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Dec 2, 2013

Vietnam progress and Tams Story

 

Latest stats from the field:
32 Counselling sessions conducted each month
2 Training sessions for case managers
2 Self defense lessons consducted with clients
Tams Story
Tam is 25 years old and endured years of abuse by herfather and her husband. Due to the lack of aection andattention from the time she was young, Tam was extremely vulnerable. She married a man who professed his love forher without knowing much about his background and wassubsequently abused.
I come from a very traditional family. My father did not likeme because I was born a girl. I had a poor relationship withhim. He was very violent towards my mother and I. Manytimes, we left the house to stay with relatives when he hitus. One evening, he was so drunk and started hitting mymother and I. He drove both of us out of the house.
We decided that we couldn’t take it anymore and moved to Hanoi. That was in 2009.
In 2011, I met my husband in Hanoi. I knew him for several months and he proposed to me. I was verymoved as I thought I had found true love in this world. I borrowed money for our wedding because bothof us couldn’t aord it. I can still remember the day I was married. I was very happy and looking forwardto our beautiful life together.
Two days later, I learned by accident that he had already been married. He was separated from his wifebut he never told me that.
I was devastated. How could he have cheated me? But I forgave him. I was willing to be a submissivewife.
Things got worse. He lied to me and said he was looking for a job. But he never wanted to work. He wasalways hanging out with his friends. Whatever money I earned went into his pocket. When I refused togive him my salary, he hit me. After I gave birth to my daughter, the hitting became worse.
One day it got so bad that I had to run away from the house, leaving my daughter behind. I regretted mydecision of leaving her behind. But I had no choice because he stopped me and I did not have enoughstrength to ght back. When I came back, he told me that my daughter had been sent away to live withmy mother-in-law. When I called him to request to have my daughter, he wanted US$3000 from me.Where can I get the money to pay him? I still have not paid o the debt of another US$3000 owed for the wedding.
Thanks to Hagar, I have a place to stay, I receive training and I have a job at Joma.
My faith in God keeps me strong. I am trying to work very hard to save money to pay o my debts andto get my daughter back. I am not sure how long this will take and whether I can ever hold my daughteragain, as I earn only $150 a month. But I will continue to work hard, hope and pray.
For six months, Hagar has been supporting Tam with counseling, vocational training and employmentat Joma. She has shown commitment and diligence in her work at Joma. She is also receivingcounseling to help her manage her feelings of guilt over leaving her daughter. Hagar Vietnamhas referred Tam for legal advice on custody issues and is supporting her in being economicallyindependent.
Dec 2, 2013

Cambodia Update

Highlights:

BPR clients created bowls from strips of magazine paper and paper mache masksl A client has started running a small business early this month in Kompot province after succefully completing motor repair and maintanence training provided by Hagar.

 This month, four local businesses visited hagar to build a relationship around future partnership related to job placement and training.

 On October 8th, Hagar client Yong Sokchea travelled to Kompon Som province for a court date wich was delayed to the end of the month due to an absent witness. As part of the Refugee Projects “limited strategic interventions” initiative to support refugee clients whohave chosen to pursure their own small business enterprise, Hagar provided one client with materials to expand his food cart business.

Huys Story

 I never knew what was wrong with my grandson, Huy. Although he was old enough to go to school, he still couldn’t dress himself. He had trouble going to the bathroom alone and would break dishes when he was frustrated.
I tried sending him to public school, but he had to drop out. He was having diculties learning and none of his teachers knew how to help. Because he was dierent, the other children would tease and bully him.
One day at the market where I sell vegetables, my neighbor told me she also had a disabled child who was receiving help from a non prot organization called Hagar. She claimed her daughter had already improved and hoped the same for Huy.
I contacted the NGO and after a brief interview, Huy was accepted into Hagars House of Smiles programme where I learned for the rst time about autism. Here Huy receives the attention he deserves and gets the specialized help he needs to succeed not only in school but also in life. Within a few months he was able to eat and make his bed and do all sorts of things on his own that I never thought possible.
Each month I meet with Hagarsta to discuss Huys progress and also his weaknesses. He continues to acquire necessary life skills but traditional learning remains a struggle. Together we nd solutions to all his problems.
My hope for Huy is that he will continue to mature and that one day he will even be able to support himself since I know I am old and won’t always be with him. Despite what my culture suggests, I don’t believe we should ever give up on our children. When we help them step by step, our eorts won’t be worthless.
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Country News:Flood kills about 100 people in Cambodia this year.http://www.phnompenhpost.com/national/ooding-death-toll-tops-100
Malaysia has not yet received draft agreement on Cambodian maids protection.http://www.cambodiadaily.com/news/malaysia-says-no-draft-agreement-on-maids-yet-46399/l Cambodia government urges to enforce women right again violent and other legal aids.http://www.cambodiadaily.com/news/cambodia-urged-to-do-more-to-protect-women-advance-rights-45975
Jul 31, 2013

Hagar Was There For Me

I’ve never really gotten along with anybody. It all started with my parents who divorced when I was fifteen. At first, I was in conflict with my father. And then with my mother. Although I was intelligent and accomplished, these difficulties at home left me contemplating suicide. 

I finally thought I was doing well when I finished my first year of university. But then I was kidnapped and forced to marry the man who smuggled me away from my home to the capital city. Eventually, I escaped but had nowhere to go. Luckily, I found Hagar, participated in one of their vocational training programs and got a job in the kitchen at Joma Bakery Café. I did so well that I became employed by a few foreign families. That’s when I began my relationship with an older man—a Westerner. 

Things didn’t work out with him and a few years later I found myself in trouble in Malaysia. I had overstayed the visa I got to work in a Chinese factory. My case manager at Hagar helped me return to Vietnam but then I reentered the country illegally to be with my African boyfriend who I met online. 

All was well for the first few months of our relationship. I was pregnant and happy. But then I unexpectedly found myself caught in a drug trafficking ring and was asked by my new family and friends to participate in the trade. When I refused, the father of my child destroyed my belongings and came after me. 

Hagar tried to rescue me through a partner organization where I was staying. The staff even went as far as to contact the embassy on my behalf. But I was too caught up in all the brokenness and the pain of my life to receive the help that was being offered. Nevertheless, my original caseworker maintained contact with me. I am now home and am trying to reintegrate with my family. 

Sometimes I look at my life and wonder how with so much promise, everything still turned out this way. Why I was brought up in such a destructive environment and why this experience continues to influence my choices? My whole life it has seemed that everyone has just given up on me—has either let me down or despised me. But through it all has Hagar has been there, is there and will continue to be there for me even when I haven’t done the best job of being there for myself.

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