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Sep 12, 2017

SOS Project update

 

Case stories

N. female 21yrs Jodhpur Child marriage

N married in 2006 when she was 10 years old and now wants a divorce. Her in-laws are living in the village and do farmwork. Her husband’s education was up to 12th class and has no job. N. is studying for a BA in English and is keen to study but her in-laws don’t want her to.  N. wants to make this child marriage void and is asking for legal assistance, so Sambhali assisted her to speak to the secretary of the legal aid authority who suggested she file a case. A lawyer was provided free of charge which is the rule in these cases where women seek to abolish their arranged child marriage.

 

R. male – Justice for his niece

On 5 June 2017, R’s niece K, and her daughter were killed in their village. K’s in-laws said it was suicide, but on 7/6/17 K’s father filed a case against K’s in-laws at the local police station. After this the police started the investigation, but now are not taking further action. K’s uncle travelled to Jodhpur to meet with the counsellor at Sambhali Trust with a file of the case. The counsellor took the number of the police who was investigating the case and spoke to him. He said that the man man accused of this murder had been arrested. The police promised that they would give full support to K’s father in this case.

 

M. Female 28 years old   Inter-caste marriage

M phoned Sambhali because her parents want her to marry a disabled man. They are against her studying, don’t let her work and torture her in many ways. She wants to marry someone her own age and whom she can understand. She said that someone wants to marry her; he is a teacher in a school. But due to his different caste, M’s parents won’t accept him and threaten to kill him. M also has a BEducation and wants to carry on with her career. She wanted advice as to what to do. Sambhali called her male friend and said that they are both adults and could get married in court/registry office if they wanted to. She suggested to consult with a lawyer to give them advice.

 

S. Female Domestic Abuse

S came into the Sambhali office with her relative. S told the counsellor that she lives in a village near Jodhpur and that she had been married for 6 years. She told that her husband drank too much alcohol and beat her. As long as she was with her husband she continued to suspect his character and he continued to abuse her. After having a son, when he was 1 year old, she went to live at her father’s house because she did not want her son to be influenced by her husband’s bad habits. Even then her husband followed her and abused her and continued to be abusive on the phone and also threatened to kill her. She said she had studied up to 12th Class and wanted to work being a teacher in a school. She said she wanted to stand on her own two feet and legally divorce her husband. That is why she came to the Sambhali office to ask for Legal Aid. Sambhali’s counsellor gave her general legal advice and spoke to a local lawyer whom then asked to see S. to provide her with legal assistance, so that she could understand the divorce process.

 

D Domestic Violence

D called up to say that his sister, S’s, husband drinks alcohol and beats her and degrades her sister’s character too. His sister is very upset. He believes his sister’s husband is having an affair with another woman. He is very worried about his sister but not want it to become a police case. Instead he wants his brother-in-law to have counselling. D asked for the HelpLine number and our counsellor gave him their local one in Jaipur.


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Jun 26, 2017

School Scholarship Update

There are 190 students being sponsored this year through our scholarship programme. The Indian school year starts in April, they then have their summer holidays from the end of May until end of June and start again on 1 July. This is the story of one of the students sponsored through the Scholarship Programme as told to our tutor Vimlesh Solanki. All the students are very grateful to all their sponsors and to those sponsoring through GlobalGiving. It really does help to improvie their lives. 

Name of student Lajwanti.

I am 17 years old. My father used to work but he never gave any money to my mother for household expenses as he used to spend it all on alcohol. My mother worked at a private job and she earned 4000rs per month, but that was not enough for running a household including me and my sister.  My father also suffered from diabetes and all he did was drink alcohol and constantly fight with us. He did not bring any food to eat for us.  After he died a few years ago, all the family’s responsibility came onto my mother’s shoulders and we had very little money. In 2013 we came to Sambhali Trust and told our story and Sambhali were able to help me and my sister, Kalyani go to school. I finished my last year of school this year and I got a final grade of 61.60%.  I am now continuing to college following my sister learning typing and computer skills. I would like to become a school teacher, but we will both get a job to help my mother and the responsibility of the family.

Jun 13, 2017

SOS Project Update

.As our counsellor Mrs Tanwar is on leave, we have not been able to get the May reports but for the months of March and April the figures are such:

Total calls – 80

Total cases – 47

Domestic Abuse – 7

Forced marriage – 1

Verbal harassment – 15

Sexual abuse - 1

Medical 8

Others 15

 

Expenditure for April and May

Kidney dialysis – 10,000 rupees

Medication for TB – 3351 rupees

Diabetes – 2642 rupees

Medical check-up – 150 rupees

Help for operation – 7000 rupees

Blood test – 500rs

 

Case Story 1

Lady called P. Age 39 years    Domestic abuse   Jodhpur

P’s husband was a hard drinker and abused her and beat her badly sometimes. He did not give P any money for the necessary needs of the family. She said that her husband also had an extra-marital affair with her elder sister and she came to know about their relationship. After that he started abusing her and stopped giving her household money.

She has 2 children, a daughter and a son. Her son doesn’t listen to her and supports his father because he gives him money to fulfil his desires. P’s parents also were not taking any notice of her story either. Nobody is talking to her and she was feeling lonely and depressed. She contacted Sambahli Trust to ask for suggestions. She didn’t want to go to the police station and didn’t want to harass her husband because she didn’t want to disturb her daughter’s studies. However due to lack of money she cannot help her daughter either.

P said she would like to earn some money to pay for the basic needs of the household. After listening to her story, Sambhali’s counsellor was able to advise her of the empowerment centres in Sambhali where they learn vocational skills in sewing and embroidery and learn to make Indian garments and accessories. After a 12 months course, she would have the skills to be able to sew at home (with a sewing machine donated by Sambhali) and start earning an income by sewing for her local community.  She has been enrolled in the Laadli Empowerment Centre in Jodhpur where she is receiving Sewing training and is now feeling better that she has a more hopeful future and the emotional support of the women in Sambhali.

 Case Story 2

Young woman aged 19 years    Sexual abuse   Jaipur

A young woman called H, phoned from Jaipur. She said that she came from Ahmedebad and is a student studying for a BTech in her 1st year at college. She told of her mother divorcing her father when she was 8 years old and married another man in Ahmedebad. H said that she never had affection towards her step-father as she grew up. He started harassing her sexually and used to touch her private parts. She told her mother but she did not say anything to her new husband and asked H. to stay quiet. Afterwards she told everything about her step-father to her maternal family but they didn’t support her stating that her stepfather was financially well off compared to them.

 So H decided to leave Ahmedebad. After finishing school she filled in the enrolment form to go to college in Jaipur. But now her parents want her to return to Ahmedebad and continue her studies there. Of course she doesn’t want to return to that life where she was harassed every day. Her parents warned her that next year they will not give her any fees and hostel expenses, so that she would have to return to Ahmedebad. She was very worried about her studies and asked Sambhali for suggestions. Mrs Tanwar, the Trust’s counsellor, suggested she share her problem with the warden of the hostel who might give a discount on her fees. Secondly she gave her the number of a Woman’s HelpLine that was actually in Jaipur that could help her and give her some financial help to finish her studies. Thirdly she suggested that she could get a part-time job in Jaipur and also gave her the contact details of an NGO in Jaipur that she could apply for a study loan.

In this way Sambhali was providing her with some options and contact details in Jaipur which she could contact to help her continue her studies.

 Case Study 3

A young man called B.  24 years old     Verbal harassment and domestic abuse   Jaipur

B called from Jaipur and said that his parents were staying locally. His mother is very much in trouble as his father is ill-treating his mother, abusing her and sometimes beating her too. The father doesn’t listen to anyone including B’s mother. B. requested that Sambhali call his father on behalf of “a women’s HelpLine” and counsel him and warn him that if he continues to ill-treat his wife, action would be taken against him. B. asked not to disclose his name whilst calling his father. Our counsellor rang the father and requested that he stop abusing his wife. After 3 days, Sambhali called B to see if his father’s behaviour had changed and and said that some of it had changed (for the better).

 Case Study 4

A young woman called N.    21 years old    Gurgaon, (Haryana)    Relationship issues

N Called from Gurgaon and said that she was in a relationship with a boy and had been living together for the last 2 years. They both had decided to get married and the the families also agreed with their relationship, despite them being from different castes. N’s boyfriend said that he wanted to get his business settled before their marriage in Chandigarh, because that’s where he came from.  So N helped him financially because she wanted to get married as soon as possible. Her boyfriend, A, went to Chandigarh and soon afterwards wasn’t taking N’s calls. After 2 months, she tried to contact him via someone else. When she finally spoke to him, she said that she was pregnant and they would have to get married, but she was shocked to hear him say that he was not ready and advised her to terminate the pregnancy. She got depressed and called his mother who then let her know that he wanted to marry someone else from Chandigarh.  She was totally shattered and couldn’t decide whether she should marry him or move on in her life or teach him a lesson. She asked Sambhali for suggestions.

Mrs Tanwar, the counsellor suggested that she move on in her life; if she forcibly married him then she may or may not remain happy in their lives together. She advised that marriage is a relationship between 2 souls based wholly on truth. As he has broken her trust, she should not continue this relationship which is not based on truth. She should move forwards in her career and terminate her pregnancy. She should try and forget this incident in her life and move positively forwards to become an empowered woman. After the counselling, she felt very relaxed. Sambhali was able to help this young woman out of her depressed state and motivated her to move on with her life.

 
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