Caroline’s third daughter, Zoe, was diagnosed with cerebral palsy the day before her second birthday.
Zoe was born three months premature, weighing just 2lb 2oz. Caroline tells us about their inspiring journey and how Sparks helps them keep the faith.
“When Zoe was born, she was the length of my husband’s watch. A face cloth completely covered her, and her whole hand was my thumb nail. As much as she was vulnerable, I also thought ‘wow, this is a real miracle’.”
Up until the age of two, she met all her milestones so we weren’t too worried, but I could tell there were balance issues and things like that. People would tell me ‘no, no, it’s just because she’s little, you’re nervous’.
The day before Zoe’s second birthday, we went for an appointment and were told she had cerebral palsy – completely out of the blue. We had everyone waiting at home for a birthday party. I’m ashamed to say that I had no previous knowledge of any disability.
I visualised the worst: wheelchair, dribbling, not being able to stand, walk or talk. As we walked to the car, I remember my husband saying, ‘I’m telling you now she is going to walk’. I was so sad looking down at her little red patent shoes thinking, ‘she is never going
to walk in those’.
I felt like windows of opportunity were closing for my daughter, but I didn’t want to be negative with it, and that’s been our attitude ever since. And that’s what Zoe does. I couldn’t ask for a better daughter, or for a better person to be in my life. She amazes me really.
She’s had a massive amount of knock-backs, but she pushes the boundaries and does as much as she can. We were launched into a world we didn’t expect to be in, but are now proud to be part of. We’ve met lots of families who want the best for their kids.
“The world is difficult for kids like this. That’s why it’s nice to have Sparks there.”
Having a disabled child is a rollercoaster that bonds families. Every milestone Zoe met was a celebration within the family. And we have an amazing extended family that inspired us to keep going. My father has tried to climb the peaks for charity, aged 72. Zoe’s sisters are great, they look out for each other. They are all very unique and we celebrate them all.
Sparks came into our lives when Zoe was going from appointment to appointment. We spoke to Sparks research specialists and met people who have done amazing things.
When we did the Sparks fashion show in 2006, she had a beautiful dress but big Perspex splints with Velcro all round them. So you had this beautiful angelic child, this gorgeous sparkly dress and then these big splints. Zoe has a good attitude and is up for trying anything. We do laugh at some things, like funny boots and funny shoes and things. It’s not easy but we get through together.”