Help Stop Military Family Violence

by Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center
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In 2015 we helped more than 20 military victims experiencing domestic violence overseas. Without support like yours this would have not been possible.

Domestic violence in military families are especially challenging. Here is a note from one survivor we assisted:

"I was so afraid to tell anyone on the base, even the family advocates. He had strangled me and I knew if I told anyone in Germany, the next time he would kill me. Working with Katie over the phone helped me make some very difficult decisions. My son and I are safe now but I would not have been able to get home safely without you. I don't know how I can ever thank you enough."

We would like to sincerely thank you for your help! The AODVC Team

Monica called us from Italy after a very bad assault by her husband. The abuse had been escalating and she was afraid if she did a restricted report on base, it would become an unrestricted report and her husband would find out she told someone.

Her son Finn had seen a lot of the abuse and was now hitting Monica and screaming at her, emulating her husband. She knew she had to do something.

We worked with Monica for several weeks. We provided resources, counseling and a safe place to go to with Finn.

Monica and Finn are now in separate housing and safe. We would not have been able to provide these services without support from donations like yours.

We truly appreciate your support of our project to stop military family violence! The AODVC Team

At first, living in the UK as the civilian spouse of an American military man was a great experience. Vanessa met many other American civilian wives. She participated in fundraising projects, attended luncheons and joined a swim group.

But after a couple of months, the abuse started again. Her husband had been mentally and verbally abusive to Vanessa when they lived in the states. She asked him for a divorce. He cried, apologized and told her that moving to the UK would make everything better and give them a new start.

When Vanessa called us she just found out she was pregnant. Her husband had accused her of sleeping with other men and questioned her loyalty. He didn't hit her but he threw things at her including a flower vase and picture frames. Vanessa was afraid to tell her husband. She had never been unfaithful but she was terrified he would go into a rage.

We safety planned, and because of donations like yours, we were able to get Vanessa back to the USA. Vanessa moved in with her mother and hopes her husband gets anger management or other help but right now, she is focusing on herself, her photography business and the baby.

Thank you so much for donating to help stop Military Family Violence! The AODVC Team

Jeremy was ashamed to call us. He is stationed at a military base in Spain. His wife, a Spanish national, was the love of his life. They married six months after meeting in Spain. At first Jeremy thought that her little bouts of jelousy were cute. Jeremy would hug her and tell her he loved her and within minutes everything was fine.

But then she began going through the pockets of his fatigues, checking his phone and searching his car. Hugging her did no good and on serveral occasions she became violent, hitting him, screaming and throwing things at him.

When Jeremy called, he was suprised to hear that we understood what he was going through. He thought if he told anyone they would laugh at him. After all he is 6' tall and weighs 200 pounds. His wife is 5'3 and weighs 120 pounds. But Jeremy was exhausted from the emotional roller coaster.

We helped Jeremy with counseling. He decided he needed to leave his wife because he wanted to have children but knew his wife was too violent to raise a child.

Here is a note from Jeremy: "Y'all helped me so much. My head was all messed up. Now I"m okay. Sad but okay."

Thank you for helping Jeremy! The AODVC Team.

When Olivia joined the military she was ready to defend her country. She never thought she would have to defend her life from her husband when she was stationed in Italy. Olivia was afraid to speak to the family advocate at the base about the abuse. Her husband told her he would kill her if she told anyone.

Olivia saw one of our posters at the base. She called the international toll free number and spoke with Ava, one of our case managers. Olivia worked with Ava for several months safety planning and devising an exit strategy. Finally, we were able to get Olivia home safely, but she left the military in the process."

"It was hard walking away from the military and everything I thought I was going to do in my life but my husband was too powerful in the military. I filed for divorce and my husband is very angry. I am in a safe place and starting over. Thank you for all of your help."

We could not have helped Olivia without donations like yours. Thank you so much!

The AODVC Team

 

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Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center

Location: Portland, OR - USA
Website: http:/​/​www.866uswomen.org
Project Leader:
Paula Lucas
Founder
Portland, OR United States
$4,940 raised of $15,000 goal
 
127 donations
$10,060 to go
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