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Sara through she had met the man of her dreams through an on-line dating site. After a few months, he invited her to London, paid for her ticket, and all of her expenses for one week. He was a good dresser, dynamic and fun. She returned home and they continued to date on-line for six more months. He visited her in the USA, met her family and proposed. Sara quit her job, married him and moved to London with her daughter within one month, about one year since they first met on-line.

They lived in a beautiful apartment in Kensington. He worked all day, Sara's daughter was in school all day and Sara became bored. When she asked him if she could work, he told her there was no need, he was wealthy and she didn't need to work. She suggested volunteering so she could make friends. He came close to her, gently stroked her hair, and whispered, "I am the only person that matters in your life." It gave her chills.

After that she wasn't allowed to leave the apartment without him. He had security cameras outside the front door so he would see her if she left the flat. He took her daughter to school every day and picked her up. He allowed Sara to speak to her mother every Sunday but he listened to every word. She had no money, credit cards and he had taken their American passports. He didn't yell at her, or hit her. He was always very calm and calculated except when she didn't want to have sex. He would firmly put his hand around her neck and say "Bad things will happen if you resist."

Once day Sara took her chances. She ran out the front door, to her daughter's school, picked her up and ran to a hotel. She begged the hotel staff to help her. They put her in the hotel for one night. Sara searched the internet and called us. Those 30 minutes changed Sara's life. We were able to extend her stay in the hotel, help her get her and her daughter replacement passports, airline tickets back to the USA, and an attorney so she could file for divorce.

Thank you for donating life saving minutes to American mothers in crisis overseas! The AODVC Team

Pam's husband came home, began screaming at her, pushed her against the wall several times, kicked her when she fell to the ground and raped her. This had happened several times over the past year. Every time her husband would  cry, say he was sorry, beg for her forgiveness and promise it wouldn't happen again. This time, after his apologies, she waited until he was asleeep, and snuck out of the house with her son and daughter. She called a friend of hers that lives outside of Rome. When Pam called us she was hiding at her friend's house. She was terrified and didn't know what to do. One of our advocates helped Pam understand her options and set into motion a plan to get them to safety. Pam has since left her husband and is living back in the USA, with her children.

Because of donations like yours, battered American mothers receive life saving minutes on the international toll free hotline, 866-USWOMEN.

We can't thank you enough for believing in our mission and in helping American victims abroad!

Becky called our crisis line last month terrified, in fear of her life. Marie, one of our case managers, was able to conduct a lethality assessment with Becky, helping Becky realize she needed to get out of the house immediately with her daughter, Emma. Marie got them into a hotel room for the night.

That night, when her husband came home and found Becky and Emma gone, he went into a violent rage, destroying Becky's clothes and personal belongings. He left messages on her voice mail threatening to kill her and Emma if he found them. She turned over the messages to the police. Becky and Emma are in a safe place and we are working on getting them home to the USA.

"If I hadn't gotten out of the house, he would have killed me. I was paralized with fear. You don't know how much it meant to me to speak to Marie. I think she saved my life."

We want to thank you for your donation to this project. Every year hundreds of battered American mothers call our crisis center for help. This Mother's Day, if you are able, please consider another donation to this project to help keep our crisis line operating 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

We wish you and the mothers in your life a very Happy Mother's Day.

Because of you, 502 battered mothers were able to call our crisis line in 2013. Total incoming communications were 3005. The 15 countries with the most incoming communications: United Kingdom, Pakistan, Croatia, Denmark, France, South Korea, Barbados, Australia, Switzerland, Saudi Arabia, Germany, Thailand, Italy, Egypt and the Czech Republic.

Donating to pay for minutes for battered mothers on our international toll free crisis line is life saving for victims in crisis.

I personally know how important your donations are to victims in need. If you are interested in learning more about why I founded the Americans Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center, you can read the first chapter of my memoir for free at www.harvestingstonesbook.com

I can't thank you enough for chosing our project to donate to on Global Giving. Warmest wishes always, Paula

This year we are once again looking at a record number of calls coming in via the international toll free crisis line, 866-USWOMEN.

Once of these victims is Remia. She called the crisis center in the middle of the night our time from a hospital bed. Remia sustained severe injuries from her husband. Because of donations to this program, Remia was able to speak to an AODVC advocate for over an hour, the only light in the darkness of the worst moment of her life. Since then we have gotten Remia back home safely with her daughter to the USA. This is possible because of the donations received giving battered mothers minutes on the crisis line with a trained advocate or case manager.

Remia is only on of the nearly 600 victims that contact us in desperation each year. Minutes For Moms helps save lives, one battered mother at a time.

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Paula Lucas

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Portland, Oregon United States

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