A few more case stories over the last 3 months, which illustrate the type of calls we receive and the help we give.
JC Domestic Violence
After a distressed phonecall from JC, she came to the Sambhali office with her mother.
JC has a good education and a government job and has been married to RC for nineteen years.
After one year of marriage she gave birth to their son. At this time she started to receive many forms of abuse from her in-laws regarding the dowry, which her husband supported.
After a few years of marriage, her husband began an affair with another woman who works in his office. He often does not come home for four days at a time and switches his phone off.
He denies the affair when JC confronts him and this causes many fights.
This has led to JC becoming depressed and no longer fulfilling her own abilities.
Through counselling, JC was able to talk through the problems, and to be heard.
She was given advise to get out of the house and use the good education she has, to not spend time worrying about a husband who does not worry about her, she must remember she has loving and supportive parents and she must use her education to better herself and become financially independent and to focus her time and attention on the life and future of her son.
This may inspire her husband to better himself too.
With Sambhali’s support her self-esteem is much improved and she now feels empowered and motivated to go and live a better life for herself and the future of her son.
K Verbal Harassment
K called from Jaipur after receiving a series of harassing phone calls and vulgar WhatsApp messages from the same person, using many different numbers.
She was asking for advice if anything can be done, because she is very anxious and unable to sleep due to such mental stress.
Sambhali informed her that cyber crime is a real crime and is becoming An increasing issue these days. Support was given to encourage her to go to the police and report this. And we informed her there is actually a cyber crime office in Jaipur where she will be taken seriously and such offenders will be traced and punished.
Sambhali gave proper advice and moral support, helping this girl to be relieved of mental stress.
S Sexual Harassment
S came to Sambhali office with her sister-in-law asking for advice.
Her husband drinks too much alcohol and does not earn much money. S is earning money herself, by cleaning people’s homes for the monthly home expenses.
Her husband’s elder brother who lives nearby, comes into the house at night, sexually harming her. He threatens that if she does not make a physical relationship with him he will pour acid on her. When she had the courage to tell her husband of his brother’s threats her husband scolded her questioning why she would want to deframe his brother.
Feeling disturbed by the situation S asked for help. Sambhali was able to support her by telling her not to be frightened and supported her to go to the police. The police have investigated the case and her husband and his brother have been barred.
She states expressly that she does not want to live with her husband. She can live alone and support her children with her own money.
In this way Sambhali provided assistance to a woman suffering from sexual harassment, provided moral support and helped motivate her to live a new and happy independent life.
NS is a previous student of Sambhali, she finished her studies eight years ago and now has two children. She has recently been diagnosed with arthritis after investigations.
Her husband is also sick and is in financial difficulty. Her treatment is expected to last a long time and she does not have the money for this.
With these considerations Sambhali agreed to assist her financially for six months with 6000rs per month for her medical care, enabling an economically disadvantaged woman, one of our own Sambhali girls, to receive good health care and lead a healthy life.
M Domestic Violence
SK called regarding her cleaning lady M who had confided her husband was drinking too much alcohol and beating her. M lives with her in-laws and her husband who is not earning any money, only spending the money M earns for the family on alcohol. She tries to talk to him about the alcohol but he only beats her, even in public and her in-laws support him.
She does not want to go to the police as she fears living alone but is asking for help in counselling her husband.
Sambhali were able to connect M with a women’s police helpline in Jaipur who can give her advice and will also talk to her husband, and advise him if he does not comply with the help they offer him then an official complaint can be made against him.
In this way, this woman has the support to change her situation, without fear, to lead a safe life.
RY Verbal Harassment
RY called, upset because a boy she made friends with is blackmailing her to marry him.
She accepted a social media friendship request from the boy a year previously, and they had become friends, then exchanged phone numbers and started talking on the phone.
At his force, she agreed to meet him and they met a few times at a restaurant. As she got to know him, she realised he was not an educated boy, he was in fact a vagabond and she did not want to spend a life with this boy.
She was upset because she found herself in a situation completely out of hand and hadn’t confided her family.
Sambhali was able to give support and advice to go to the boys mother to explain his blackmailing and stop him, and to go to her own mother.
Thus freeing her from stress and anxiety.