Thuy looks out at her new life
Thuy’s abuse began the moment she was conceived. Her mother was unmarried and her father was a criminal. She was born unwanted - her very existence brought shame to her family in Vietnam. “As early as I can remember, I was beaten and humiliated.”
Thuy was raised like one of the family’s animals. She ate pig slop. Her clothes were dipped in manure. At 15, she was sexually abused by her cousin. Unable to take it anymore, Thuy ran away. A social worker directed her to Hagar.
When she completed vocational training, Hagar staff helped Thuy find a job at a bakery. She is now a supervisor and trains new employees. She was even nominated as Employee of the Year!
“Things are getting better for me now. Before, I didn’t trust other people because of my past - I feel stronger now. Hagar helped me understand my strengths and weaknesses.”
With her newfound confidence and independence, Thuy wanted to reconcile with her family. By choice, she moved back home. At first, it was like old times, and they abused her emotionally and physically. Twice she considered moving out, but with Hagar’s help, she learned to communicate better.
Now, she feels strong enough to stand on her own and deal with her family problems. Her relationships are improving. She and her father talk over issues.
“I am a grown up now and I can take care of myself, but it does not mean that I don’t want my family.”