefighter’ or ‘teacher’ within five minutes and then present it before the fellows. These aspiring geniuses came up with diversified yet brilliant attributes leaving no doubt that they will triumph in life.

Session III

Objective: Interview skills

Moving forward, a humorous video was shown. It was followed by an impressive interview video. Trainers accentuated the fact that an interview is 40% about what you speak and 60% about your body language which should be positive and confident. An interview is a like a sales pitch. Key points like common interview questions, how to dress up for interviews, the behavioural etiquettes etc. were covered.

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LEARNING AND CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME:

  • It helped in career orientation and personality development of Shalinis under the USF programme.
  • It strengthened communication skills, provided tips and tricks to create effective Resume and ace interviews heading their way.
  • Remarkable responses of Shalinis demonstrated how girls with dreams today become women with vision tomorrow.
  • Shalinis became more optimistic and confident to leave no stone unturned for success in life. 

 

 3. SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP

 

OBJECTIVE OF THE WORKSHOP:

  • Develop basic understanding of Assertiveness among the girls.
  • Recognize the difference between assertive and aggressive communication through exploration of personal reactions to given situations.
  • Participate in Role Playing Exercises to practise the traits of being assertive.
  • In still in participants the courage to be assertive in the most appropriate and effective way.

 

PROCESS OF THE WORKSHOP

  • The workshop commenced by welcoming Dr Kiran Modi, founder of Udayan Care and Mrs Sanjana Swamy from Seattle.
  •  Mrs Sanjana is a founder member of Udayan Care America and is currently supporting the higher education of ten fellows under the Udayan Shalini Fellowship Programme, Delhi chapter.
  • After an exchange of pleasantries and a few words of encouragement and support from Mrs Sanjana, the facilitator proceeded to outline a plan for the workshop.
  • Firstly, the fellows were asked to enact a role play.

Situation: Two young girls are waiting to catch a local auto to their college. One such vehicle arrives at the scene. However, it is extremely crowded and there is no place to sit. Though aware of this fact, the conductor propels them to take a seat, even resorting to screaming at them.

Scene 1: The girls do not say anything and the auto drives away. The girls later feel guilty to not have responded.

Scene 2: One of the girls responds saying, “Had there been space, I wouldn’t have refused. Please take the passengers safely to their destination.”

Significance of the Activity: The fellows were asked to compare the two scenes in terms of behavior and response. Most of them were convinced that the second situation turned out to be better than the first one because it is important to stand up for one’s own respect and integrity as well as others. Also, because in the second scene the girl puts forward her point of view without any hesitation, the conductor must have realized his mistake and would think twice before acting in the same manner again.

The facilitator explained that this was what she had intended to achieve from this activity- to explain them the meaning of assertiveness and to help them understand that assertive individuals are able to get their point across without upsetting others, or becoming upset themselves.

Next, they were introduced to the SIX GOLDEN RULES OF ASSERTIVENESS-

            1. Decide what you feel or want and say it.

            2. Maintain eye contact.

            3. Do not make excuses.

           4. Do not seek approval from others.

           5. Do not get confused by the other person’s argument.

           6. Remember you have a right to change your mind.

Further, the fellows were asked to list out some of the qualities of their favourite TV show character that made them assertive. The answers ranged from King Ashoka with his ability to present his views effectively to Tamanna, a girl who moves out of a bad marriage to pursue her childhood dream of playing professional cricket.

  • Lastly, Shalinis were divided into groups of six to put up an act with relevance to our day to day lives to depict the skill of assertiveness.

Two of the seven groups presented on the theme of ragging, one on gender inequality, another two on eve teasing, one on peer pressure and the last one on reservation of seats for the elderly in public transport. It was anexhilaratingexperience for everyone present, to see such fine impromptu plays been put up by these ambitious and wonderful girls in just a matter of ten minutes.

EMPHASIS OF THE WORKSHOP

The emphasis of the workshop was to instil in fellows, Self confidence and encourage them to stand up for their own or other people’s rights in a calm and positive way, without being either aggressive, or passively accepting ‘wrong’.

CONCLUSION

WHAT OUR SHALINIS UNDERSTOOD ABOUT ASSERTIVENESS

  • Assertiveness can be learned and developed and it doesn’t happen overnight. They will slowly become more confident in expressing their needs and wants by practicing the techniques presented in the workshop.
  • As their assertiveness improves, so will their productivity and efficiency to accomplish tasks, solve problems, and reach solutions.
  • It must be noted that when people are not assertive, they can suffer a lot of problems, such as, they lose their confidence level. And indeed, having confidence to a satisfactory level is important in almost all the aspects of life to accomplish the objectives which one wants.

 

  • 4. SOCIAL CAMPAIGN ON MISSING GIRL

The fellows participated in #every8minutes campaign, a wonderful initiative of iPartner India to mark the #World Anti Trafficking Day, which culminated at Dilli Haat!  Every eight minute a girl goes missing in our country according to NCRB reports.

To mark the anti world trafficking day, the event was organized including more people in society on the grave issue of violence country is grappling with.

Both Mehrauli Udayan Ghar girls mesmerized the audience with their performance of a patriotic mélange of songs and dances, while Udayan Shalini Fellowship, Delhi alumni girls volunteered and managed the crowds there.

Our Fellows have volunteered in the stalls and in spreading the message by managing the crowed and disseminating awareness on human trafficking, girl child trafficking particularly.

Fellows unanimously said that they were glad that they could do something for the society. Also, it was not as easy as expected to handle people and their queries. This was a learning exercise wherein they acquired the skills of interacting and handling questions of the people. Mr. Faheem also quoted that even if the efforts of each one of us could prevent one girl from missing, the campaign would be worth it.  

 

 5. SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP

 

PROCESS OF THE WORKSHOP

Keeping in mind, the need of making fellows more aware on the issue of domestic violence, the facilitator conducted the workshop covering the topic of violence in its all forms; the violence can be classified into many forms.

The Workshop included group exercises among the fellows to build an understanding of domestic violence, followed by a discussion. Fellows were given few emotions and were asked to make a poster showcasing the negative repercussions of particular emotions associating the same with violence.

Thought provoking posters were made by girls, based on their own understanding of violence and where its forms all easily captured.

The facilitator touched briefly on all forms of abuse, in which Physical violence is the most recognizable form of violence .Many women experience domestic violence without ever being physically abused. Sometimes the victim is not sure whether what is happening is actually violence and suspect whether anyone will take them seriously or not. The others forms including physical, mental, and emotional and economics is not easily recognizable and understood sometimes by the victim itself.

The facilitator also talked briefly about the long maintained “Culture of Silence” on the issue as it is often associated with shame for the family and surroundings to which the victim is related to. The very cause of it lies in the socialization which further contributes to the cycle of violence; the fellows have also depicted their understanding on the cycle of violence via the posters they were asked to make part of group exercise.

The Facilitator also briefly touched the “Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act’ 2005”, she emphasized on Violence which arises because of the urge to control people, which is destructive and defies logic. When in the grip of it, one starts believing in the violence and at this point only dialogue and counseling helps.

This Act 2005, besides defining and providing for protection from violence, also provides for maintenance (alimony). Research has indicated that most women do not want to leave home as they are wary of the support. So “compromise” is not a bad word, it is used to suppress women.

This domestic violence Act 2005 can be used concurrently with other laws. An aggrieved woman can put up an application to the Magistrate prescribed under the Act and Rules. Safety of the aggrieved woman and decision of rightful disposal of the application comes within 6–9 months.

Communication is important. Protection should be to the extent of counseling and guiding the aggrieved party.

 

EMPHASIS OF THE SESSION:

v  Violence is not merely physical it has it other forms also which are not often as easily recognizable as physical violence is.

Build an understanding on the cycle of violence and how important part socialization plays in it. 

 

 

THE POWER OF SELF BELIEF

The more you believe in yourself, the more the world believes in you!” ~ Isa Zapata

Hailing from a small village Mehwa, from Dausa district in Rajasthan, Neha(name changed) was born into a very conservative family that does not believe in educating girl children.  Many families there do not even wish to bring a girl into this world.

 Neha’s family shifted to Delhi few decades ago. She was lucky that her parents gave her the opportunity to study. Her father started working in a private company in Delhi but with his meager salary, it was difficult for him to take care of his dependents- Neha, her two siblings and their mother.

Neha got associated with Udayan Care in 2011.   She said, “USF has not only changed me as a person, but also, the very mindset of my parents. I still remember how I wasn’t even allowed to go to a shop near my home, but after getting into USF, I saw a drastic change in their mindset. I saw their belief in me growing. I still remember travelling alone to the Mahavir School, where the workshops take place, and I felt so confident about myself.”

 “Every support I got from USF, whether financial or emotional, has made a big difference in my life. I met so many beautiful people here.” Neha managed to get admission to her dream course, masters in biodiversity and conservation from University of Delhi, and aspires to join Indian forest service one day. 

resume writing and interview skills workshop
resume writing and interview skills workshop
Workshop on assertiveness
Workshop on assertiveness
workshop on domestic violence
workshop on domestic violence
social campaign
social campaign
Success story - Neha
Success story - Neha
DISCUSSION DURING RESIDENTIAL CAMP
DISCUSSION DURING RESIDENTIAL CAMP

Executive Summary

Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF), one of the unique programmes of Udayan Care that aims to promote and support higher education for girls from disadvantaged background to develop them into dignified independent young women. The fellowship ensures that the lives of the girls do not succumb to monetary hardships and they do not give away their most cherished dream of thinking big and making a mark for themselves. However, USF is not just envisaged as a monetary assistance programme, but rather, as a holistic programme of sustained mentoring support and association. The growth is fostered with continued association of mentoring, motivational workshops, and development of socially responsible behavior through awareness drives. The fellowship stands as different because of its pyramidal mentoring.

The six months were filled with a series of activities which included Quarterly Workshop, Small Group Workshop, mentor mentee meets. Quarterly workshops were conducted on SMART PARADIGMS- SPELL SUCCESS. Small group workshops conducted on imbibing the skills and tools for creating and preparing a resume. Workshop on ‘leadership’ built an understanding on the effective and ineffective styles of leadership whereas team building sessions developed an applicability of Team Building Skills in the different life situations.

Five days’ residential camp on Comprehensive Sexual education and Leadership Building echoed as the central theme of the USF residential program was a mixed bag of imparting knowledge and fun based exposure for the fellows.

 

Details of Progress during Reporting Period:

 

Workshop on resume building

OBJECTIVES

  • To develop the skills and tools for creating and preparing a Resume.
  • To Understand the format of Resume
  • Differentiating what is acceptable what is not while writing a Resume.
  • Reflection on how to make Resume effective

CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME:

  • Understood the importance of introspection required for building an impressive and earnest Resume.
  • Got a better understanding of the format of the Resume and approach to make them more effective.
  • Accepted the importance of tailoring Resume as per the requirements of the job.

 

Workshop on “Smart Paradigm- Spell Success”

SESSION ONE: The facilitator conducted the workshop on “Smart Paradigms, spell success”. The facilitator first aired a question on the understanding of the word paradigm to fellows to which the responses were – it is a set of beliefs, values, ideas one possesses. The facilitator, reflecting on the responses of the fellows, explained paradigm to be Mental maps based on the principle of our brain of matching things. For better understanding on the same, certain pictures were shown.

EMPHASIS OF THE SESSION:

  • Understood the word paradigm and necessity of having strong self-paradigm.
  • Learnt on the understanding of building positive paradigms for oneself

 

SESSION TWO: The second session was conducted by Mr. Kwatra who is the ex- principle of Hans Raj College; he has many degrees in diverse fields. The prof. talks excessively on patience, perseverance, practice; these are the 3Ps on which one should have a great hold. To excel in any area of life, the main component which is needed is PATIENCE; patience to wait till the outcome is achieved. Showing patience at a time when hurdles come our way, perseverance is being persistent in our work, ways and approach towards life, practice is the only way to get success and master in whatever we are doing.

 

SESSION THREE: YP FOUNDATION- Comprehensive Sexual Education

YP Foundation initiated a campaign called know your body, know your right as a part of comprehensive sexual education program. To familiarize with the subject, the representatives of the organization, talked on India’s first youth led campaign on why sexual education should be accessible to young people.

The facilitators explained the need of the program with few facts, which was recognized when Population Council did a National Study on “ Youth in India” to discover that of a total population of over 50,000 young people, only 15% of young people have access to information from their parents or teachers on any kind of sexual education. By 18, 28% of Indian women will have given birth to a child and 49% will be married. Of 2.5 million people in India who are HIV+, 50% of all new infections take place amongst young people between 15-24 years of age.

During adolescence, we all go through the same feelings and in dearth of proper guidance young people often indulge in activities which often lead them into difficulties in life. Prevention can only come via proper guidance, and proper guidance will only come when we as a society start taking the matter of sexual education seriously.

EMPHASIS OF THE SESSION:

  • Learnt about the campaign “know your Body, know your Rights”.
  • Understood the importance of having comprehensive sexual education as a part of our educational curriculum

 

GROUP ACTIVITY 1 : Who’s your leader?

DESCRIPTION

Facilitator asked the fellows “Who according to them is their leader in personal life”?

Each fellow had to think about one such person and the reason for considering them a leader. Each of them had to share responses.   

OUTCOME

Majority responded, school principal, uncle, best friend, elder sister, and mother as leaders. Qualities emerging out of the discussion were vision to see, loved by all, convincing power, team worker, daring and many others. Further the fellows discussed upon the reasons for choosing these people as their leaders.

 

GROUP ACTIVITY 2: Debate it out- Leaders are not born but made

DESCRIPTION

On the basis of the position they took on the topic, fellows were divided into two teams-For and Against the motion.

OUTCOME

Each and every fellow was able to put forward their stand to strengthen their argument. While some strongly believed that leadership is inbuilt characteristic and is possessed by only a few of them. The opposite team gave views that leadership can be developed with experience and time and everyone has the equal potential of becoming a leader.

GOLDEN RULES OF LEADERSHIP –The workshop  highlighted golden rules to summarize the discussion

  • Be approachable-A leader cannot sit in his cabin and ask team mates to meet some other time.
  • Lead bravely- Have courage to face at the same of controversies.
  • Acceptance-Accept the mistakes as you would accept the success.
  • Communicate frequently-Don’t lose touch with those who consider you a leader.
  • A Leader is not God.-Don’t consider yourself a solution to everything and anything.

CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME

  • Reflection about their development as an effective leaders in future.
  • Practical learning about linkages between leadership skills and personality development.

 

Workshop on Comprehensive Sexual education and Leadership Building echoed as the central theme of the USF residential program’ 2016, the camp saw the participation of 37 fellows from Delhi centre. A six day long camp from 30th May held at Jagshanti Udayan Ghar, Greater Noida, was a mixed bag of imparting knowledge and fun based exposure.

OBJECTIVES:

  • To enhance knowledge on sexual and reproductive health
  • To build understanding on the changes and the reasons behind the changes in the body
  • To advance leadership to enable young people’s access to Sexual and Reproductive Health Information and Services.

 

STORIES from Residential Camp: BREAKING INHIBITIONS

Shivani (Name changed) lives with her mother and doesn’t have a father and any sibling. For her, her mother is her world.  On the first day of the camp, she got very emotional remembering her mother. She has never lived alone without her mother. This camp was her first time away from home. Initially, during the session conducted, she was seen as painfully shy. But as soon as the session progressed, other fellow helped her in putting forth her views, questions. Through many group activities she opened up and overcame her inhibitions.” 

I never knew that I could speak in front of so many people and be able to put forward my views. But all thanks to USF residential camp for providing me with the opportunity to open up.  I was given a chance to step out from my shell, I gained confidence, started to feel good about myself. I began to develop a positive self-image.  This residential camp, all USF staff, facilitators and all my sisters Shalinis have contributed towards making me, “a better version of myself” i.e. a confident me with more spark. Teena (Name changed)

 

Workshop on Team Building

OBJECTIVES OF THE WORKSHOP

  • To develop applicability of Team Building Skills in the different life situations.
  • To enhance knowledge on various phases of team building.

LEARNING OUTCOME OF THE WORKSHOP:

  • Develop and learnt the applicability of different team building skills
  • Enhanced knowledge on various phases of team building

 

MENTOR MENTEE MEET

The meeting was important to be conducted as the fellows from Batch 13th had just finished their 12th Standard exams and needed guidance on the procedure for applying to various colleges, entrance examinations, etc.

Following reflections on the relationships with respective mentors were shared by mentee’s.

  • Mentor-Mentee interactions are always effective, solution is always provided by the mentor to all the problems
  • A new leaning in each meeting, a development plan has been made for them with the help of their mentors and expectations from the meetings are fulfilled.

CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME

  • Built understanding on the dynamics of mentoring as a process
  • Understood building blocks and source of strength and positive changes mentors have observed in the relationship.

 

Success Story

Dream of Teaching!!

In learning you will teach, and in teaching you will learn. ~~By Phil Collins

Hailing from a remotely situated small village in Uttarkashi, Neha (name changed)’s only dream was to study and be like her teacher only what she has seen and known. Neha adores teaching as a process. A teacher plays a very vital role in shaping and making the lives. Her father, who works in the farm of others, was miserably unable to look after his family of four daughters and wife. The father heartbreakingly agreed to send her daughter with one of their acquaintances who lives in Dehradun in a hope that her daughter will get to study and have a good life. Her family’s financial condition is very much poor that it was impossible for her even to do schooling.

Apart from her academic engagements and pressure for studies, she is currently doing BA. She is also voluntarily teaching kids living in slum areas without charging any fees. She has passion for teaching. She believes she will become the kind she can and others will be proud of.

My happiness couldn’t be measured when I got selected in Udayan Shalini Fellowship. It gave a hope and big support to my life and got me another family in the form of mentors and co-fellows.  If I was not a part of USF, I can’t imagine what my life would have been. 

USF taught me many things and the biggest thing that “I have learned from it, is to present my views and perceptions in front of others, it has taught me to be assertive in a very positive way which I think is very important in this rushing and competitive world. I come from a very small village where the environment itself does not encourage us to grow in life but I am grateful to USF for its amazing programmes for needy girls and students like me. Today I take part in Weekly group discussions held in Udayan Care office where I take part with confidence and put forward my perceptions and share what I feel. It helped me to improve my knowledge in many present issues and preparing me for competitive exams.”

 

GROUP EXERCISE ON SEX AND SEXUALITY
GROUP EXERCISE ON SEX AND SEXUALITY
RESUME WRITING !
RESUME WRITING !
SGW- TEAM BUILDING
SGW- TEAM BUILDING
RESUME WRITING WORKSHOP
RESUME WRITING WORKSHOP
MENTOR MENTEE MEET
MENTOR MENTEE MEET
Alumnae Meet
Alumnae Meet

 

Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF), one of the unique programmes of Udayan Care that aims to promote and support higher education for girls from disadvantaged background to develop them into dignified independent young women. The fellowship ensures that the lives of the girls do not succumb to monetary hardships and they do not give away their most cherished dream to think big and make a mark for themselves. Howe ever, USF is not just envisaged as a monetary assistance programme but rather as a holistic programme of sustained mentoring support and association. The growth is fostered with continued association of mentoring, motivational workshops, and development of socially responsible behavior through awareness drives. The fellowship stands different because of its pyramidal mentoring.

The six months were filled with series of activities which included Quarterly Workshop, Small Group Workshop, Social Campaign, Inter Chapter Meet and Alumni Meet.  Quarterly workshops were conducted covering diverse themes incorporating, Domestic Violence Act” for children from economically weaker section of society. Small group workshops conducted on imbibing an understanding on exam preparedness techniques and indispensable life skills including self-esteem, Confidence & Communication. Induction ceremony marked another milestone with the new intake of fifty additions to the USF family. An Alumni Meet was also organized to bridge the gap between the passed out and existing Shalinis. 

Activities Undertaken During the Reporting Period

1) Workshops 

A) A Workshop on Self Esteem

Through the activities conduted druring the workshop, facilitator helped the fellows in identifying the factors affecting our self-esteem. One of the activities involved fellows to recall places, names, situations, etc. that helped in building their self-esteemand write them down while other activity involved fellows recalling their favorite actress and write their feeling if they looked like them.

In the end, the girls we asked to make a promise card to themselves as a commitment to action to build body confidence. 

B) A Workshop on Domestic VIiolence & Right To Education

We have organised a workshop with the objective to educate fellows about the Domestic Violence Act and the Right to Education so that they can imply and spread the learnings.

C) A Workshop on Building Confidence & Communication Skills

This workeshop was organised to develop better understanding of how they can enhance their confidence level by simply adapting few practices like not comparing, by staying calm, relaxing, loving themselves, etc. in their daily lives. This would in turn help in improving on their communication skills.

D) A Workshop on Exam Preparedness

It was workshop full of enjoyable activities to make the fellows realize the importance of memory games to increase the memory power. A sentence was initiated by the facilitator and the fellows had to repeat it adding one word at the end of the sentence. The game continued with each new person reciting the previous list before adding their choice of item. Fellows were also advised to solve puzzles like Sudoku to enhance memory power.

A well-structured plan for preparing for exams was described to them, wherein major focus was laid on staring the preparation at an early stage. Importance of making Flashcards was also explained amongst others.

OUTCOME

  • Fellows will be able to adapt various techniques to increase memory power
  • They will be confident enough to plan their studies in an effective and efficient manner.
  • Also, they will study in groups to gain and share knowledge.

2. ALUMNAE MEET

Our ALUMNAE of the programme came togther with great zeal and enthusiasm on 31st January. It was a beautiful meet to rejoice and remember the spirit of being a Shalini. Besides the fellows themselves, the meet saw the presence of mentors, convenors and other esteemed guests. Reading the Udayan Shalini pledge was all that was needed to begin the program on the most emotional and optimistic note. Sharing of experiences made fellows go down the memory lane. From the managing trustee, to the mentors and the senior manager, all shared their experiences of their journey with USF. 

3. Our Sucess Strory

"Dream of Cardiology”

(B’cOZ  HeArt and its matters matter!! )

Born in the bharanta village in kangada valley amidst the green hills of palampur in himachal Pradesh, With hopes in heart and dreams in their eyes, Darshana’s (Name Changed) family in search of better life, better future and better livelihood opportunities migrated to Delhi. Darshana was in third standard at that time. Darshana has always been a brilliant student and is always the apple of her teacher’s eyes. Her father works in a stationary shop in Chandhi Chowk area of Delhi.  With his monthly income, he could hardly manage the expenses of his family, he being the only breadwinner in the family. 

Udayan fellowship came as a blessing in disguise in their lives. Darshana had her heart in Science subject but she was aware of her father's economic conditions and of the expenses that would be incurred for pursuing further education, financial help given by USF proved to be a great help. Deprived from education, her parents couldn’t guide her to the path of education, besides providing moral and emotional support. 

Cardiologist!! This is what she firmly opined she wants to become, her dreams and the dreams of her parents got wings. When she got selected for the fellowship, she said, “I am thankful to my teachers who informed me on this fellowship. I didn’t have much idea on the workshop part to enhance our overall personality which will provide us out of box of thinking.  

ALUMANAE MEET 2
ALUMANAE MEET 2
Workshop on CONFIDENCE AND COMMUNICATION 2
Workshop on CONFIDENCE AND COMMUNICATION 2
Workshop on EXAM PREPAREDNESS
Workshop on EXAM PREPAREDNESS
SELF ESTEEM WORKSHOP
SELF ESTEEM WORKSHOP
Success strory - Story of Change
Success strory - Story of Change
Business Etiquettes
Business Etiquettes

Narrative Report Format

Name of the Organization: Udayan Care

Reporting Period: October 15 to December’15

Name of the project: Udayan Shalini Fellowship Programme

  1. Executive Summary

Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF), one of the unique programmes of Udayan Care that aims to promote and support higher education for girls from disadvantaged background to develop them into dignified independent young women. The fellowship ensures that the lives of the girls do not succumb to monetary hardships and they do not give away their most cherished dream to think big and make a mark for themselves. Howe ever, USF is not just envisaged as a monetary assistance programme but rather as a holistic programme of sustained mentoring support and association. The growth is fostered with continued association of mentoring, motivational workshops, and development of socially responsible behavior through awareness drives. The fellowship stands different because of its pyramidal mentoring.

The quarterly workshop conducted covering diverse topics on diverse themes incorporating, “Programming for gratitude” to Disability: “A boon or a Bane” to “Right to education” for children from economically weaker section of society. Small group workshops conducted on imbibing an understanding on Business etiquettes and indispensible life skills including conflict resolution aims to bring awareness to resolve conflict situations in life. Induction ceremony marked another milestone with the new intake of fifty additions to the USF family. Campaign conducted on the grave issue of girl child trafficking in the slum area of Jahangir Puri has developed a sense of social responsibility which comes with social sensitivity.

  1. Details of Progress during Reporting Period:

S.no.

Activities Undertaken During the Reporting Period

                                      Results

QUATERLY WORKSHOP

DATE

15 October’15

THEME

DISABILTIY

(A BOON OR A BANE)

PROGRAMMING FOR GRATTITUDE:

(TO LEAD A HAPPIER LIFE) 

RIGHT TO EDUCATION

FACILITATOR

Ms Binni

Ms Vibha (Co-founder of Muskaan Trust)

Indus Action  Team

FELLOWS

133 fellows (All batches)

VENUE

Mahavir Senior Model School

 

THEME ONE: DISABILTIY: A BOON OR A BANE

PROCESS OF THE WORKSHOP:

The facilitator who herself is considered in the category of Person with Disability in societies view, has decided to take up the issue of disability among people spearheading a talk on disability as a boon or a bane.  She commenced while emphasizing on “Person with disability Act”, 1995 which claim to give equal Opportunities, Protection of Rights and complete involvement of people with disability but on practical grounds has many loopholes which needs to be taken care of via appropriate amendments. The facilitator addressing fellows puts across a question on what do they all feel when they all meet and see, a person with disability, most of the fellows responded in a sense of hesitation in communicating whenever dealing with person with disability. In addition to the question, the facilitator queried on what encourage them to help person with disability, why do we help them?  What do we get in return? Fellows responded in terms of a Sense of satisfaction all of them experience whenever they get an opportunity to help someone in their capacities.

The facilitator puts forth the discussion on the major role of society, plays in shaping the person with disability. Often seen as a liability than an asset, Nevertheless our positive contribution in the society has already been proven by many like us. Giving instances of the famous personalities like Sudha Chandran, the facilitator talks about the contribution PWD’s (person with disabilities) are making in the society.

Talking on the denial of basic Human Rights including the denial of getting admission in the general school system, to get employment, to live independently in the community, to vote, to participate in sport and cultural activities, to enjoy social protection, to access justice, to choose medical treatment and so on.

The facilitator culminated her session with a Quote “Disability is god given but the handicap is man-made”.  Where she emphasize on dialogue, we all have options, options to choose our vulnerability to weaken ourselves or to strengthen ourselves.

THEME 2: PROGRAMMING FOR GRATTITUDE: To lead a happier life

Prior to the commencement of the gratitude section, Ms Rachel Siyang, who is an alumnus from Harward business school shared few words of knowledge with the fellows, talking on facts, she informed on how 25% of employment depends on our Intelligence quotient and rest 75% depends upon the willingness, and eagerness to learn in life. Saying on three points as follow:

  • Gratitude

(Showering thankfulness to the people we are blessed with in our life)

  • Writing a Journal

(Memoir of daily experiences, everyday writing down three things we are grateful for).

  • Exercise

(Exercise to keep mind and body in best of their health, exemplifying as concentrating on every intake of breath every morning)

Mrs. Vibha, founder of Muskaan trust spearheaded the session with a quote, “Whatever happens in life, happens in the form of give and take”. She commenced her session asking the fellows to sit in one big circle. The first exercise she asked “what do our hand lines says about gratitude (looking at our hand for a minute). Then asked few volunteers to come up and share their experiences. Responses came up as follow:

  • Feeling of thankfulness
  • Our right hand is following the lines of our left hand and vice versa.
  • Thankful for the hands which are an important component of the body.
  • Giving without expecting any mean
  • The small lines on our hands are the happiness and the small lines are the problems.

The facilitator then further illustrated her points on exploring ways to show gratitude to people: 

Showing Smiley’s: We all have choices on how we react to the world and worldly vibration. Many of us have this habit to criticize things in life whether its people, situations or places. Explaining how the nature of every single thought going on in our mind, further turns into words and action, produces molecular waves and vibration in the atmosphere which has an effect on every object and waves spread throughout the universe.

The facilitator explained how any good thought, word or action produces a good vibration and does well to many and so in the same way how every bad thought destroys the person capacity to think.

The facilitator whilst explaining the circle on how our every thought give rise to the words  we speak which further turns into actions and then takes the shape of our habit became our character and then turn into our  destiny. She explained the more we give into a negative thought the more will be the drain in our energy and the more you give in to your negative thoughts, the stronger harmful they become.

Interconnectedness: Putting in dialogue the interconnectedness we all share with the world. She explained we all are part of the universe and by de-facto all are the somewhere related to each other.

Negative Self Talk: Addressing fellows, the facilitator bring forth the concept of self talk. The nature of conversation we have with ourselves determines our happiness.

Amplifying it with the lenses of neuron-science, the facilitator explained every self talk we have with ourselves sends out vibration to the universe. Every action produces molecular wave and spread in the universe.

Quoting “It is not happy people who are thankful rather it is thankful people who are happy”. The one thing that is common in all human beings is that we all want to become a happy soul.

PRACTICING GRATITUDE: The facilitator briefed on the levels of practicing gratitude. We all have so many things in life for which are grateful. All the levels are covered in the form of individual exercises.

Gratitude to YOURSELF:

In the ambit of which the facilitator asked the fellows to do an individual exercise, “Notice any one thing positive about oneself and write a note saying ‘Thank You’

FELLOWS Responses

  • “Thankful for having a helping nature and a helping heart”
  • “Thankful for having faith in almighty”

Gratitude to “NATURE”During this individual exercise fellows were asked, to “Pick any one thing for which they are thankful to Nature”.

FELLOWS Responses

  • For the sun that glows.
  • For keeping us healthy.
  • For the autumn and Rain 

Gratitude to “CARING FIGURE”:Part of the exercise the facilitator asked the fellows, to name anyone in their life, be it their mentor, teacher, friends who they considered as caring figure in their lives.

FELLOWS Responses

  • Thankfulness to USF mentors
  • Majority expressed heartiest thank to “Mr Faheem” (Assistant Director of USF program) for being a caring brotherly figure

Gratitude to USF: The facilitator asked the fellow to quote one thing for which they are thankful to the USF program. Realizing that though it is not an easy task to put feeling into words.

FELLOWS Responses

  • A platform has been provided though which I happened to meet inspiring people who shaped my personality and changed me as an individual.
  • The programs believed in us and act a catalyst in making us believe in our capacities as an individual.

Gratitude WALK:the facilitator asked the fellows to walk out of the room and make a call to that one person to whom they are thankful to the bottom of their hearts. 

FELLOWS Responses

  • Feeling of contentment and onus prevailed all over body.
  • Enhanced level of happiness when the feeling of gratitude was expressed.

EMPHASIS of the Session

  • Each time we express gratitude, a pathway leading to happiness and positivity is made.
  • Taking note of few good experiences of the day previous day help us to stay positive

The session culminated with a de-facto confession, addressing fellows that every individual is blessed 84000 second in a day and it is upon each individual how we utilize each and every minute.

THEME THIRD : RIGHT TO EDUCATION

Since the Right to Education has opened up many opportunities for children from economically weaker sections. The Indus team informing on Section 12(1) (c) of the RTE Act which mandates that private unaided schools reserve 25 per cent of their seats in for EWS students and those from disadvantaged groups.

The Indus team, praised fellows who made their best efforts to spread awareness and knowledge on the policy during their engagement as a volunteer for the cause. The team congratulated fellows for their previous contribution in making difference in the lives of many children via volunteering for the cause and guided on how to carry on worth the work.

SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP

               DATE:            

            11th October, 15

        THEME 

Conflict Management        

   VENUE

Mahavir Senior Modern School

       NO. OF PARTICIPANTS                       

13th Batch

FACILITATOR               

        Ms. Shalu Saharan

Mrs. Arti Upadhayay

 OBJECTIVES

  • To draw the attention and participation of the Fellows on the topic of Conflict.
  • To increase their ability to analyse conflict situations
  • To bring awareness to resolve conflict situations
  • To provide a platform where they can share their thoughts and get clarity.

BRIEF OVERVIEW OF THE SESSION:

Facilitator conducted Small Group Workshop for batch 13. The whole workshop was divided in two sessions. These sessions were as follows:

SESSION FIRST:

The first session was conducted with the aim of understanding what is meant by the term “Conflict”. The facilitator asked the fellows what they understood by this word.  The fellows related it with the word “Duvidha”, and happens when there are two equally important situations, to choose from and then to decide which one to do. The facilitator then asked if this kind of a situation happens very often, to which there was a mild “YES” and then they were asked to think of a conflict situation that they last faced. Conflicts, if not handled properly, can become huge problems, and make things difficult.         

The fellows said that due to this being their important year being in the 12th grade, there were lots of conflicts that they were going through, and most important of which was to keep up with their time for study hours. The Facilitator then drew the attention of the Fellows to the question on what in their opinion is the source of conflict, how and when does a conflict arise. What is it that gives the chance for a conflict to happen?  The sources of conflict, she explained, were because of power or strength, and there is also economic power. These are bases for conflict which can also be aggressive conflict situations. There was another source of conflict that is non-aggressive, and arises from conflict in values. She said, in our day to day life, values have an important part to play. We all have values, and when that is affected, or when someone hurts our self esteem that is when most conflicts arise.

When bringing in discussion our ways of reacting to situation. We end up feeling agitated, dustups, and often ignore the situation or the place but there is a way called “NON AGGRESSIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION” which was further explained on the basis of model in the word of acronym.

The facilitator shared the term “STABEN”, and broke it down into components, that give rise, and also help solve conflicts when addressed in a systematic way.

  • S-  Source
  • T- Time and Place
  • A- Amicable
  • B- Behaviour
  • E - Emotion
  • N –Need

The facilitator then went back to the point where she had asked the Fellows to think of a conflict situation they had last faced. The fellows had to make groups of four, take 5 minutes to think of a situation, and each group do a role play based on the components explained.

SESSION SECOND:

 The objective and purpose for the role play was to have a clarity on their understanding of the conflict situation, and when faced with such a situation, how to find a solution so that the matter is settled in a non-aggressive way. The following situations were enacted and resolved by the groups:

  1. Deciding to spend 2 hours to celebrate her birthday with her friends, and got delayed, upset her friends, but in the end managed to have fun.
  2. Using whatsapp, friends decide to dine-out/have food at a restaurant, and share the bill. But it is high, and the host pays it.
  3. Siblings have an argument over use of television, which is one, and three of them want to use it at the same time, and how the mother helps them decide.

The Fellows, through their role plays, showed good understanding of how to resolve a conflict situation, because all of them used the method explained by the facilitator.

This also helped them build confidence in themselves, and to do away with fear of speaking up, and before the audience.

She explained the importance of time and place, and how sometimes it becomes difficult to face a situation and resolve the conflict. She emphasized that when we are in conversation, we must be sensitive to the place where we are. She gave the example of a teacher who reprimands a student for not doing and submitting her work on time, and scolds the student in harsh language before the entire. This hurts the ego and self respect of the student, and lowers her self esteem. When self esteem is low, it affects the mind and psyche of the individual and this does more harm to the student.

The facilitator also touched upon the fact that we all think from our own perspectives, and feel what we think is important, and do not consider others views important. But it is important to be practical and give way to reason based on the facts of the situation, and accept what is right.

She also said that we are all in our learning stage. She mentioned the term “SWOT” analysis, and elaborated that It is important for us to know our strengths and weaknesses. This is important for self development, and to improve on our weak areas in life.

It is also important to set goal, and as we go along, and improve, we can create goals to enhance our skills, and thereby raise our values in life, and preserve our self esteem.

CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME:

  • Orientation developed about the importance of conflict resolution in different daily life situations.
  • Awareness developed the effective behavior for resolving conflict.
  •  Enhanced knowledge gained for turning destructive conflict to constructive.

SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP

DATE:

24th October’15

     THEME: 

Business Etiquettes

VENUE:

Media House, Green Park

 

NO. OF PARTICIPANTS:

30 fellows

FACILITATOR:                                           Mrs Arti Upadhaya

PROCESS OF THE WORKSHOP 

The facilitator spearheaded his talk stressing on the word, “Etiquettes”, and asking fellows on their understanding of the word. The fellows responded in terms of relating it with mannerism and behavior, way of representing oneself. The facilitator further added to the responses of the fellow  and explained etiquettes as a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to   contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group.

The facilitator then expressed on the Etiquettes Standards for both men and women: Parameters on the basis of which standards should be set in terms of behaviors.

The facilitator elucidating it in terms of office behaviorism expected from both men and women and in common: but the same is relatable to everyone addressing mannerism as a way more crucial thing in life. An effort to draw a line of demarcation on the expected set of standards.

ETTIQUTTES STANDARDS FOR MEN, WOMEN AND BOTH: The basic etiquettes standards expected from men/women/In common,  on workplace 

Appearance Etiquettes for Men: Maintaining dress code, wearing ironed shirts, Ironed trousers, well tied tie, Polished shoes, Knowing business casuals.

The Indispensable Etiquettes standards expected from women counterpart on workplace.

Appearance Etiquettes for Women: A sense of dressing, Forbidding provocative clothing, Well tied hairs, Hygienically well maintained, Trimmed nails.  

 Basic mannerism etiquettes expected out of both the counterparts.

Standard for Hygiene Maintenance: Wearing fresh clothes, Body odor ,Trimmed nails , Combed and well tied hairs ,Mouth odor

BODY POSTURES: One of the crucial components bringing in the discourse on etiquettes is the body posture one follow in daily sitting attribute: the facilitator has demarcated/categorized the body posture attributes in five ways of sitting position: Sway back, Lumber hordosis, Thoracic kyphosis, Forward head and Good Posture.

INTRODUCTION ETTIQUETTES:Key things people notice is how to carry and present ourselves.

GROUND RULES: Stand up when introduced, Reach across and shake hand, Don’t panic if forget names, BE POISED. If someone forgets to introduce you take the initiative to introduce yourself.

HANDSHAKE TIPS: Handshakes are the only acceptable physical contact for men & women in the business arena. Handshakes are the universally accepted business greeting. Hugs & kisses are taboo in the business arena. You are judged by the quality of the handshake.

A Good Handshake: keep the fingers together with the thumb up and open, slide your hand into the other person's so that each person's web of skin between thumb and forefingers touches the others, Squeeze firmly.

A Proper Handshake: Is firm, but not bone-crushing, lasts about 3 seconds, may be "pumped" once or twice from the elbow, is released after the shake, even if the introduction continues, includes good eye contact with the other person

Handshaking Tips: If your hands tend to be clammy, spray them with antiperspirant at least once a day, Avoid giving a cold, wet handshake by keeping your drink in the left hand.

Extend a Hand when: Meeting someone for the first time, meeting someone you haven't seen for a while, greeting your host(ess), greeting guests, saying good-bye to people at a gathering, someone else extends a hand.

EMAIL ETIQUETES: Understanding email writing as one of the most important way of communication. The facilitator emphasized, when we converse we expect other people to observe certain rules of behavior and the same is true for e-mail writing. Following points should be kept in mind while framing any important mail which is as follow: 

  • Clearly summarizing message in the subject line: Throughproperly titled message with appropriate subject line helps people organize and prioritize their e-mail.
  • Should Avoid using all capital letters and writing in red font: The facilitator emphasized that, writing in capital letters, makes it look SHOUTING and also more difficult to read. Writing think in RED font is considered as an escalation.

OFFICE PARTY ETTIQUETTES: The facilitator explained on how important it is to behave at office parties and get together. Since, the name party is coupled with office when talking about office party etiquettes, it is very essential for an individual to behave sensibly at parties held in office.  The facilitator focused and tried to lineate the points one should keep in mind whenever physically present in the situation.

  • Take an initiative to introduce yourselves to Others: Office parties are a good way to know your fellow workers. Socialize with others, rather than standing at one corner. Greet all with a smile and exchange pleasantries.
  • Drinking excessively at office parties is foolish.
  • Should eat in moderate quantities, do not load up your plate with food and once finished eating, keep the utensils at proper places

CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME

  • Got an insight into the behaviourism/mannerism as a vital part of the life.
  • Understood on etiquettes set standard for men and women and both.
  • Understood on the etiquettes to be adopted at different situations.

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SOCIAL CAMPAIGN

DATE

5th December’15

VENUE

Jahangir Puri Residential Area (I & J Blocks)

PARTICIPANTS

65

BACKGROUND AND DESIGN OF THE CAMPAIGN

BACKGROUND OF THE CAMPAGIN

To raise awareness and provide solutions about how hundreds of girls and young women go missing everyday in India by involving NGOs working on child trafficking and education in different cities, from 25th Nov. to 10th Dec., coinciding with the 16 Days of Activism on Violence Against Woman and Girls.

10 NGOs across the country confirmed their participation. Among them Udayan Care participated through the USF programme at the re-settlement colony, Jahangir Puri.

PROCESS OF THE CAMPAIGN

The group went door to door raising awareness on child trafficking and providing information and solutions about how hundreds of girls and young women go missing everyday in India.  Fellows with their understanding on Human trafficking as one of the world largest crimes against humanity, yet it goes unnoticed by the majority of society.

During the campaign Silhouettes of girls with the tag #missingirls were painted on walls, followed by a street performance by the Shalini Fellows to inform the community about the problem of human trafficking and demonstrate how to take appropriate action when faced with a potential human trafficking situation.  Afterwards, an open discussion was held, with the active participation of community members.

In the end, our fellows enacted a street play on the cause of trafficking. Via which gave all the important dates of incidents that have happened so far in the recent past. And effectively imprinted the child helpline no by “N” no. repetitions into the psyche of the community inhabitants “1098”.  

 14th INDUCTION CUM ORIENTATION CEREMONY

 

DATE

                1st NOVEMBER’15

VENUE

   Mahavir Senior Modern School

Another Milestone achieved in the annals of the Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF) Programme at Delhi has been marked by inducting another fifty new Shalini’s for the 14th batch, and welcoming them to prepare for, and begin this wonderful journey to realize their potential and reach their dream goals. The family gets bigger as Genpact takes on the onus of providing the financial support required to make this journey possible. A group photograph of the 50 Shalinis’ with the dignitaries and staff was taken before the ceremony, which is an important component in observance of this occasion.

SHARING ANECDOTE: SYMBOLIC OF INITIATIVE AND BELIEF IN ONESELF:

The Emcees, both from Batch 10 USF, Neha and Preeti Lata took centre stage as they began the ceremony with an inspiring quote,  " If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing to do is to "wake up”,avery appropriate quote for the occasion, which was followed by the “Lighting of the Lamp” by the dignitaries present on the occasion. Dr. Kiran Modi, Managing Trustee, Udayan Care, welcomed the gathering and shared the inception and story of Udayan Care and Udayan Shalini Fellowship. She narrated a small anecdote. It was how when the celestial forces, the sun, the moon, and the stars wanted a day’s rest from God, and how a small “Deepak” (diya/lamp) said that he would give “light” (Roshni) to the earth. God asked how a small “Deepak” (diya) could give so much light.

The answer was, one “Deepak” would light another, then another and then another, and in this way would give light to the Earth. This anecdote was symbolic of initiative and belief in oneself, and thus bringing a change by sharing knowledge.

ADDRESSING BY THE CHIEF GUEST AND THE GUEST OF HONOR

The Chief Guest, Ms. Amrutha Guguloth, (IPS), Additional DCP-II, then administered the oath, which is a “Pledge” that the Shalinis’ vow to stand by comes what may in their journey of becoming a dignified woman. A sense of pride echoed in the voice of the fellows when they took the oath. After the oath the fellows were awarded their first fellowship cheque along with the Badge of Honor by the Chief Guest and Guest of Honor.

The Chief Guest then addressed the audience, and praised the girls for their intelligence and hard work, and said they were very fortunate to get such a wonderful platform to support them. She said that mere planning will not be enough. Action is very important. She blessed the girls for a bright future, and urged them to be strong, and make a difference in society.

The Guest of Honour, Mrs. Ameeta Mullah Wattal, Principal, Springdales School, and an educationist of repute, said she was amazed by the kind of work that Udayan Care is doing, and was touched by the concept of giving back to society included as an important component in the Udayan Shalini Fellowship Programme. Mrs. Wattal was very eloquent about the moment, and was very happy to be present among such an honourable gathering.

She also proudly spoke of the moment she had shared with our late President,  Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam, and reiterated the three things that he had told her was important to remember in life, is “to be a lamp, a ladder, and a lifeboat”. She blessed the girls, wished that they all be a lamp, a ladder, and a lifeboat in their journey of life from this moment. She reminded the Shalinis that they were very fortunate to have mentors, and they must make the best of it.

Conflcit Resolution Role Play
Conflcit Resolution Role Play
Induction - Delhi
Induction - Delhi
Quarterly Workshop (Programming for Gratitude)
Quarterly Workshop (Programming for Gratitude)
 

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Udayan Care

Location: New Delhi, Delhi - India
Website: http:/​/​udayancare.org/​
Project Leader:
Kiran Modi
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New Delhi, Delhi India
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