Build Healthy Relationships in100 Rwandan Couples

by Global Grassroots
Jul 24, 2012

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Our project continues to teach the community how people would work to handle domestic violence through theaters. During these last months we have been performing for our target couples. The following story describes some culture barriers towards a developing community in brief.

In the play there is a woman who uses to deliver dead babies. At her first pregnancy when she delivered a dead baby, the husband and the whole family gave condolences to the wife. Then, the couple continues living in harmony. After one year and half, she became pregnant again. The family found a professional doctor who will be doing the follow up to the progress of the pregnancy. Unfortunately, after nine months she delivered a dead baby again. The conflict started, and the husband’s family refused to bury the baby at their place saying that they don’t like any evil wife. Then, friend came and discussed the issue. Finally, they accepted to bear a burden of burying the body.

Since then, the husband was asked to marry a new wife, so that he can have a baby. He needed first to divorce legally with her current wife, for him to be allowed to marry another wife. As a result, he started approaching his wife, in order to start the process of divorce. One day he asked the wife out so that they would discuss the issue of divorce together. As the wife was unaware, she thought that the husband had a plan to kill her, and she refused the invitation. When the husband came back home, he denied to speak for one week, which made the wife get worried. The wife asked the husband what was going on, but he kept the silence. The wife decided to go back home to her mom who is a widow, but before packing her stuffs she called the mom on phone. The mom told her that she should be submissive to any request from her husband rather than leaving him, and she added that is how things have happened between wives and their husbands since the beginning. In other words, the mother forbade her to come no matter what made her make that decision.

The next day, the husband gave her another invitation, and she accepted. They had a long discussion, and the wife refused to divorce. As a conclusion to the discussion, the husband gave her the last chance but for only one condition: “no longer giving birth to a dead baby”. Few months later, she got pregnant again, and again the baby also died. The in law family sat down and said that it was enough. They went directly to the authority in charge to ask for a divorce, although finally they have been informed that no law admits divorce just because of delivering a dead child or not having a child. Therefore, their request was not considered. Interested in what happened? Please don’t miss to read our next report.

Our theater continues to be a favorite for many people in our community. We are glad that our message is being spread widely and fast to a large number of people that we could not even count. We would like to thank our donors for this achievement. It is very interesting to see how our program is bringing a positive impact in our society.


Thank you very much again.


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Location: Portsmouth, NH - USA
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Gretchen Wallace
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Hanover, NH United States

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