Udayan Shalini Fellowship (USF), one of the unique programmes of Udayan Care, aims to promote and support higher education for girls from disadvantaged backgrounds to help them develop them into dignified independent young women. The fellowship ensures that the lives of the girls do not succumb to monetary hardships and they do not have to give away their most cherished dream of thinking big and making a mark for themselves. However, USF is not just envisaged as a monetary assistance programme but also, as a holistic programme of sustained mentoring support and association. The growth is fostered with continued association of mentoring, motivational workshops, and development of socially responsible behavior through awareness drives. The fellowship stands different because of its pyramidal mentoring.
The three months were filled with series of activities which included Quarterly Workshop on Resume building and Interview facing. The Inter-chapter meet that was conducted focused on brainstorming on ideas to take Udayan shalini fellowship to greater heights. Fellows participated in #every8minutes campaign, a wonderful initiative by iPartner India to mark the #World Anti Trafficking Day, which culminated at Dilli Haat!. Small group workshop conducted on Assertiveness, Developed basic understanding of Assertiveness among the girls. Workshop on domestic violence helped girls in recognizing violence in its all forms.
Details of Progress during Reporting Period
1. INTERCHAPTER MEET
It was an opportunity for all the centers of USF to come together and welcome the new addition to the USF family, Mumbai center, to meet, interact, and brainstorm over ideas to take USF to greater heights. The residence of Ms. Suresh Neotia ji, ex- trustee, played the perfect host for the two day meeting held on July 9th and 10th, 2016. Demonstrating the multiple facets of the Udayan Shalini Fellowship Program, the meet was to share and learn from each other’s innovative, successful strategies and practices.
There were individual presentations by chapters focusing on their best practices and challenges. Presentation by Mr Ashish Aggrawal (core committee members) on strengthening of mentoring program, discussion on corporate social responsibility and fundraising to strengthen the program as a whole took place.
The progress of the chapters was understood and their challenges were discussed. In totality the two day meet gave ample food for thought in terms of recommendations to address the recruitment process of Shalinis, strengthen and improve the communication between chapters, discussion on report writing and format sharing on writing effective reports, creating a standard model across all chapters, strengthening of mentoring and core committee.
All in all, the ultimate goal to replicate the unique model of the programme across chapters for qualitative improvement was held supreme. Undoubtedly, the interchapter meet was one enriching platform that brought the chapters closer.
2. RESUME WRITING AND INTERVIEW SKILLS WORKSHOP
OBJECTIVES OF THE WORKSHOP
PROCESS OF THE WORKSHOP
Objective: Member to member interaction
Activity: The workshop began with an activity asking girls to introduce themselves from initials of their name which gives a brief insight into their personalities. Shalinis gave exhilarated responses like ‘Rebellious Rakhi’ and ‘Dedicated Deepali’ which gave a glimpse into their capacious minds.
Objective: The Resume and its purpose
Trainers conducted exercise to figure out flaws from a CV sample and the Shalinis responded brilliantly, listing important points to be kept in mind.
Formatting tips to be kept in mind while creating a resume were given. It was followed by an exercise wherein girls were asked to come up with their purpose statements and strengths for the post of ‘firefighter’ or ‘teacher’ within five minutes and then present it before the fellows. These aspiring geniuses came up with diversified yet brilliant attributes leaving no doubt that they will triumph in life.
Objective: Interview skills
Moving forward, a humorous video was shown. It was followed by an impressive interview video. Trainers accentuated the fact that an interview is 40% about what you speak and 60% about your body language which should be positive and confident. An interview is a like a sales pitch. Key points like common interview questions, how to dress up for interviews, the behavioural etiquettes etc. were covered.
LEARNING AND CONCLUSIVE OUTCOME:
3. SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP
OBJECTIVE OF THE WORKSHOP:
Situation: Two young girls are waiting to catch a local auto to their college. One such vehicle arrives at the scene. However, it is extremely crowded and there is no place to sit. Though aware of this fact, the conductor propels them to take a seat, even resorting to screaming at them.
Scene 1: The girls do not say anything and the auto drives away. The girls later feel guilty to not have responded.
Scene 2: One of the girls responds saying, “Had there been space, I wouldn’t have refused. Please take the passengers safely to their destination.”
Significance of the Activity: The fellows were asked to compare the two scenes in terms of behavior and response. Most of them were convinced that the second situation turned out to be better than the first one because it is important to stand up for one’s own respect and integrity as well as others. Also, because in the second scene the girl puts forward her point of view without any hesitation, the conductor must have realized his mistake and would think twice before acting in the same manner again.
The facilitator explained that this was what she had intended to achieve from this activity- to explain them the meaning of assertiveness and to help them understand that assertive individuals are able to get their point across without upsetting others, or becoming upset themselves.
Next, they were introduced to the SIX GOLDEN RULES OF ASSERTIVENESS-
1. Decide what you feel or want and say it.
2. Maintain eye contact.
3. Do not make excuses.
4. Do not seek approval from others.
5. Do not get confused by the other person’s argument.
6. Remember you have a right to change your mind.
Further, the fellows were asked to list out some of the qualities of their favourite TV show character that made them assertive. The answers ranged from King Ashoka with his ability to present his views effectively to Tamanna, a girl who moves out of a bad marriage to pursue her childhood dream of playing professional cricket.
Two of the seven groups presented on the theme of ragging, one on gender inequality, another two on eve teasing, one on peer pressure and the last one on reservation of seats for the elderly in public transport. It was anexhilaratingexperience for everyone present, to see such fine impromptu plays been put up by these ambitious and wonderful girls in just a matter of ten minutes.
EMPHASIS OF THE WORKSHOP
The emphasis of the workshop was to instil in fellows, Self confidence and encourage them to stand up for their own or other people’s rights in a calm and positive way, without being either aggressive, or passively accepting ‘wrong’.
WHAT OUR SHALINIS UNDERSTOOD ABOUT ASSERTIVENESS
The fellows participated in #every8minutes campaign, a wonderful initiative of iPartner India to mark the #World Anti Trafficking Day, which culminated at Dilli Haat! Every eight minute a girl goes missing in our country according to NCRB reports.
To mark the anti world trafficking day, the event was organized including more people in society on the grave issue of violence country is grappling with.
Both Mehrauli Udayan Ghar girls mesmerized the audience with their performance of a patriotic mélange of songs and dances, while Udayan Shalini Fellowship, Delhi alumni girls volunteered and managed the crowds there.
Our Fellows have volunteered in the stalls and in spreading the message by managing the crowed and disseminating awareness on human trafficking, girl child trafficking particularly.
Fellows unanimously said that they were glad that they could do something for the society. Also, it was not as easy as expected to handle people and their queries. This was a learning exercise wherein they acquired the skills of interacting and handling questions of the people. Mr. Faheem also quoted that even if the efforts of each one of us could prevent one girl from missing, the campaign would be worth it.
5. SMALL GROUP WORKSHOP
Keeping in mind, the need of making fellows more aware on the issue of domestic violence, the facilitator conducted the workshop covering the topic of violence in its all forms; the violence can be classified into many forms.
The Workshop included group exercises among the fellows to build an understanding of domestic violence, followed by a discussion. Fellows were given few emotions and were asked to make a poster showcasing the negative repercussions of particular emotions associating the same with violence.
Thought provoking posters were made by girls, based on their own understanding of violence and where its forms all easily captured.
The facilitator touched briefly on all forms of abuse, in which Physical violence is the most recognizable form of violence .Many women experience domestic violence without ever being physically abused. Sometimes the victim is not sure whether what is happening is actually violence and suspect whether anyone will take them seriously or not. The others forms including physical, mental, and emotional and economics is not easily recognizable and understood sometimes by the victim itself.
The facilitator also talked briefly about the long maintained “Culture of Silence” on the issue as it is often associated with shame for the family and surroundings to which the victim is related to. The very cause of it lies in the socialization which further contributes to the cycle of violence; the fellows have also depicted their understanding on the cycle of violence via the posters they were asked to make part of group exercise.
The Facilitator also briefly touched the “Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act’ 2005”, she emphasized on Violence which arises because of the urge to control people, which is destructive and defies logic. When in the grip of it, one starts believing in the violence and at this point only dialogue and counseling helps.
This Act 2005, besides defining and providing for protection from violence, also provides for maintenance (alimony). Research has indicated that most women do not want to leave home as they are wary of the support. So “compromise” is not a bad word, it is used to suppress women.
This domestic violence Act 2005 can be used concurrently with other laws. An aggrieved woman can put up an application to the Magistrate prescribed under the Act and Rules. Safety of the aggrieved woman and decision of rightful disposal of the application comes within 6–9 months.
Communication is important. Protection should be to the extent of counseling and guiding the aggrieved party.
EMPHASIS OF THE SESSION:
v Violence is not merely physical it has it other forms also which are not often as easily recognizable as physical violence is.
Build an understanding on the cycle of violence and how important part socialization plays in it.
THE POWER OF SELF BELIEF
“The more you believe in yourself, the more the world believes in you!” ~ Isa Zapata
Hailing from a small village Mehwa, from Dausa district in Rajasthan, Neha(name changed) was born into a very conservative family that does not believe in educating girl children. Many families there do not even wish to bring a
Udayan Care had set up its first Udayan Sunshine Home for children in 1996 and created its own model of LIFE: Living in Family Environment. This model enables erstwhile children in need of Care & Protection in to grow in a loving family environment. In these homes, the children are loved and cared for by a group of Mentor Parents-socially committed individuals (volunteers) who groom the children with a team of Coordinators at homes, along with resident Care Givers, Supervisors, & Volunteers.
These homes are located in busy, middle class neighborhoods, so children can reintegrate themselves into society through direct community involvement which helps mainstreaming the children ahead. Our children and young adults are receiving quality education in some of the best educational institutions such as: The Sagar School at Tijara, Alwar, Mata Bhagwati school, Genesis Global school, Tagore International School, East of Kailash, Banyan Tree School, Global Indian International School etc and colleges/ universities like College of Vocational Studies, University of Delhi, Hi- Tech Institute of Engineering, Ghaziabad, Punjab University, Lingaya’s University etc.
Since inception Udayan Ghars have nurtured over 678 children with love, care and protection in 13 Homes across 4 states of India. Presently, there are 164 children across all homes. 28 of our young adults are also been supported through our After Care Programme.
Workshops/ Activities during the repoting period
During the reporting period our team continued working for the success of the children and program. June was fun-filled and relaxing at the same time due to the good long summer vacations. Workshops being a monthly process addressed several concerns pertaining to Children, Care-givers, Mentor Parents and Coordinators.
Workshops were held with all the program stakeholders (mentors, coordinators, caregivers, and children) in enhancing stakeholders Unmet Emotional Needs, training on maintain of stock register, adolescent sexual health issues with children, disciplinary as a concern in Ghars with mentors. During the reporting period, education and aftercare committee meetings also took place.
“Life Skills” workshops at home were also held like every other quarter which focused on various subjects like self awareness & self identity, coping with emotions, relationship building, healthy & unhealthy relationships, knowing self, decision making, stress management, healthy habits; family & community, communication and solving problem.
Shanti Home on a monthly basis conducts workshop with our girls of Greater Noida home, Uttar Pradesh. The topics covered are Anger Management, Dealing with Emotions and Tensions.
Volunteers Ms. Shobha Sharma and Ms. Priyanka Jain from Image Graph conducted workshop with children in one of our Girls home in Greater Noida, Uttar Pradesh on Etiquettes and Manners.
Safety training on fire extinguisher was given by experts in one of our Boys Home in Gurgaon.
June unites the family together by celebrating Summer Breaks in Greater Noida, Uttar Pradesh. This year Summer Camp was majorly sponsored by Indian Oil Corporation Ltd. Many corporate involvements like Genpact, Research Now helped in making it a great success. Children were engaged in different activities like Zumba, Musical Play on Jungle Book, Play for Peace which involved children in learning like skills through play way methodology, Musical Choir by Manzil, NGO, Theatre by UK Volunteers, Art & Craft and Dance Fusion. Interesting parallel sessions were also done for the caregivers on the topics Sexuality by YP Foundation and Effective Communication by Mr. Rahul & Ms. Nidhi (Home Team).
SAP organized an outing for one of our Boys home in Gurgaon, Harayana at in Ambience Mall where they enjoyed a movie and games in FUN City along with awesome lunch.
Our Girls got a good exposure of Art by visiting Kiran Naddar Museum. Four children from Sant Nagar and Mehrauli, Delhi also involved themselves in Printing Classes being organized by them in the month of August. Text 100, corporate conducted Art Sessions with Sant Nagar Girls.
Korean Culture Center conducted Poetry Sessions with our Girls in Sant Nagar, Delhi. This quarter was a good time for Sant Nagar girls as they learnt Chocolate making and Gift Box making session from people associated with House of Hope, NGO.
Mehrauli girls gave a dance performance on patriotic songs in #every8minutes campaign, a wonderful initiative of ipartner India to mark the World Anti- Trafficking Day, which culminated at Dilli Haat.
Manjeet from Noida Boys and Sonal from Greater Noida got an opportunity to explore the Teen Expedition Programme in Kullu, Himachal Pardesh.
Children from Jaipur Home participated in Art of Meditation in Vipassana Meditation Center. Girls also went to Government Grass Farm (Nursery) and planted so many plants and the mentor mother explained them the important of plants in environment.
International Volunteers Linn and Anders organized a wonderful trip for Gurgaon Boys Home to Agra.
All the Ghars celebrated Independence Day, Rakshabandhan and Janmashtami.
Artreach India started with their monthly art workshops with children from different Homes - Mayur Vihar, Sant Nagar, Noida Girls and Greater Noida Home.
The achievements and awards are a never ending process for Udayan Family:
Nisha (Name Changed), is a street child who was brought to Udayan Care by a police officer on late evening of 15th January 2016. The home staff couldn’t interact much with the child as she could not speak apart from a few words like “Nisha, Babu, Ghaur, Amma, Alla.”
Communication was the biggest hindrance between the home staff and the child. Despite all the challenges the staff at home gave her extra care and attention to develop a bond with her.
Slowly & gradually, the child started learned and developed eating skills, improved her vocabulary and also learnt several social skills simply by imitating other kids at home.
Today, after 6 months, the child is studying in special school of National Institute for Mental Health.
The love, support and care from the Home staff and mentor mothers has made her confident and cheerful child.
About Udayan Care
Udayan Care is a Public Charitable Trust, working for the last 22 years, for the quality care of disadvantaged children and women.
Vision: To Regenerate the Rhythm of Life of the Disadvantaged
Theory of Change:“There are millions of orphaned and abandoned children in India; in addition, girls from weaker sections of society do not get an equal opportunity to continue their education; professional skills and attitude are lacking among disadvantaged communities to become economically self reliant”.
Udayan Care provides homes to orphaned children while also giving girls financial and development support to continue higher education, and communities to train themselves in vocations, by engaging socially committed individuals, who provide a transformative, nurturing and mentoring environment, to help them realize their full potential.
A nurturing home for every orphaned child, an opportunity for higher education for every girl and for every adult, the dignity of self-reliance and the desire to give back to society.
About the Program
There is a growing demand for Information Technology and vocational training among the poor urban and rural communities including communities around our Udayan homes. We have also found the use of computer and IT vitally important in our counseling programmes for the children of Udayan Homes. Thus, the project intends to focus on mixed communities; communities who are located around our Udayan Homes and those in the densely populated clusters of slums, resettlement colonies and other low income settlements by setting up IT & VT centers for imparting Information Technology and vocational skills training.
Program Vision To broaden horizons and bring IT close to the lives of underserved rural and urban communities in Delhi and NCR, and thus empower them for greater job prospects
Target Group & Reach
Poor urban/ slum communities, especially women, adolescent, children of Delhi and NCR
Unique aspects of the Program
Updates from This Quarter
World Environment Day – 5th June 2016
World Environment Day is observed every year on 5thJune to raise global awareness to take positive environmental action to protect nature and the planet Earth. It is run by the United Nations Environment Programme (UNEP) & ‘World Environment Day’ is the United Nations most important day for encouraging worldwide awareness and action for the protection of our environment. To mark this day, Sahibabad center staff decided to organize a “tree Plantation drive”. We motivated the students to plant more and more trees in order to make the surroundings green. Our students planted few tree nearby our center.
Mr Nitin kumar, owner of advertising company (Brightwaay-South Delhi), visited the centre along with his HR team member; they checked students designing work and appreciated the same. He was kind enough to offer internship to 9 of our students in his company, with a good stipend amount to be paid to each student. After completing one month internship successfully, 6 students got the opportunity to work with Brightwaay, as a designing executive.
Confidence building workshop with “Text 100”
For holistic development of students, we have continuously worked to find external experts from the relevant industry. Text 100 is working as a global integrated communications agency, which connected with IT program 2 Months ago. 4 Volunteers took weekly sessions to polish our student’s communication skills & help them to build their confidence in order to ensure a bright career for them..
80 students attended the weekly workshops which were conducted by Text 100 volunteers. During these workshops, volunteers conducted role playing activities, group discussions, general question answer round, talked about likes & dislikes etc.
With the reference of an employee of Udayan Care, Sahil(name changed) connected with Youth Leadership Centre. Almost one year had passed since Sahil had completed his graduation from Rohilkhand University, UP. When the Udayan Care's employee heard his story, he suggested Sahil to join the Youth Leadership Program to make a career in the field of Graphic Designing.
Sahil belongs to Bareli, UP. His father runs a small grocery shop to bear his household expenses, near a mosque close to his house. Sahil shifted to Delhi at his cousin’s place in Okhla, Delhi. There are many reasons why he came to the capital. Despite of being a graduate, he could not get a job in his home town and things were going from bad to worse. He joined the Youth Leadership Centre to learn the Graphic & Print Design course along with soft skills training. He is a reserved and quite natured guy. He did not speak too much in the class. He took this course seriously and performed very well while he prepared designs to use Adobe software. Sahil had never seen big dreams as he never had enough exposure to the opportunities that are made available as one steps out into the real world. He always said, “I need a platform to prove myself professionally and earn enough to support my family & sustain myself in Delhi.” Sahil successfully completed his course, & earned an internship in one of the esteemed organizations in the field of Graphic design. He has completed a 1 month internship in the McCann world group, Kalka Ji, Delhi, and also received a good stipend. After completion of his internship, he received an opportunity to work as a Graphic Designer with a good entry level salary package.
Family's Feedback- Sahil’s father said, "He is a quiet and simple person. Sometimes, it scares us to think if he would be able to sustain himself in a big city like Delhi. But so far, Sahil has managed everything very well and after seeing his success, we are extremely proud.
Employer's feedback: - His employer said, Sahil speaks less but his work cannot be measured as less. He is a dedicated and hardworking person.