Build Healthy Relationships in100 Rwandan Couples

by Global Grassroots
Oct 5, 2011

Family advice, movie

Achieving a Better Life, Late September/Early October Report

Achieving a Better Life is promoting healthy relationships in Rwandan society. We are coming out with another new movie.

The movie is called Agaseke, which means “The Secret” and is represented in Rwandan culture by a traditional basket. We tell the stories of two different couples, raising issues that are barriers to having good marital relationships. We did not forget our youth.

In the story “Basket” we meet two men named Kanyamanza and Kamurari, who is married to the woman Umunyana. The two men are twins but people can tell them apart by their different behaviors. Kamurari is married but his twin Kanyamanza is a domestic worker.

At the beginning of the story, Kamurari gets married to Umunyana then starts to change. He has many lovers until he brings home a mistress who was a student and is now pretending to be his cousin. The story tells how he refused to accept responsibility for his wife’s pregnancy, how he mistreated her during her pregnancy, and how he disrespected her with the name he gave to the baby.

The second couple is the family with which Kanyamanza lives as a domestic worker. The husband is the stereotypical man who is always busy with the work and doesn’t care about his wife until the time the wife gets tired. In Rwandan society, it is usually the man who decides when the couple will make love, so our aim with these scenes is to teach women to leave their fear and have a conversation with their husband. In our film, the wife summons the courage to ask her husband ‘why.’ She explains to him that she needs sex sometimes, too. However, the husband didn’t take care of the situation although it was serious. One day, he ran off for work while his wife was making a surprise for his birthday. Then in the end, the wife, who told him that she needed affection, comes to seduce the domestic worker Kanyamanza, who is a very nice man.

The message for the youth is about the current phenomenon that in our society now, boys want to marry rich women. They also have sex before marriage, saying that there are some who are better than others and they need to take advantage.  But AIDS could be waiting for them if they are not careful. That why Gahigi, who was in love with and engaged to a school headmistress, refused to marry her. So, the headmistress chose the domestic worker Kanyamanza as a lover, because he is a very nice person and treats everyone with respect.

These stories are the first installment of the series “Basket.” After distribution, 85% of a sample audience liked the family stories even more than the love stories, which shows that they appreciate the message we are bringing.  Many expressed thanks for raising these ‘secret’ domestic issues and congratulated Achieving a Better Life.

  • Alyssa Smaldino
    Alyssa Smaldino Congratulations, Charlotte! Sounds like things are going well :-)
    • 5 years ago
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