Children always crave for love and attention by their parents and when parents fail to match up to these expectations children naturally tend to get misguided. Parental negligence nevertheless hinders a child’s overall development and causes an insecure environment for them at home.
SS, aged 17, was found on the railway station in a tattered and miserable condition, hails from Tamil Nadu but has been in Bangalore most of his life was brought to BOSCO Yuvodaya. At the initial counseling sessions, he refused to speak much about his family background, but as time passed by he slowly started sharing his experiences.
During the counselling sessions, it was found that, at a very young age his mother ran away leaving him behind with his father to care of everything. When he was twelve years old, his father got married again, to a woman with two children. His step mother soon began causing him a lot of problems which in turn made his father to stop caring about him that created an unhappy environment for him at home.
Due to lack of love and care, SS often began to leave home and roam around the streets with his friends. Influenced and motivated by his peers led him into taking drugs and that caused many behavioural problems, which got him into trouble with the police. Although he received formal education till seventh standard, he preferred to drop out from school, because of the problems that began to rise. Later when he was forced to do his tenth standard he was unable to cope up because of those missing years of education due to which he was not entitled to do his exams and this provoked him to run away from home.
Every often he would go home and demand for money from his father, if he didn’t receive any he would then beat his father up. He occasionally used to visit his mother, who lives in Tamil Nadu with her new husband and would often move around between mother’s and his father’s house. While the rest of the time he spent traveling around with friends, visiting different cities and working with gangs to help him survive. He had recently been in Kolkata and it was when he arrived back in Bangalore that he met BOSCO staff.
After explaining about his background to the BOSCO counselor, SS gave his father’s contact details. The counselor called up SS’s father to tell him that his son was in and asked him to come and collect him. Unfortunately his father was not interested and said BOSCO should do what they want with him because of the problems he has caused at home. SS’s father has given up on him but BOSCO has provided him with a chance to do something positive in his life by extending their acceptance and support.
All children have the right to grow up in a safe and secure environment and be cared for but when this is not provided they often feel insecure and are forced to run away. Once they leave home they are extremely vulnerable and very easily become victims of various substance abuses and are usually held for illegal activities through no fault of their own.
SS has suffered a lot of hurt and rejection from his parents. Although he has the capacity to physically look after himself, he requires constant support and guidance to help him to move on in his life. He is now referred to BOSCO Yuvakendra, the rehabilitation centre for boys over 14 years and an environment where people care and support him.